Engaged May 2003 Married June 2005 TTC #1 since October 2014 H-1% morph, low motility, low count Me-.1 AMH levels, low AFC, DOR/POI, perimenopause Foster Care journey begins March 2016-licensed 11/7/16 Foster parents to A & J 1/31/17 www.fertilityfriend.com/home/5525ef
Engaged May 2003 Married June 2005 TTC #1 since October 2014 H-1% morph, low motility, low count Me-.1 AMH levels, low AFC, DOR/POI, perimenopause Foster Care journey begins March 2016-licensed 11/7/16 Foster parents to A & J 1/31/17 www.fertilityfriend.com/home/5525ef
Glad you're starting to feel a little better, kayladawn91.
I slept in and am I'm watching Troop Beverly Hills while I drink my coffee. Tonight we've got a family dinner to celebrate my dad and brother's birthdays.
This is going to be a little bit AW and wanting to throat punch post......
TL:DR: friends want to make sure we aren't rushing into foster care after IF
Yesterday one of my best friend and I were together shopping while our H's worked on a project together. Both of them talked to us separately but wants to make sure we are in the right place to do fostering after our diagnosis of IF and not being able to have biological children.
While I get what they are saying (one found in person counseling places we could go to for support, one suggested waiting until we get approved for a house and move since we don't"have the tradtional time table") I feel like by starting the training and doing this...this is my/our way to move forward and deal with IF as best as we can.
Is it always going to hurt...yes but I can't keep spinning my wheels not doing something either.
Engaged May 2003 Married June 2005 TTC #1 since October 2014 H-1% morph, low motility, low count Me-.1 AMH levels, low AFC, DOR/POI, perimenopause Foster Care journey begins March 2016-licensed 11/7/16 Foster parents to A & J 1/31/17 www.fertilityfriend.com/home/5525ef
butlerfan, how close are you to these friends? Like, I'd trust you to take amazing care of my pets and house if I was OOT friends or I'd trust you to make my dinner for a night friends? Casual or like brother/sister friends?
They are like brothers and sisters to us...they actually set us up together.
I know they are doing it with the best of intentions but I think we just need to show /tell them we have spent plenty of nights crying, discussing, weighing our options, praying, etc of what we should, could, would do.
I don't think they know how much we have talked about it.
Engaged May 2003 Married June 2005 TTC #1 since October 2014 H-1% morph, low motility, low count Me-.1 AMH levels, low AFC, DOR/POI, perimenopause Foster Care journey begins March 2016-licensed 11/7/16 Foster parents to A & J 1/31/17 www.fertilityfriend.com/home/5525ef
Engaged May 2003 Married June 2005 TTC #1 since October 2014 H-1% morph, low motility, low count Me-.1 AMH levels, low AFC, DOR/POI, perimenopause Foster Care journey begins March 2016-licensed 11/7/16 Foster parents to A & J 1/31/17 www.fertilityfriend.com/home/5525ef
Engaged May 2003 Married June 2005 TTC #1 since October 2014 H-1% morph, low motility, low count Me-.1 AMH levels, low AFC, DOR/POI, perimenopause Foster Care journey begins March 2016-licensed 11/7/16 Foster parents to A & J 1/31/17 www.fertilityfriend.com/home/5525ef
+whatever to everything W has said. They do sound like they care, which is awesome. But,butlerfan, I totally get needing to vent about it. I would have a "do you think that hasn't occurred to us?" moment.
We're home and H is outside mowing/moving logs/whatever it is he does out there. I'm supposed to be cleaning, but I sat down for a moment and now there's a cat on me. Hm.
Post by peaseblossom55 on Mar 20, 2016 13:30:18 GMT -5
butlerfan, I wish I had some better advice, PP gave some great help. Only you & your H can know what is right and comfortable for you. Personally I'm a planner and a fixer so I like to come up with plans and solutions to problems.
Old navy customer service is the worst. They are so slow. I have been waiting in line for 5 minutes, there are 5 registers open, and the line hasn't moved. I don't think they are in any hurry to get to the extremely long line of customers. The line is now about 12 customers long and starting to weave out into the racks of clothes.
butlerfan, your friends sound well-meaning, but I totally get that it's not what you want to hear. IMO, full speed ahead with fostering. I'd do it today if H were on board.
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