I really dislike the phrase "I'm all set" being used instead of "No thank you"
Do you want a drink ? I'm all set
RUDE
Do you want a drink No thank you
Polite
Also
Replying "no problem instead" of "your welcome"
If someone says thank you the correct response is your welcome. The end
I think I annoy people with my wordiness, I say "no thank you, but thank you for offering" and "You are so welcome" followed by either "it is my pleasure" or "please let me know if there is anything else I can do" I wish I could stop, but it is like ingrained in me, I have been doing it since I was a little girl, so everyone will just have to deal with my effusive thanks and welcomes. I don't do it in writing, but I cant help it when I am speaking.
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If someone ever said that I didn't "properly" respond to their thank you after I did them a favor, this would be my response to them needing a favor in the future:
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I am not sure if this is even true but I've heard "all set" is a northeast/ New England term. There was a radio host here from CA and she said when she first moved here she didn't understand why people answered questions with "I'm all set". She had not heard that before.
I don't get it either, but I think people that re-do their wedding or whatever they want to call it feel like they are missing out on a experience. Wearing the big white dress, the cake, the big reception with family and friends. I also imagine people want the gifts. It's insulting honestly to people do something small and quick or go to the courthouse are fine with just that.
This all rubs me the wrong way. Maybe there were reasons the couple was unable to do a big ceremony that you aren't privy to. Maybe they couldn't afford it or other things got in the way. Why shouldn't they still get to have a wedding ceremony to celebrate with their friends and family just like everyone else?
I think celebrating and having a party is fine. Where I get annoyed is when people try to pretend the original wedding hasn't happened and still go through another ceremony, or even lie.
I am not good at explaining my standpoint really. I guess the wedding industry makes it seem like you need the big party, the big dress, the fancy cake to really feel married. A sense of entitlement by some? When all you need is a license and courthouse.
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This all rubs me the wrong way. Maybe there were reasons the couple was unable to do a big ceremony that you aren't privy to. Maybe they couldn't afford it or other things got in the way. Why shouldn't they still get to have a wedding ceremony to celebrate with their friends and family just like everyone else?
I think celebrating and having a party is fine. Where I get annoyed is when people try to pretend the original wedding hasn't happened and still go through another ceremony, or even lie.
I am not good at explaining my standpoint really. I guess the wedding industry makes it seem like you need the big party, the big dress, the fancy cake to really feel married. A sense of entitlement by some? When all you need is a license and courthouse.
I agree with this, in the sense that people who "just" do a courthouse ceremony may be made to feel less married, somehow. But I blame the insane wedding industry for that, not people who want to do legal + later party.
This all rubs me the wrong way. Maybe there were reasons the couple was unable to do a big ceremony that you aren't privy to. Maybe they couldn't afford it or other things got in the way. Why shouldn't they still get to have a wedding ceremony to celebrate with their friends and family just like everyone else?
I think celebrating and having a party is fine. Where I get annoyed is when people try to pretend the original wedding hasn't happened and still go through another ceremony, or even lie.
I am not good at explaining my standpoint really. I guess the wedding industry makes it seem like you need the big party, the big dress, the fancy cake to really feel married. A sense of entitlement by some? When all you need is a license and courthouse.
I'm not sure how spending thousands (literally THOUSANDS) of dollars to feed, booze & entertain me is "entitled." If you want to throw a party & I get to show up, eat, drink & dance and all I gotta do is bring you a gift? Shit, sign me up. If we're close I probably would have gotten you a wedding gift anyways.
I don't see how wanting a wedding experience makes you entitled or value your marriage less. Maybe people lie about it because everybody is so fucking judgy about it.
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I think celebrating and having a party is fine. Where I get annoyed is when people try to pretend the original wedding hasn't happened and still go through another ceremony, or even lie.
I am not good at explaining my standpoint really. I guess the wedding industry makes it seem like you need the big party, the big dress, the fancy cake to really feel married. A sense of entitlement by some? When all you need is a license and courthouse.
I'm not sure how spending thousands (literally THOUSANDS) of dollars to feed, booze & entertain me is "entitled." If you want to throw a party & I get to show up, eat, drink & dance and all I gotta do is bring you a gift? Shit, sign me up. If we're close I probably would have gotten you a wedding gift anyways.
I don't see how wanting a wedding experience makes you entitled or value your marriage less. Maybe people lie about it because everybody is so fucking judgy about it.
I don't know if you've ever been over to the knot but I know me & peaseblossom55, spent a lot of time there in the past. You will see what she means about entitlement- girls bitching about how their friends won't give them a destination bachelorette that they "deserve", bitching about how their in-laws won't contribute thousands, bitching about how they should start a gofundme because they "deserve" a nice honeymoon, or how they won't have hosted drinks because they need that money for their amazing gown. If a couple completely plans and pay for their wedding aint nothing wrong with that. Hey, even if their parents pay, still nothing wrong with that. But it's when they think the world owes them the wedding of their fantasies and nothing less will be acceptable to them.
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I'm not sure how spending thousands (literally THOUSANDS) of dollars to feed, booze & entertain me is "entitled." If you want to throw a party & I get to show up, eat, drink & dance and all I gotta do is bring you a gift? Shit, sign me up. If we're close I probably would have gotten you a wedding gift anyways.
I don't see how wanting a wedding experience makes you entitled or value your marriage less. Maybe people lie about it because everybody is so fucking judgy about it.
I don't know if you've ever been over to the knot but I know me & peaseblossom55, spent a lot of time there in the past. You will see what she means about entitlement- girls bitching about how their friends won't give them a destination bachelorette that they "deserve", bitching about how their in-laws won't contribute thousands, bitching about how they should start a gofundme because they "deserve" a nice honeymoon, or how they won't have hosted drinks because they need that money for their amazing gown. If a couple completely plans and pay for their wedding aint nothing wrong with that. Hey, even if their parents pay, still nothing wrong with that. But it's when they think the world owes them the wedding of their fantasies and nothing less will be acceptable to them.
I think it's safe to say some women will act like if they're already married & throwing a wedding later or if they're getting married right at the alter.
Example: If Suzy & her husband got married 6 months ago at the courthouse (for WHATEVERTHEFUCK reason) and is throwing a wedding today, I'm not sure where the entitlement comes in? If the wedding was important to her, let her have it. I'm there to eat, drink & dance with people I love. Suzy is providing me all of that. What the fuck do I care if she got married today or 6 months ago?
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Post by ohinvrtedworld on Mar 31, 2016 12:31:24 GMT -5
Anecdote: my friend got courthouse married before their daughter was born and didn't want a big production wedding, but her parents basically demanded that they let them throw a massive cultural wedding. I don't think she was ever quiet about being married already but tried to be gracious and not tell the world that she was only having the big wedding to make her mom happy.
I am happy to go to your wedding, bring a gift, celebrate your union, drink, dance, have a great time.
If you want to throw a party, throw one. For any reason. Literally, any. If I don't like the reason, I won't come. But a wedding is to watch two people get married, which you can't do if you already are married. That's all. Just how I feel.
I'm not sure how spending thousands (literally THOUSANDS) of dollars to feed, booze & entertain me is "entitled." If you want to throw a party & I get to show up, eat, drink & dance and all I gotta do is bring you a gift? Shit, sign me up. If we're close I probably would have gotten you a wedding gift anyways.
I don't see how wanting a wedding experience makes you entitled or value your marriage less. Maybe people lie about it because everybody is so fucking judgy about it.
I don't know if you've ever been over to the knot but I know me & peaseblossom55 , spent a lot of time there in the past. You will see what she means about entitlement- girls bitching about how their friends won't give them a destination bachelorette that they "deserve", bitching about how their in-laws won't contribute thousands, bitching about how they should start a gofundme because they "deserve" a nice honeymoon, or how they won't have hosted drinks because they need that money for their amazing gown. If a couple completely plans and pay for their wedding aint nothing wrong with that. Hey, even if their parents pay, still nothing wrong with that. But it's when they think the world owes them the wedding of their fantasies and nothing less will be acceptable to them.
Fuck that. No one DESERVES to have someone else pay for their wedding or honeymoon. We're all fucking adults, if you in-laws offer to help FANTASTIC, but if not, have the wedding you can afford.
UO: If you can't afford your dream wedding, and take out a loan for it, don't bitch about how the guests "gifts" didn't cover the costs of the wedding and now you're broke and can't afford a house. The wedding is one day. Have one, have an awesome time, get beautiful pictures, and then realize you have the rest of your life to live and spend money.
I tried to go on the Knot when I was engaged, but could not handle it. Every slightest diversion from the assumed etiquette was treated as if the poster had just killed a legion of puppies*.
*From what I saw. I never had the nerve to post. They would have hated me.
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Honestly, as long as people acknowledge a kind gesture I'm not sure why it's a big deal I'll take it. I'm not up in arms about how people say their version of "thank you" or "you're welcome" or "your welcome sucks".
Also, I don't care about spelling as long as I understand the jist of what you are saying. I won't go out of my way to correct someone. However, there is this guy on my facebook who is 40 and always posts stuff like he still in 2001 watching his text message count. "I luv u grl, dats y I bake 4 u" --- like no joke. He knows most plans are unlimited right?
Speaking of baby showers, UO I honestly don't care what people name their kids. It's a lie that no one will hire them because their name is speshul snowflake status. I have hired plenty of non-traditional named people who were qualified and did a great job at the job they were hired for. As long as the name doesn't mean smelly vsgina and hairy dick I don't care.
I never knew how seriously people took names till I checked out the board here. I'm not going to lie and say I don't eye-roll "Makkenzieyy" or whatever. But I never knew the ire aimed at girls with traditional boy names and such.
I use to get up and arms about etiquette and get worked out about it before. My new year resolution was to stop caring what people do or don't do with their lyfe. I rather go to a wedding if a couple is honest about being married than one who is lying though. Just don't lie dude.
This. Though for me, it's more of a pet peeve about lying than about weddings.
I don't know if you've ever been over to the knot but I know me & peaseblossom55 , spent a lot of time there in the past. You will see what she means about entitlement- girls bitching about how their friends won't give them a destination bachelorette that they "deserve", bitching about how their in-laws won't contribute thousands, bitching about how they should start a gofundme because they "deserve" a nice honeymoon, or how they won't have hosted drinks because they need that money for their amazing gown. If a couple completely plans and pay for their wedding aint nothing wrong with that. Hey, even if their parents pay, still nothing wrong with that. But it's when they think the world owes them the wedding of their fantasies and nothing less will be acceptable to them.
I think it's safe to say some women will act like if they're already married & throwing a wedding later or if they're getting married right at the alter.
Example: If Suzy & her husband got married 6 months ago at the courthouse (for WHATEVERTHEFUCK reason) and is throwing a wedding today, I'm not sure where the entitlement comes in? If the wedding was important to her, let her have it. I'm there to eat, drink & dance with people I love. Suzy is providing me all of that. What the fuck do I care if she got married today or 6 months ago?
I guess to some it's the mentality of "She can't have her cake and eat it too!" They think if you have to have a quick courthouse wedding, that's what you chose. If you want a big bash then man up (go without insurance, etc) and wait for the big bash, but you can't have both!
I have seen the arguments so many times on TK and I tend to take your and @miawallace, side that it's not my wedding so I really don't care wtf you do. My friend got married in Colorado to make the paperwork easy, and I attended her destination wedding in Cancun. It was a fucking fun time so I didn't care.
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Sometimes I wonder some of the people I felt were uber intense over there are here and just calmed down. But I'm too lazy to make any effort to figure it out, or think about it for too long.
Sometimes I wonder some of the people I felt were uber intense over there are here and just calmed down. But I'm too lazy to make any effort to figure it out, or think about it for too long.
Refer to the randoms thread today if you want to hire a sleuth. lol
Sometimes I wonder some of the people I felt were uber intense over there are here and just calmed down. But I'm too lazy to make any effort to figure it out, or think about it for too long.
Sometimes I wonder some of the people I felt were uber intense over there are here and just calmed down. But I'm too lazy to make any effort to figure it out, or think about it for too long.
Refer to the randoms thread today if you want to hire a sleuth. lol
Sometimes I wonder some of the people I felt were uber intense over there are here and just calmed down. But I'm too lazy to make any effort to figure it out, or think about it for too long.
Oh. They are here.
I was there but not one of the intense people, I swear! I stayed away from the etiquette board and mostly stuck to just chit chat and looking at people's dress choices on attire!
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