FFFC: I've been super frustrated lately with our current living situation that I wanted to break something or run away.
Definitely not flameful. Have you spoken with your husband about it or do you feel you can't?
Oh yeah. I talk to him about it a lot. I even went online this week to search for apartments that are crazy cat lady friendly with leases that begin in May. But H pointed out MIL probably needs a month to save for a damage deposit. She's still paying us rent even though we told her she didn't have to, so H is holding onto it so it will be her damage deposit for a place of her own.
For now I'm resisting the urge to say "no1curr" to everything MIL says.
Definitely not flameful. Have you spoken with your husband about it or do you feel you can't?
Oh yeah. I talk to him about it a lot. I even went online this week to search for apartments that are crazy cat lady friendly with leases that begin in May. But H pointed out MIL probably needs a month to save for a damage deposit. She's still paying us rent even though we told her she didn't have to, so H is holding onto it so it will be her damage deposit for a place of her own.
For now I'm resisting the urge to say "no1curr" to everything MIL says.
That is a smart move on your husband's part, and will make it easier for her to move.
I can't remember the details, so bear with me, but how long was she supposed to live with you for? Is she supposed to be actively looking for a place?
You have a lot going on! You need your own comfort space and that obviously doesn't include her!
Oh yeah. I talk to him about it a lot. I even went online this week to search for apartments that are crazy cat lady friendly with leases that begin in May. But H pointed out MIL probably needs a month to save for a damage deposit. She's still paying us rent even though we told her she didn't have to, so H is holding onto it so it will be her damage deposit for a place of her own.
For now I'm resisting the urge to say "no1curr" to everything MIL says.
That is a smart move on your husband's part, and will make it easier for her to move.
I can't remember the details, so bear with me, but how long was she supposed to live with you for? Is she supposed to be actively looking for a place?
You have a lot going on! You need your own comfort space and that obviously doesn't include her!
From Dec-June. But she moved in mid-November. The original plan was for her to take over SIL'S place in June when she finished school. MIL was still paying her lot rent in the trailer park where she was living before but fell behind on payments. They issued an eviction notice so she's not allowed to return to live in that park at all (SIL lives in the place right beside her)
Not for me, for the kids. Youth group and Sunday school were a huge part of my life growing up and I'd like them to have the chance to have the same experience. My whole family is super religious so we already do biblical teachings at Christmas and Easter during family events.
I can see where you're coming from. I was raised Catholic as in made all my sacraments and went to catholic school for 9 years. I also did youth group in high school, but I bet most of the kids there would have admitted we were there for all the fun ski trips, etc. and not exactly finding God. I mean, kids would go smoke weed after the meetings, so...I digress. My family never went to church on Sundays. Actually, most of my friends from school didn't go either. But, I still value the things I was taught at that school and character it built. I've also baptized my son and plan to send him to CCD. I think exposure to religion is important and he can make his own decisions as he gets older.
Also, I think this is kind of common with Catholics in general (maybe other religions too?). It seems there is the very devout Catholics who follow every single rule (including no sex before marriage!) and then there seems to be everyone else....who donate to the church and pop in on Christmas and Easter. When I switched to public school, a lot of my friends were also Catholic and I only know of two who actually went to church every weekend. Oddly enough, both had dads who were recovering alcoholics and we're now very active in the church.
Tl;dr I think a lot of people do this. However, I also wish I knew more about a different religion with a smaller community/feel than Catholic. I think I would have different thoughts.
+1. Growing up, practically everyone I knew went to church because of the social aspect or out of Catholic guilt. No one was genuinely looking forward to 45 minutes of worship. It was very "check the box".
Ok here's one. We are going to start going to church soon so that the kids are raised Christian, even though neither of us believe anymore. I just think the church provides a great sense of community that isn't available otherwise.
I can relate to you on this. Except, it's more of me than the kids. I volunteer in the youth group at my church. I don't necessarily believe all of the religion, but I love helping out. I guess in my church, they welcome everyone. They always say that everyone is on a different path and that's ok. Basically they take what they can get. Although I live in a really religious area, and people are always trying to put on a perfect show.
I hardly take my kids to church and it's such a tough decision to make. I grew up going to church and most of my best friends were made there. It's nice feeling part of a religious community. I just hesitate to take my kids because I don't want them getting mixed signals. I'm pretty torn about it. :/
Post by starrynight14 on Apr 8, 2016 10:57:14 GMT -5
Fffc: my very first post on TB was bumping an old (heated) thread about someone being upset about discovering their spouse viewed porn. I had absolutely had no clue how online forums worked. (Heck, I still don't sometimes). I only used the TB to check what fruit size LO was and one day ventured into community/forums. I had no clue about doing an intro and I honestly thought it was something you could just pick and choose a thread and didn't realize there was a system. I remember getting replies about bumping a dead thread. I thought, "What, these have expiration dates?" Lol!
I was just being a man hater that day. It seemed like a lot of people were saying things like "at least he didn't cheat on you, and most men look at porn". I just said something like "Don't just accept that. Men always get excuses. If he knew you didn't like porn he should've approached it differently and not just sneaked around about it"
I was just being a man hater that day. It seemed like a lot of people were saying things like "at least he didn't cheat on you, and most men look at porn". I just said something like "Don't just accept that. Men always get excuses. If he knew you didn't like porn he should've approached it differently and not just sneaked around about it"
lol you brought out the big guns with your first post!
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