I have this friend who is training for a body building competition and works out like 2 hours a day, plus eats insanely healthy, and I always say how awesome she's doing, but secretly I think it's kind of ridiculous and I judge her (just a little) for spending so much time focusing on that.
I know someone training for a bikini competition. So she spends who knows how many hours at the gym (she's a personal trainer as well) and eats super healthy. She posts pictures of her difference from when she first started and now. I don't find it attractive at all. I think it looks disgusting.
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My best friend in high school (we aren't as close anymore but still keep in touch) did a bikini competition a few years back and since then has gotten insanely skinny and also pretty buff. She was always SO beautiful, had a beautiful body, could have pretty much any guy she wanted. I don't even think she's pretty anymore and I swear her face looks older because it's so skinny. She once mentioned how she "used to be chubby" and I super eye rolled her.
She posted this picture of her from behind at her wedding flexing with her veins all popping out and I thought it was super unattractive. Several people commented how beautiful, amazing, fabulous she looked. One guy commented "I was going to crash your wedding until I realized how yoked you and the people at wedding were". I pretty much died laughing.
I have this friend who is training for a body building competition and works out like 2 hours a day, plus eats insanely healthy, and I always say how awesome she's doing, but secretly I think it's kind of ridiculous and I judge her (just a little) for spending so much time focusing on that.
I think body builing bodies are just gross. Especially after they are spray tanned beyond all recognition.
Sometimes I think Facebook has become a place that no matter what you post, you're going to piss somebody off on your feed. The FFFC part of my post - I've become that mom who literally only posts pictures of her kid. I don't post too often (a few times a month), but I realized the other day looking at my wall that there's essentially nothing except pictures of DS. At least he's cute, though.
My FFFC: I have watched Frozen 3 times in the past few days and I effing love it! I could watch this movie every day...and I'm sure I will until my kids move on to something new.
Let's not get too carried away with that we can't have an opinion about what people do in their spare time please:). That's what's so fun about FFFC! I have friends that wake in bake and I give them a hard time. They also give themselves a hard time. They don't want to be craving pot when they they wake up either.
I'm just going to put it out there that people that fly drones on their spare time annoy me. Get your little toy out of my face and I hope that crashes into a tree.
For me the heart of the issue is the body shaming. People have their own ideas of what's attractive, but do we really need to go around calling others disgusting for how they look?
Of course everyone has an opinion about everything, but do we really need to go around acting as if our personal choices are the only ones that make sense? Of all the things to judge someone for, going to the gym and eating healthy is the most ridiculous.
I don't judge anyone for going to the gym and eating healthy. My friend told me about the crazy diets that the body building coaches had her on and I actually wouldn't say it's healthy at all. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and TETO as far as passions go for sure. I can still say that I think it's a waste of time to starve yourself and spend hours at the gym to achieve a result that I don't find attractive. I'm sure my friend looks at me now and thinks I'm chubby and lazy. Meh, I don't care one bit.
My FFFC: I have watched Frozen 3 times in the past few days and I effing love it! I could watch this movie every day...and I'm sure I will until my kids move on to something new.
I've convinced myself that I actually like paw patrol It's currently DS fave show
My kids pretty much only watch "educational" crap on Nick JR. Paw Patrol (aka Puppies) is tolerable, but my favorites are Bubble Guppies, Peppa and I've tricked DS into liking Ben & Holly because I like Nanny Plum.
I ate an entire box of twinkies in 2 days by myself. DS told me "no more Twinkies mama!" DH and I are getting pedicures and drinking vodka red bulls. It's barely past noon.
I got LO to sleep and she was clutching a blanket, so I put her in the crib with it. I know a lot of you use blankets, but I'm still afraid so my FFFC is that I've been sitting here for 20 minutes alternating between grey's anatomy and the monitor.
FFFC: I've had a costco membership for years and haven't paid for it for at least 8 years. I thought I was a glitch in the system. I was asking around because I thought I was under my mom and i wasn't. Big mystery and I didn't want to ask about it because then my glitch would be found out.
My mom and and I went to Costco and decided to see about it and I was going to move to her executive account. Turns out my ex has been paying for it this entire time and it's been on auto renewal. I don't even feel bad.
I almost walked up the down escalator at target, on my lunch break.
FFFC 2: I'm not participating in the Elster b/c picking out gifts gives me anxiety.
I'm having some for real FOMO over the Elfster thing. I almost signed up a few times, but H and I are trying really hard to cut unnecessary spending out right now because of the whole house thing, so I feel like I'd have a hard time explaining that yes, I agree we're spending less than $100 on DS for his bday, we're "skipping" mother's day/father's day, and we're making tons of other little sacrifices all over, but then I needed to buy a present for an internet friend/internet friend's kid. I don't think it would have gone over well, and it felt easier to avoid that fight.
Post by jillywilly on Apr 15, 2016 13:27:02 GMT -5
I thought of another FFFC thanks to the splurge thread:
We're going on vacation next month - my parents have a really nice time share in Myrtle Beach, so we're driving down there for a cheap vacation. This will be our first family of three vacation, and while I'm excited - I'm not as excited as I was for vacations pre-baby. I'm sure we'll have a good time, but a huge part of vacation for H and me was always drinking, going out to fancy restaurants, sitting by the pool for hours on end, etc. I'm pretty sure that's not exactly how this vacation will go, and I'm kind of mourning the loss of what I think of as a "true vacation." I'm sure we'll have a good time and it'll be fun in its own way, and obviously I wouldn't trade DS for all the vacationing in the world... but I'm also a selfish asshole who wants to drink umbrella drinks by the pool and not have to chase an almost one-year old around.
Are you saying that you have no opinions about how people spend their time? What if someone is passionate about smoking pot all day, or attending KKK rally's? We shouldn't judge because they're following their passions?
Ok. Clearly people attending KKK rally's are spreading hate and bigotry, which is hurting people. Really? As far as people smoking pot all day? If they are a contributing member of society, taking care of their business, and not hurting anyone in the process, KOKO, IDGAF.
There's a difference between having an opinion on things and being straight up judgmental.
Ok the kkk thing was dumb.
Yes I am annoyed by my friends choice to spend all of her time doing this and think it's kind of stupid. As belle mentioned she probably thinks I'm lazy. Whatever. I still think she's a good person and it's making her happy so... There we are.
ETA I find it kind of funny that you're jumping on me for being judgmental when you pretty much told veggiemo she was a bad wife last week.
Post by beersandweirs on Apr 15, 2016 13:39:16 GMT -5
I totally get your sentiment jillywilly. I haven't vacationed with baby yet either, but I know when we do, it will be different than before, but most things in life are now anyway. It will also make it that much more fun when you do get to take a trip without LO!
I think maybe the term body shaming is getting overused. Someone having a preference for body shape in terms of attractiveness is not body shaming. Especially if they have never and would never tell someone else that they don't find them attractive..
My use of body shaming was in direct response to someone referring to another person's body as disgusting, based on their appearance. I'm pretty sure that is the exact definition of body shaming.
So it's ok in your book to call someone's marriage disgusting but not their body? Side eye
Ok. Clearly people attending KKK rally's are spreading hate and bigotry, which is hurting people. Really? As far as people smoking pot all day? If they are a contributing member of society, taking care of their business, and not hurting anyone in the process, KOKO, IDGAF.
There's a difference between having an opinion on things and being straight up judgmental.
Ok the kkk thing was dumb.
Yes I am annoyed by my friends choice to spend all of her time doing this and think it's kind of stupid. As belle mentioned she probably thinks I'm lazy. Whatever. I still think she's a good person and it's making her happy so... There we are.
ETA I find it kind of funny that you're jumping on me for being judgmental when you pretty much told veggiemo she was a bad wife last week.
Thank you. The last paragraph is exactly what I was thinking too.
@jimbobcooter so I'm driving back from the kids playgroup and what just happened to be on the radio today? I shit you not but an entire news coverage on the harmful results from eating microwave popcorn!!! Weird. They had a feature explaining that the same chemical additive in popcorn is also naturally occurring in the coffee roasting process. Everyone don't freak out. They said not by drinking coffee but harmful if you work in a coffee plant when the beans are roasting.
I almost walked up the down escalator at target, on my lunch break.
FFFC 2: I'm not participating in the Elster b/c picking out gifts gives me anxiety.
I'm not participating in the Elfster or the AMA's because giving out super personal information on the internet makes me want to pull out my Tin foil hat. Any things I post publicly I can live with. Got a notification some PurpleIris was following me...does she even go here? On that note gonna post PDQ pics on private board.
@scoop easy girl. I said I side eyed you. Not anything more and certainly not deserving of being told to F off.
Wow this escalated quickly....
To say that I made veggiemo feel like a bad wife is pretty low if you ask me. You also keep saying that I said her marriage disgusted me, which is not correct.
My interpretation of the discussion last week was that you said emotional cheating disgusts you and you felt that veggiemo was emotionally cheating. If you can't see how those two comments correlate then I'm not sure how else I can explain the irony and hence the side eye.
Okay for the sake of ending the body shaming discussion and not getting any nastier than need be, can we all just agree to disagree here? I think at this point things are getting distorted and taken out of context.
This is a touchy subject for some, myself included, and we all apparently have different ideas on the topic, so KOKO lets all just agree that it would be wrong to openly shame someone for the way their body looks.
If anyone wants to dispute that statement, then lets go.
Half naked photos on private board. Ignore the drama and let's all agree to KOKO.
lol. That damn song is sung in my house upwards of 50 times a day. Mostly by me
Haha, i like the song too! And the movie... And C is not even old enough to enjoy it so I watched it alone.
Whenever I have to cut baby's fingernails I find this song on youtube and play it, it's the only thing that keeps her still long enough to get it done. I don't know what I will do once it doesn't work anymore.
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