I had he worst pap smear of my life yesterday. My doctor was apparently training a medical student and let him do my exam. It was... not fun to say the least. I'm pretty sure it was his first exam and it was the most awkward, uncomfortable thing I've ever done. He was super nervous and tried to put a dry fucking speculum in my vagina. The doctor was barely paying attention but thank god he turned around when he did to remind him to put some lube on it. And then when it was finally over the doctor had to recheck so I got to do it all over again. I felt like a science experiment. Truly fucking awful experience.
I know they have to learn but DNW.
They asked me if I wouldn't mind if he was in the room during the exam but they didn't say he was going to be doing it. I didn't mind him being there because like you said, they have to learn somehow. But ugh, never again.
TTC #1 since August 2013 DX: Endo November 2014: Hysteroscopy, D&C June - September 2015: Clomid + Novarel + IUI #1-3 January 2017: Laparoscopy - endo removed
lilsneezy that totally sucks. Sorry your pap was awkward and uncomfortable. C'mon dude, you should know that vaginas (and penises) need lube whether you went to medical school or not.
lilsneezy, right.....I mean when I had my consult with new RE they asked if it was ok for the student to be in there. I figured it wasn't going to be good because of various signs along with the ultrasound but I figured she can deal with a bubbling idiot. She has to learn sometime. But she wasn't the one giving me the news.
But have him watch for the first few at least (or tell you he is going to be doing it not just observing)
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mosdub I don't know what was worse, the dry speculum or the awkward eye contact we made when I left the exam room.
butlerfan Yeah I felt like it was a bait and switch. On the bright side, my doctor put in an order for my CD3 bloodwork so I'm happy about that! I'm going to try to forget about everything else. I just hope the med student learned something from it (like to use lube next time).
TTC #1 since August 2013 DX: Endo November 2014: Hysteroscopy, D&C June - September 2015: Clomid + Novarel + IUI #1-3 January 2017: Laparoscopy - endo removed
lilsneezy that's awful! Learning is all well and good, but the doctor should have been upfront, and paying way more attention. Good luck with the bloodwork.
I spent much of the morning at the doctor for this stupid UTI/whatever it is. I'm on antibiotics for now and they want to do an ultrasound next week. I am so crampy and uncomfortable.
I was never really into coffee, but I love it now. I'll probably be making some soon, actually. Decaf only, though. Tea is also splendid.
Trying to clean a ton before H gets home from work but I think I might be making a bigger mess.
Sorry - rant below... loss mentioned: I went through my clothes and put all the winter stuff away, pulled out the summer stuff, and made a big donation/consignment pile. Along the way I accidentally uncovered some maternity pants. Whatever, put them back in the bin. Now I'm going through books and I pulled out 2 of my pregnancy books. One of my friends who has been struggling with IF and other health issues just told me last night she's pregnant (!!!) and I offered to give her my books if she was interested - she said she would love to read them but didn't want to ask me. I was fine about it last night but now I'm having all the fucking feels. GDI. Not feelings of jealousy or anything, just thoughts bringing me back to the loss.
End rant.
Thinking I'll do a run through the slippery roads to do a big ole donation and then come home and have myself a drink before deep cleaning more stuff
Trying to clean a ton before H gets home from work but I think I might be making a bigger mess.
Sorry - rant below... loss mentioned: I went through my clothes and put all the winter stuff away, pulled out the summer stuff, and made a big donation/consignment pile. Along the way I accidentally uncovered some maternity pants. Whatever, put them back in the bin. Now I'm going through books and I pulled out 2 of my pregnancy books. One of my friends who has been struggling with IF and other health issues just told me last night she's pregnant (!!!) and I offered to give her my books if she was interested - she said she would love to read them but didn't want to ask me. I was fine about it last night but now I'm having all the fucking feels. GDI. Not feelings of jealousy or anything, just thoughts bringing me back to the loss.
End rant.
Thinking I'll do a run through the slippery roads to do a big ole donation and then come home and have myself a drink before deep cleaning more stuff
They asked me if I wouldn't mind if he was in the room during the exam but they didn't say he was going to be doing it. I didn't mind him being there because like you said, they have to learn somehow. But ugh, never again.
I am so sorry you had to deal with that! I would have died! DNW a virgin up in me vag, for any purpose. They can learn on Michelle Duggar or some one else with a double digit amount of kids. The speculum is probably just a formality for her, I am sure the good doc can stick his whole arm up there no prob.
July 2013 started TTC 7/20/2014=BFP; CP confirmed 8/1/2014 Dec 2014: Diagnosis = Unexplained IF 12/24/2014 Medicated TI (clomid)=BFN 1/22/2015: IUI #1 cancelled due to cyst 02/17/2015: IUI #2 cancelled due to another cyst 3/31/2015: IUI with Femera, 1 good follie, great sperm count = CP, my December Rainbow became an Angel
They asked me if I wouldn't mind if he was in the room during the exam but they didn't say he was going to be doing it. I didn't mind him being there because like you said, they have to learn somehow. But ugh, never again.
I am so sorry you had to deal with that! I would have died! DNW a virgin up in me vag, for any purpose. They can learn on Michelle Duggar or some one else with a double digit amount of kids. The speculum is probably just a formality for her, I am sure the good doc can stick his whole arm up there no prob.
TTC #1 since August 2013 DX: Endo November 2014: Hysteroscopy, D&C June - September 2015: Clomid + Novarel + IUI #1-3 January 2017: Laparoscopy - endo removed
TTC #1 since August 2013 DX: Endo November 2014: Hysteroscopy, D&C June - September 2015: Clomid + Novarel + IUI #1-3 January 2017: Laparoscopy - endo removed
Trying to clean a ton before H gets home from work but I think I might be making a bigger mess.
Sorry - rant below... loss mentioned: I went through my clothes and put all the winter stuff away, pulled out the summer stuff, and made a big donation/consignment pile. Along the way I accidentally uncovered some maternity pants. Whatever, put them back in the bin. Now I'm going through books and I pulled out 2 of my pregnancy books. One of my friends who has been struggling with IF and other health issues just told me last night she's pregnant (!!!) and I offered to give her my books if she was interested - she said she would love to read them but didn't want to ask me. I was fine about it last night but now I'm having all the fucking feels. GDI. Not feelings of jealousy or anything, just thoughts bringing me back to the loss.
End rant.
Thinking I'll do a run through the slippery roads to do a big ole donation and then come home and have myself a drink before deep cleaning more stuff
I am so sorry You definitely deserve a drink, or 3 I have a copy of What to Expect When You Are Expecting, H hid it in the bottom drawer of his night stand so I dont have to see it and have a break down. But I saw it when we moved and it totally set me off. I should just donate it, but there is that part of me that thinks I might get a miracle one day. Giving stuff like that away makes me feel like I am giving up on the dream.
July 2013 started TTC 7/20/2014=BFP; CP confirmed 8/1/2014 Dec 2014: Diagnosis = Unexplained IF 12/24/2014 Medicated TI (clomid)=BFN 1/22/2015: IUI #1 cancelled due to cyst 02/17/2015: IUI #2 cancelled due to another cyst 3/31/2015: IUI with Femera, 1 good follie, great sperm count = CP, my December Rainbow became an Angel
H and I are going to a movie tonight and getting dinner before. I texted him 3 options and told him to narrow it down that it was his turn to pick.
This is going to end one of two ways. He'll pick the place that we always go to or I'll pick a place we haven't tried yet and he will complain the whole time.
Married 10/10/10! TTC Baby #1 since April 2014 BFP Oct 16 - EP terminated Nov 6 2014 Off the Bench January 2015! BFP #2 June 1 2015 - EDD Feb 12 2016! Baby Boy born 15th February 2016!
July 2013 started TTC 7/20/2014=BFP; CP confirmed 8/1/2014 Dec 2014: Diagnosis = Unexplained IF 12/24/2014 Medicated TI (clomid)=BFN 1/22/2015: IUI #1 cancelled due to cyst 02/17/2015: IUI #2 cancelled due to another cyst 3/31/2015: IUI with Femera, 1 good follie, great sperm count = CP, my December Rainbow became an Angel
rooskie that kind of thing drives me crazy. I was out with my SIL and she was hungry - I asked her what she wanted and she said "anything". So I said "how about pizza?" and she said "ugh, I don't really want pizza."
We are going to see Risen. We wanted to see it when it came out but have been busy. We can't make it to the Maundy Thursday service at our church so we figured it would be a good trade off.
Post by wannabmama on Mar 24, 2016 12:48:51 GMT -5
mosdub I'm so sorry. I hate the unexpected emotions the worst. I'll be totally fine about 99 possible triggers and then one just sneaks up and bites me.
TTC since July 2014. CP March 2015. IVF #1 March 2016, 5R, 3M, 2F with ICSI. Transferred 2 on day 3. CP. Surprise BFP and then CP August 2016 (prep cycle for IVF). IVF #2: zero eggs retrieved IVF #3: 6R, 5M, 5F, 3 (2 8A and 1 11A) transferred, one "B" graded embryo frozen on day 5. BFP (at home 7dp3dt, confirmed 14dp3dt with 1552 beta) and U/S at 5w5d, 2 sacs and 2 yolks!
TTC #1 since August 2013 DX: Endo November 2014: Hysteroscopy, D&C June - September 2015: Clomid + Novarel + IUI #1-3 January 2017: Laparoscopy - endo removed
ohinvrtedworld I finally used my Tony Moly foot mask! And I realized I don't have the same one as you, I have the "Changing U Magic Foot Peeling Shoes." I did it the night before last and don't see any signs of peeling yet. I'm going to try the soaking thing you mentioned, but I have a feeling it's not going to work
TTC #1 since August 2013 DX: Endo November 2014: Hysteroscopy, D&C June - September 2015: Clomid + Novarel + IUI #1-3 January 2017: Laparoscopy - endo removed
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