I actually slept through the night last night for the first time in weeks. I feel awesome this morning. (Of course I got up several times to pee but I fell right back to sleep instead of staying up for hours)
Well ladies... the placenta accreta was confirmed again today. For sure no travel. This baby is coming the week of May 23. I am taking my boards that day so probably the day after. We have one more scan on the 26 of April to do more planning. But, the section will be in the main OR, multiple surgeons, and be prepared for a hysterectomy.
MH was optimistic the last two months. He got blindsided today. He is frustrated about the baby coming early part. He doesn't understand that it is for my safety. But, he will get there.
Post by broadwaymama on Mar 29, 2016 10:39:33 GMT -5
Heading home from MILs we had a pretty good time as long as her husband wasn't around. DH is upset because he knows he needs to breach the subject of what to do with him around our kids. He is constantly undermining our parenting and now that the kids are getting older the kids are starting to pick up bad habits. One thing that's big for us is language in particular using the words retarded and fag. He must have said retarded 5 times in a row befor DH told he we don't want that word used around them..then he made some comment at the dinner table on Easter about how a mom got CPS called on her because her daughter said she was gonna kill her when she got in trouble at school, and I said "that's crazy! I can't tell you how many times in my life I have said my moms gonna kill me" and his response was "yeah but I'm not allowed to say retard". It had nothing to do with the conversation but he had to get the knife in a little deeper. We have left their house earlier than expected before because he couldn't stop calling people fags and I was done. It's just not fair to DHs mom who is totally on our side about it all. I think he just needs to have a convo with her and ask for what her best suggestion would be.
bighair12, I'm sorry about your news but very glad your doctors are on top of things and that all of the precautions will be made for the safety of you and your baby. You'll hear it a million times but I know so many babies born within that time frame which are now healthy, fun, awesome kids. Sounds like you have a lot on your plate on top of that news so hope you can settle in and have some (relatively!) relaxing times with your baby by June.
bighair12, sorry about the news. But I'm glad that it sounds like your doctors are on top of it to ensure that you and baby are healthy! I hope your DH is able to come around to the plan that your doctor thinks is best for your safety.
broadwaymama, sorry about the situation with your MIL's husband. Some people just don't seem to understand the weight of their words. I hope all of you are able to come to an agreement about his behavior in front of your kids because that hateful language is just not acceptable.
AFM, WFH today, so I'm doing a little bit of laundry as well. I have a pedi today after work. Definitely looking forward to that!
Post by 2dogs2kids on Mar 29, 2016 11:07:55 GMT -5
GOmamab15 it's amazing how the definition of a good nights sleep hanged so much during pregnancy.
Dreaming I'm having a turkey avocado panini but I thought about the caprese panini l. So if go with one of your first 2 choices. bighair12 I'm sorry. You have to do what's bests do safest for you and baby. I'm sure it's just a lot to take in and YH will come around like you said. broadwaymama sorry you had to deal with that. Hopefully YH will have the tough conversation soon.
Dreaming, I will be 34 weeks that week. I am actually feeling ok with the decision. I have been processing it since the anatomy scan in February. MH was trying to be optimistic that it wasn't real.
All I want is a healthy baby. I had a very traumatic delivery and post partum with my daughter and I just want this to go smoothly. If that means taking the baby at 34 weeks then that is what we are going to do. I am missing graduation from PA school which is just a bummer. But, I am graduating and will be taking my boards most likely the day before we have this baby.
I need to wrap my head around the possible hysterectomy and the extended time away from DD. That in itself is the hardest part.
Post by woodengirl07 on Mar 29, 2016 11:20:29 GMT -5
bighair12 glad to hear your doctor has a set plan form you so you can focus on finishing school! Sorry you'll have to miss graduation, but the degree is the important part for sure.
I was born via c section at 34 weeks, and here I am 33 years later!
Post by Flair Underwood on Mar 29, 2016 11:32:50 GMT -5
bighair12, I'm so sorry you and YH have so much to process. You're going to do GREAT and he is going to be an awesome husband and father throughout this whole ordeal. I'm so thankful your doctors are being proactive and are ready to take care of you AND baby!
Post by 2dogs2kids on Mar 29, 2016 11:38:41 GMT -5
I just enjoyed my delicious turkey avocado panini with French fries and now I'm so full I can't breath but I'm still thinking about a Reese's peanut butter egg cause I really want something sweet... Preggo problems.
Post by frecklesnbrains on Mar 29, 2016 11:43:28 GMT -5
bighair12, I'm glad you guys got some answers and a plan in place from the visit. I'm sorry it's so hard on you and your H though. Wishing you all the best!
bighair12 so sorry you are dealing with this. That is a lot to wrap your head around. I'm glad a plan is in place so you can prepare as necessary. We're here for you!
I feel like I am breaking some sort of code of pregnancy but I tossed so much of the candy that DS, DH, and I received for Easter. It was just too damn much and I feel like there is still so much left.
Ugh... bighair12, like your H, I too was hoping for good news at your visit. (I always try to stay optimistic until the final verdict is in). I know this wasn't best case scenario. I'm sorry you will miss your graduation, and I'm really sorry about the possible long term consequences of the operation. I know it's scary and it sucks, and you and your H have every right to feel bummed out about this.
When I'm really overwhelmed over something that I can't fix/change, I try to focus on the positive to console myself. Your consolations are: 1. there's a plan in place to safely deliver a healthy baby, 2. you can take your boards in a timely manner to complete all that you've worked so hard for.
Work is nuts today but I'm dropping in during my expedited lunch break to say hello!
bighair12, I'm so sorry that your news today wasn't better but it sounds like your doctors have a great plan in place for you and baby and I hope that your DH will start to come around. That's a lot to take in for both of you so please let us know what type of support you need as you process everything. Sending lots of hugs your way!
broadwaymama, that would not fly with me either. Words have meaning, but unfortunately some people just don't get how their words can affect others. I hope your MIL is receptive to the conversation when DH approaches it with her. How does she tend to react in the moment? Is she embarrassed by his behavior at all?
bighair12 - I'm sorry the news was not what you wanted to hear. I am sure there are a ton of emotions going on with you and your husband and you guys have every right to be bummed/sad/etc. but it seems like you realize the importance of this and I'm sure he will get there too. The most important thing is always a safe and healthy mom and baby at the end of the day. My friend delivered all of her babies at 36 weeks and they are all happy and healthy (4 of them) so I think your odds are great in that department.
AFM: I just got back from a long Easter weekend. My DD was a bit under the weather, so I didn't get many good pictures but she had fun with all of her cousins. She was kind enough to pass her sickness on to me and I feel amazingly terrible. I have such a nasty cough that hurts so much when I actually cough. Giving it a few more days and then calling the doctor. She seems to be a bit better but has a cough too....hoping hers does not hurt like mine.
Got my glucose results back and I fell in the "take the 3 hour test range". My experience both times with the 1 hour was so bad that I asked if there is anything else I can do. They said I can test my own levels 4 times a day for a week and report back the results. I happily opted for that. Seems a bit ridiculous since I had GD last pregnancy and know how to eat to make my numbers pass, but whatever. I'll probably be a little more careful than usual because aren't you always when someone is watching? But at the same time don't want to skew the results because if I really do have it I want to make sure I'm getting the proper treatment (including the extra ultrasounds).
I'm trying to decide what I want for lunch today. I accidentally had an expensive lunch yesterday, so thinking of something more budget friendly today ... My options include: Hot turkey sandwich with chips Caprese sandwich with chips Veggie sandwich on a bagel with chips
bighair12- I'm sorry it wasn't better news. Your husband will process everything, you're the mom and have been thinking about it nonstop since last appointment I'm sure. It sounds like you will be in good hands with a solid plan. I have two friends who had babies at 28 weeks- both are doing wonderful as seven year olds. Modern medicine is a great thing!
broadwaymama- oh those words would not fly with me. In class, I will write kids up for using this words toward others. Not acceptable anymore!
I have an hour between my appointment and ultrasound so I came to the hospital cafeteria. They had my favorite brand of white chocolate macadamia cookies so I treated myself.
I just finished my lunch of Easter leftovers, some ham and cheesy potatoes. Mmm. Now I'm wanting to dig into the Easter M&Ms DH brought back from the store yesterday...half price of course!
Post by sandandsea on Mar 29, 2016 13:33:08 GMT -5
bighair12,sorry for the not so great results, but at least you know now and can plan. And 34 weeks is great!
broadwaymama, not cool. FIL needs to shape up quickly or I would start excluding him from visits. I remember my grandpa saying some crappy things in front of me when I was little and my parents having to tell him to stop. He eventually caught on, but it always made me think he was kind of a "bad guy". You know, how 4 year olds perceive people doing things mom and dad say are bad.
bighair12, I am so sorry, that's a lot to process, but it sounds like you are handling it really well. I hope you DH comes around soon, I'm sure that's a lot for him to take in!
Didn't fall asleep until 4 last night because my foot was really hurting form the injury and then I think doing too much the past week. I had a lot of fun, but I'm glad to start getting back to normal. We're all exhausted. I just dropped my last family members off at the airport, and I think I might take a nap since I only slept 2-3 hours. DS got lots of toys at his family party last night, so hopefully he is entertained when he wakes up! I need to write thank you notes, I like getting those done as quickly as possible! Hope everyone has a great rest of the day!
Post by ArgyleEnigma on Mar 29, 2016 14:07:49 GMT -5
bighair12, I'm sorry things are so serious and that you didn't get that best-case scenario YH wanted. Hopefully he will snap out of it and realize that protecting your life is more important than the extra weeks in the womb, but of course it is a lot to comprehend for both of you. I wish I could help.
broadwaymama I'm sorry your step-FIL is a grade-A jackass.
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