Post by wannabmama on Mar 23, 2016 16:07:35 GMT -5
My boss just emailed and offered for me to stay longer bc another partner at the firm needs help for another month or more. It's always nice to keep the paycheck and health insurance of course...but...it means I'll lose my office space (was going to go out on my own possibly and literally just signed the lease, but did put in an opt out provision so I can break it within a month and only lose one month rent) and have to stay in this awkward limbo another month + at the current job. MH wants me to collect the $ and he's totally right, it's the right thing to do...but I'm just so bummed, too, I'm ready to get out of there. But...it's like a gift of a few $$ and there will be other offices... I realize this sounds obnoxious when I type it...but y'all have heard me miserable about this job for so long, you will hopefully understand where I'm coming from.
TTC since July 2014. CP March 2015. IVF #1 March 2016, 5R, 3M, 2F with ICSI. Transferred 2 on day 3. CP. Surprise BFP and then CP August 2016 (prep cycle for IVF). IVF #2: zero eggs retrieved IVF #3: 6R, 5M, 5F, 3 (2 8A and 1 11A) transferred, one "B" graded embryo frozen on day 5. BFP (at home 7dp3dt, confirmed 14dp3dt with 1552 beta) and U/S at 5w5d, 2 sacs and 2 yolks!
My boss just emailed and offered for me to stay longer bc another partner at the firm needs help for another month or more. It's always nice to keep the paycheck and health insurance of course...but...it means I'll lose my office space (was going to go out on my own possibly and literally just signed the lease, but did put in an opt out provision so I can break it within a month and only lose one month rent) and have to stay in this awkward limbo another month + at the current job. MH wants me to collect the $ and he's totally right, it's the right thing to do...but I'm just so bummed, too, I'm ready to get out of there. But...it's like a gift of a few $$ and there will be other offices... I realize this sounds obnoxious when I type it...but y'all have heard me miserable about this job for so long, you will hopefully understand where I'm coming from.
Your boss is a huge asshole for keeping you. You aren't good to keep permanently, but in a bind they'll keep you?! That is so rude!
I totally understand needing the paycheck though. Good luck with your decision!
My boss just emailed and offered for me to stay longer bc another partner at the firm needs help for another month or more. It's always nice to keep the paycheck and health insurance of course...but...it means I'll lose my office space (was going to go out on my own possibly and literally just signed the lease, but did put in an opt out provision so I can break it within a month and only lose one month rent) and have to stay in this awkward limbo another month + at the current job. MH wants me to collect the $ and he's totally right, it's the right thing to do...but I'm just so bummed, too, I'm ready to get out of there. But...it's like a gift of a few $$ and there will be other offices... I realize this sounds obnoxious when I type it...but y'all have heard me miserable about this job for so long, you will hopefully understand where I'm coming from.
Your boss is a huge asshole for keeping you. You aren't good to keep permanently, but in a bind they'll keep you?! That is so rude!
I totally understand needing the paycheck though. Good luck with your decision!
Post by wannabmama on Mar 23, 2016 16:28:40 GMT -5
Thanks requiressnacks and @ohinvertedworld I'm glad you get where I'm coming from! I couldn't quite articulate why I was annoyed but you both nailed it.
The partner asking for me to stay is the one woman I really like who is offering to help me with references and making contacts, so I feel better about staying and helping her...but it is still so f-ing awkward.
TTC since July 2014. CP March 2015. IVF #1 March 2016, 5R, 3M, 2F with ICSI. Transferred 2 on day 3. CP. Surprise BFP and then CP August 2016 (prep cycle for IVF). IVF #2: zero eggs retrieved IVF #3: 6R, 5M, 5F, 3 (2 8A and 1 11A) transferred, one "B" graded embryo frozen on day 5. BFP (at home 7dp3dt, confirmed 14dp3dt with 1552 beta) and U/S at 5w5d, 2 sacs and 2 yolks!
Post by requiressnacks on Mar 23, 2016 16:29:46 GMT -5
wannabmama, is there the possibility that it could turn into a permanent thing with this one partner? Might be worth staying on a couple extra months to find out.
wannabmama, is there the possibility that it could turn into a permanent thing with this one partner? Might be worth staying on a couple extra months to find out.
I can't stay there, the firm is too small so I can't really just work with her and I really just hate the boss (as a boss, that is, he's an ok guy) and I just don't like the place overall. But...she definitely has connections for me to find a good next position and/or she would be the type to refer work to me if I was on my own. She's a good person to have on my side either way. I said I'd stay, just that I was interviewing so if something comes up if give two weeks notice. Then he mentioned he'd be a reference for me for jobs and said the motion I just drafted was great...wtf. I just don't get that place at all.
TTC since July 2014. CP March 2015. IVF #1 March 2016, 5R, 3M, 2F with ICSI. Transferred 2 on day 3. CP. Surprise BFP and then CP August 2016 (prep cycle for IVF). IVF #2: zero eggs retrieved IVF #3: 6R, 5M, 5F, 3 (2 8A and 1 11A) transferred, one "B" graded embryo frozen on day 5. BFP (at home 7dp3dt, confirmed 14dp3dt with 1552 beta) and U/S at 5w5d, 2 sacs and 2 yolks!
Thanks requiressnacks and @ohinvertedworld I'm glad you get where I'm coming from! I couldn't quite articulate why I was annoyed but you both nailed it.
The partner asking for me to stay is the one woman I really like who is offering to help me with references and making contacts, so I feel better about staying and helping her...but it is still so f-ing awkward.
wannabmama, is there the possibility that it could turn into a permanent thing with this one partner? Might be worth staying on a couple extra months to find out.
I can't stay there, the firm is too small so I can't really just work with her and I really just hate the boss (as a boss, that is, he's an ok guy) and I just don't like the place overall. But...she definitely has connections for me to find a good next position and/or she would be the type to refer work to me if I was on my own. She's a good person to have on my side either way. I said I'd stay, just that I was interviewing so if something comes up if give two weeks notice. Then he mentioned he'd be a reference for me for jobs and said the motion I just drafted was great...wtf. I just don't get that place at all.
You seem to handle all this with grace! Kudos! I hope that lady can be of help to you in the future for this favor. Extra $$$ is always nice but I totally get why you're uncomfortable about it.
Post by wannabmama on Mar 23, 2016 16:47:23 GMT -5
littlelion luckily the office space lease is really cheap...I'm just sad to lose out on the space of I don't know what I'm going to do by the time the opt-out expires. But...it more than makes up for the money lost there that I can keep my insurance long enough to do another IVF cycle if we have to. That alone makes sticking out another month worth it.
TTC since July 2014. CP March 2015. IVF #1 March 2016, 5R, 3M, 2F with ICSI. Transferred 2 on day 3. CP. Surprise BFP and then CP August 2016 (prep cycle for IVF). IVF #2: zero eggs retrieved IVF #3: 6R, 5M, 5F, 3 (2 8A and 1 11A) transferred, one "B" graded embryo frozen on day 5. BFP (at home 7dp3dt, confirmed 14dp3dt with 1552 beta) and U/S at 5w5d, 2 sacs and 2 yolks!
littlelion luckily the office space lease is really cheap...I'm just sad to lose out on the space of I don't know what I'm going to do by the time the opt-out expires. But...it more than makes up for the money lost there that I can keep my insurance long enough to do another IVF cycle if we have to. That alone makes sticking out another month worth it.
Can you keep paying the rent and build it into your salary there so you don't lose the space?
Post by wannabmama on Mar 23, 2016 16:57:42 GMT -5
mill23 yeah, I have a month to decide what to do about the space, so I can figure out whether it still looks like I'm going out on my own or something else. The space is so cheap if I got a job that paid decently well I might actually keep it anyway just to have a convenient "home" office for H and I, we both could use a space like that from time to time.
TTC since July 2014. CP March 2015. IVF #1 March 2016, 5R, 3M, 2F with ICSI. Transferred 2 on day 3. CP. Surprise BFP and then CP August 2016 (prep cycle for IVF). IVF #2: zero eggs retrieved IVF #3: 6R, 5M, 5F, 3 (2 8A and 1 11A) transferred, one "B" graded embryo frozen on day 5. BFP (at home 7dp3dt, confirmed 14dp3dt with 1552 beta) and U/S at 5w5d, 2 sacs and 2 yolks!
wannabmama that is annoying and prolonging the awkwardness isn't fun but I hope the extra time helps you better figure out the next steps and ends up being a really good thing.
Post by jubilantsquirrel on Mar 23, 2016 17:53:13 GMT -5
wannabmama have you talked to the partner that you'd be helping about you going out on your own? She seems really supportive of you, maybe if you talked to her you two could work something out to where you're still working for her and still get the pay and benefits but also have time to get the ball rolling on your own deal. Maybe something like that so you don't have to put your new adventure on the back burner and lose out on that awesome office space.
I really have no idea what I'm talking about so I hope that made sense.
Post by wannabmama on Mar 23, 2016 17:56:41 GMT -5
jubilantsquirrel that's exactly what I'm hoping! ...I haven't told her about my plan, yet. But I'm hoping that something like that will work out. I just need to find a good time to broach the topic and figure out the best way to make something work. There are complications with conflicts and malpractice insurance and such in law practice, but there might be something we could work out.
TTC since July 2014. CP March 2015. IVF #1 March 2016, 5R, 3M, 2F with ICSI. Transferred 2 on day 3. CP. Surprise BFP and then CP August 2016 (prep cycle for IVF). IVF #2: zero eggs retrieved IVF #3: 6R, 5M, 5F, 3 (2 8A and 1 11A) transferred, one "B" graded embryo frozen on day 5. BFP (at home 7dp3dt, confirmed 14dp3dt with 1552 beta) and U/S at 5w5d, 2 sacs and 2 yolks!
shopgirl24 , a cherry limeade is just sprite with cherry syrup and some limes dropped in.
Yup. I worked at Sonic for a summer and that is exactly how cherry limeades are made. Plus a maraschino cherry if the car hop is feeling generous and/or remembers.
jubilantsquirrel that's exactly what I'm hoping! ...I haven't told her about my plan, yet. But I'm hoping that something like that will work out. I just need to find a good time to broach the topic and figure out the best way to make something work. There are complications with conflicts and malpractice insurance and such in law practice, but there might be something we could work out.
I can only imagine how complicated the law field is. I hope you're able to get everything you want/need!
Post by wildflower810 on Mar 23, 2016 18:40:47 GMT -5
And that's what I get for not reading the whole thread before commenting...
wannabmama, that's a difficult situation. Being strung along for one just a little bit longer at a dead end job is no good. But... having medical coverage in the hopefully unlikely event of another IVF cycle makes that decision hard. What does your gut say?
Post by wannabmama on Mar 23, 2016 18:44:00 GMT -5
wildflower810 I think I'm just going to take his offer, it's a humbling position, but I just can't turn down the $. If I get another job instead, I warned him he would just get two weeks' notice.
TTC since July 2014. CP March 2015. IVF #1 March 2016, 5R, 3M, 2F with ICSI. Transferred 2 on day 3. CP. Surprise BFP and then CP August 2016 (prep cycle for IVF). IVF #2: zero eggs retrieved IVF #3: 6R, 5M, 5F, 3 (2 8A and 1 11A) transferred, one "B" graded embryo frozen on day 5. BFP (at home 7dp3dt, confirmed 14dp3dt with 1552 beta) and U/S at 5w5d, 2 sacs and 2 yolks!
wannabmama, not obnoxious at all! I would be bummed too, and it's assy as hell for him to jerk you around like that. I 100% understand going for the paycheck (and health insurance) but you're entitled to some displeasure here. I hope you end up exactly where you want to be.
I went to yoga and it made me all feelingy. Good thing I don't plan on drinking tonight, you guys would get emotional!icedtea.
Post by wildflower810 on Mar 23, 2016 19:18:50 GMT -5
I'm wrapping H's birthday present. It's a game expansion to his favorite board game. He would know what it was instantly by the size and shape of the box... so I opened the box, took out all the game pieces, stuffed them in a manila envelope, and am wrapping that. I feel so sneaky.
Post by peaseblossom55 on Mar 23, 2016 20:03:48 GMT -5
I had the RE consult this evening we waited forever. H and I ordered dominoes for dinner I didn't cook. I hate pizza and bread bites no fucks were given about carbs.
I had the RE consult this evening we waited forever. H and I ordered dominoes for dinner I didn't cook. I hate pizza and bread bites no fucks were given about carbs.
ladytiffany24, what have y'all had to do this morning?
We did a human bingo game, a transformers exercise (everyone had to work together to form the shape of an A, a zipper that zips and unzips, then a star), a "fishbowl" exercise where volunteers were placed in the center of the circle assigned certain "roles" (cheery positive person, pity party person, bossy boss, etc), and several other discussion driven exercises. There were 2 sessions (1 in the morning and 1 in the afternoon...3 hours a piece). Both sessions were the same exercises but with different people. It was completely exhausting. But actually more fun than I expected.
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