Hi everyone. This has been such a crazy (mostly in a good way) weekend that I've only had time to read some threads quickly and hand out the occasional LT. Not really looking forward to the week ahead. The schools are on holiday for the next two weeks so none of our usual classes are running except Friday morning playgroup - but there are four whole days before that! Next week won't be so bad in some ways as H is off Mon-Wed. It'll also be worse because my endoscopy is on the Tuesday, which is why he's off.
I've just realised that you probably don't refer to schools being on holiday as holiday has a completely different meaning in the US. School holidays just mean the schools are closed, either between terms or for half term (which is a short break half way through each term).
Family drama: IL's have a summer house in Maine. This sounds fancier than it actually is. It's not a palace. It's a very simple, 150 year old house that doesn't even have heat. Aside from IL's master there is space to sleep seven more people. ILs only get the first half of summer and the other side of the family gets the second half. The first half isn't really half because it's still cold into mid June so there is only four weeks of comfortable time use it.
Anyway, we went two summers ago and have been planning for quite some time to go again this summer. It's as far away from us as it can get so every other summer is all we can realistically do, since we have other places we want to go too. And the distance is also why we stay for two full weeks. We bought our plane tickets at the end of January and will be there 15 days from late June to mid July. We cleared the dates with FIL first. Because of my court docket and the way it is set I have to plan at least four months ahead of time if I want to take that much time off at once.
Apparently BIL, who lives only a six hour drive away and has the ability to go far more frequently, called FIL a few days ago and told him he was going to bring his family for a week during the dates we will be there. NBD on our end, even though he's a judgey, pretentious twat. But apparently FIL told him no, saying that we'll already be there and there would be too many people in the house for the baby (BIL brings 4 teen through early 20's kids, one kid's live in BF, plus his wife so, seven people) We were all there at the same time for three days two years ago and yeah, it was busy, but there was enough bed space with a couple of the teens sleeping on the screened in porch. And I doubt P cares about all the people but it's FIL's call. FIL suggested that BIL and his family rent one of the many other houses right there for that time, something they can more than afford to do, seeing as he's makes in one month what we make in a year. Or just come earlier in the summer.
BIL just sent a group text to everyone in the family saying "happy to report there was mass anarchy in the **** household last night upon delivering the news that we've been excluded from****ville this summer. In the future people need to communicate so that one group doesn't monopolize the limited time we all need to share." FIL then called him out about it again and BIL played some "we've been doing this for 20 years and they've only been one time recently so we should take precident" crap. Bottom line, he's not mad FIL told him no so much as he's blaming us for ruining his family's summer. And apparently his family is more important than ours. Check. I have no real fucks to give about this but it still irritates the crap out of me. JFC
I'm super late but hugs to you madymoiselle. H doing his own thing while I ran around working and looking after baby completely sums up our first year of parenthood with DS1. It took a lot of work to get to where we are now. Keep talking. Keep asking him to do his share. It will get better.
Post by prettymama36 on Apr 3, 2016 20:43:30 GMT -5
@jimbobcooter your BIL sounds like a total jerk, but the summer house sounds lovely! Sorry you have family drama happening. Why did he send that text out to the entire family? Just sent out a complaint text to everyone? Seems so weird.
Post by carolyngrace on Apr 3, 2016 20:48:21 GMT -5
billyhorrible my 4yo nephew also loves to dress fancy. It's so cute. His favorite is a silk vest and he told me he'd wear it every day if he could! Your DS is adorable.
Post by carolyngrace on Apr 3, 2016 20:52:15 GMT -5
madymoiselle DH and I have had a few similar come to Jesus talks... Things are slowly improving. Keep being direct about what you need from him and hopefully he'll step up to the plate!
Post by musicfrk2002 on Apr 3, 2016 22:36:34 GMT -5
I haven't even read anything today. We spent the day traveling to the airport, then a 4 hour flight, and just got to H's aunts house where we are staying. Long day. But, j was awesome on the flight, only cried a little during takeoff due to his ears, and one other time because he was getting tired. We hit some turbulence on the way down and he thought that was the best thing ever.
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