Ok, I know a lot of people that are against throwing their own shower (me being one). However, both sides of our families have sick members and a highly busy life. I completely understand that, but was still hoping my GF and godmother of our DD would surprise me. Since no one has told me to clear a date for something or hinted anything, I'm crunching for time to decide. I went 6 weeks early with my first child, and had my shower thrown for me only 3 days before I went into labor. So this time I was hoping for a mid March shower to allow for time to go early again (high risk). Since I haven't gotten hints, should I start planning my own as its only a month away? After all it is better to throw your own than have none at all right? This girl loves her freebies!
"It is better to throw your own than have none at all right?" You already had one...when you were pregnant with your first kid. Because baby showers are for FTMs.
Ok, I know a lot of people that are against throwing their own shower (me being one). However, both sides of our families have sick members and a highly busy life. I completely understand that, but was still hoping my GF and godmother of our DD would surprise me. Since no one has told me to clear a date for something or hinted anything, I'm crunching for time to decide. I went 6 weeks early with my first child, and had my shower thrown for me only 3 days before I went into labor. So this time I was hoping for a mid March shower to allow for time to go early again (high risk). Since I haven't gotten hints, should I start planning my own as its only a month away? After all it is better to throw your own than have none at all right? This girl loves her freebies!
Where I am from, everyone has showers for multiple children. I thought it was the norm, and family did ask about my shower but I had told them no one stepped up or hinted anything. My aunt had 4 girls and 4 baby showers. Because most believe you should have 1 shower, doesn't mean all have to. and no I am not kidding about me loving freebies. Isn't that the point of a shower in the first place? I asked a legitimate question in my opinion, but feel free to fucking complain instead of move along if you didn't like it. Smh
1. Showers are for first time mothers to welcome them into motherhood. No ifs, ands, or buts. No excuses. Not a different sex, not an age gap, not multiples. (The ONE exception would be if it's the father's first biological child - and then ONLY his side should host/attend.)
2. Throwing your own shower is a tacky gift grab. Throwing it for a child that isn't your first only makes it more disgusting.
3. "This girl loves her freebies!" So. Fucking. Gross.
4. "Isn't that the point of a shower in the first place?" No. A shower is to welcome a woman into motherhood and to help ease her transition by giving some of the things that she will need to care for the baby. It is NOT meant as a way to hit up your friends and family for as much free shit as they'll give you.
5. Trust me. People will very likely give you gifts without being invited to do so.
Post by withsilverwings on Feb 5, 2015 2:39:29 GMT -5
It's the norm in my area as well (a baby shower for each baby) BUT you shouldn't throw your own. If no one offers hold a meet & greet afterwards - as TwinStars said people will generally give gifts anyway. Never expect gifts, but accept them graciously when offered.
Where I am from, everyone has showers for multiple children. I thought it was the norm, and family did ask about my shower but I had told them no one stepped up or hinted anything. My aunt had 4 girls and 4 baby showers. Because most believe you should have 1 shower, doesn't mean all have to. and no I am not kidding about me loving freebies. Isn't that the point of a shower in the first place? I asked a legitimate question in my opinion, but feel free to fucking complain instead of move along if you didn't like it. Smh
You sound like a spoiled brat. I probably wouldn't have said anything about the fact that you were thinking about having a second shower. What I find so fucked up is that you clearly think everyone owes you something because you are having a baby. If the people you would invite to this theoretical shower heard the way you are speaking, they would be appalled. Who wants to buy gifts for someone being so ungrateful?
Eta: you received COMPLETELY legitimate answers to your question.
Maybe your attitude about getting free stuff and how that's the point of a shower (especially multiple showers) is part of the reason no one is offering to throw you one.
i've only been to one shower for a 2nd child. I went because it was for a DEAR friend of mine and she actually felt really weird having this shower, but she accepted it only to appease her mom and MIL. And she looked at it as a chance to see some friends and family before life got a little more crazy w/ a 2nd baby.
I really have to say that if she felt entitled to this shower (as you clearly feel) and only wanted it in order to get "freebies", I probably wouldn't have gone.
Plus, to add, even if multiple showers are the norm - clearly people in your life have more important things to deal with right now. Life will go on if you don't get your 2nd shower. It's NOT an entitlement. It's a gift peopel want to give you. And if no one wants to do this, then you don't get a shower.
Have some respect for the fact that your family clearly has more important things going on in their lives than worrying about making sure you get all your "freebies".
As PP's have said, don't throw your own shower. If someone is going to host one for you, they decide when it will be held. Also, the "loving freebies" part....sounds super tacky!
Nobody here is going to tell you that hosting your own second shower because you want ALL THE FREEBIES is okay. Because it's not.
But if you would like to try asking your question in a place where you will get insincere "advice" that is heavily censored so that your personal experience feels more fluffy and fulfilling - and thus allows you to continue living in denial about how spoiled and entitled you are acting - I hear the new Bump is a good alternative.
Where I am from, everyone has showers for multiple children. I thought it was the norm, and family did ask about my shower but I had told them no one stepped up or hinted anything. My aunt had 4 girls and 4 baby showers. Because most believe you should have 1 shower, doesn't mean all have to. and no I am not kidding about me loving freebies. Isn't that the point of a shower in the first place? I asked a legitimate question in my opinion, but feel free to fucking complain instead of move along if you didn't like it. Smh
How would you have stumbled across this board and thought you would get any kind if positive responses here? You have to be trolling. Also, when you ask for opinions like you did in your OP you don't get to pick and choose your results. You get opinions. Seems like a unanimous feeling here, should make your decision pretty easy. I don't buy why someone who is "against throwing their own shower" would decide to do it anyway.
Well then, that was fun. Thanks for that good read OP! I wont' bother telling you to don't do it. Judging by the "this girl likes her freebies" you are going to do it regardless of what we say.
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