Post by wildflower810 on Apr 17, 2016 12:35:01 GMT -5
Hey!
Double whammy at church today. First, a new squishy baby who is 10 days old and OMG I want one! THEN a sweet old lady comes up to me (while I'm with H and H's friend) and eyes my postpartum/ice cream/taco belly and says "oooh, do I see something there?" I nodded and said "last night's ice cream" and she didn't get it, just saw me nod, so I had to say "no, I am not pregnant" like three times for her.
Gosh. This isn't the first time I've been asked recently if I'm KU. But it always seems to happen *while* I'm on my period so I'm standing there like "lady, there is a zero percent chance, want me to prove it?"
Double whammy at church today. First, a new squishy baby who is 10 days old and OMG I want one! THEN a sweet old lady comes up to me (while I'm with H and H's friend) and eyes my postpartum/ice cream/taco belly and says "oooh, do I see something there?" I nodded and said "last night's ice cream" and she didn't get it, just saw me nod, so I had to say "no, I am not pregnant" like three times for her.
Gosh. This isn't the first time I've been asked recently if I'm KU. But it always seems to happen *while* I'm on my period so I'm standing there like "lady, there is a zero percent chance, want me to prove it?"
... I just can't even with people who do that. I don't even have much grace for the little old ladies anymore.
Double whammy at church today. First, a new squishy baby who is 10 days old and OMG I want one! THEN a sweet old lady comes up to me (while I'm with H and H's friend) and eyes my postpartum/ice cream/taco belly and says "oooh, do I see something there?" I nodded and said "last night's ice cream" and she didn't get it, just saw me nod, so I had to say "no, I am not pregnant" like three times for her.
Gosh. This isn't the first time I've been asked recently if I'm KU. But it always seems to happen *while* I'm on my period so I'm standing there like "lady, there is a zero percent chance, want me to prove it?"
Church was a whammy for us too. Today was the invite for baby dedication at the church so all the parents can sign up and blah blah blah. Then the baby in front of us wouldn't stop fussing so that was cool too. Sorry for the whammy day.
Double whammy at church today. First, a new squishy baby who is 10 days old and OMG I want one! THEN a sweet old lady comes up to me (while I'm with H and H's friend) and eyes my postpartum/ice cream/taco belly and says "oooh, do I see something there?" I nodded and said "last night's ice cream" and she didn't get it, just saw me nod, so I had to say "no, I am not pregnant" like three times for her.
Gosh. This isn't the first time I've been asked recently if I'm KU. But it always seems to happen *while* I'm on my period so I'm standing there like "lady, there is a zero percent chance, want me to prove it?"
... I just can't even with people who do that. I don't even have much grace for the little old ladies anymore.
And they are multiplying!!! And getting more blunt and insensitive!
Post by ohinvrtedworld on Apr 17, 2016 12:41:27 GMT -5
I had a bad night last night and actually skipped church because there are a few people who are not so thoughtful and keep inadvertently finding ways to make me sad, and I just don't have it in me to deal this morning.
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Me: 31 Wife: 30. Legally married 2008, thanks CA! TTC #1 since 11/14 using donor sperm. IUIs Jan-Aug 2015 BFN Sept & OCT 2015 added Femara. BFN Saw RE December 2015. IUI with Clomid & Trigger Jan 2016 BFN IUI #13 with Follistim April 2016 BFFN IVF #1 July 2016. 14R, 10F, 6 Day 5 embryos. 4 PGS normal embabies!
Ugh, so annoying wildflower810 and cateyes. I always just respond back, nope just fat. I don't care if it makes people uncomfortable at this point.
I have many times (especially right after failed treatments) said "not pregnant, we can't have biological kids. Thanks for the interest" not so tactful but sometimes I don't have the energy...
Ugh, so annoying wildflower810 and cateyes . I always just respond back, nope just fat. I don't care if it makes people uncomfortable at this point.
I have many times (especially right after failed treatments) said "not pregnant, we can't have biological kids. Thanks for the interest" not so tactful but sometimes I don't have the energy...
When people ask tactless questions, I take it as an agreed understanding that the answer can be equally blunt
I might have planned our vacation so we would have to skip church on Mother's Day. FFSC??
Every year H and I have a mutual understanding to skip church on Mothers Day and Fathers Day. We usually go see a movie that's likely to have no kids and make our favorite meals and hide out.
It's not others faults they get to celebrate so we don't want to be Debbie downers. We just avoid the hurt feelings all around.
Post by wildflower810 on Apr 17, 2016 13:17:46 GMT -5
I feel like I "shouldn't" be bothered by questions like the above because I have a kid and no known IF issues, but it's still an issue of why is that even their business? Or, what if I *was* recently pregnant and not wanting to announce yet? What then?
Double whammy at church today. First, a new squishy baby who is 10 days old and OMG I want one! THEN a sweet old lady comes up to me (while I'm with H and H's friend) and eyes my postpartum/ice cream/taco belly and says "oooh, do I see something there?" I nodded and said "last night's ice cream" and she didn't get it, just saw me nod, so I had to say "no, I am not pregnant" like three times for her.
Gosh. This isn't the first time I've been asked recently if I'm KU. But it always seems to happen *while* I'm on my period so I'm standing there like "lady, there is a zero percent chance, want me to prove it?"
Ugh, sorry you had to deal with this today. People need to keep thoughts like this to themselves...
H and I got a lot of awkward questions when we first got our foster sons. Some people asked us "but don't you want to have some of your 'own' children?" Which made be want to punch them because 1) they have no idea if we are able to have biological children and it's really none of their business if we can or can't, and 2) because if we are able to adopt our foster sons someday, they will most certainly be our "own" children. I know people say that when they really mean "biological children," but as a foster mom and hopefully one day adoptive mom, it drives me crazy.
Then we've had awkward questions on the complete other end of the spectrum where people make the assumption that we can't have bio children because we're foster parents. As if no one could ever want to foster and/or adopt without being infertile. We've always wanted to adopt and we still hope to have a biological child too... they aren't mutually exclusive.
I feel like I "shouldn't" be bothered by questions like the above because I have a kid and no known IF issues, but it's still an issue of why is that even their business? Or, what if I *was* recently pregnant and not wanting to announce yet? What then?
That's the whole point. It's none of their business.
Double whammy at church today. First, a new squishy baby who is 10 days old and OMG I want one! THEN a sweet old lady comes up to me (while I'm with H and H's friend) and eyes my postpartum/ice cream/taco belly and says "oooh, do I see something there?" I nodded and said "last night's ice cream" and she didn't get it, just saw me nod, so I had to say "no, I am not pregnant" like three times for her.
Gosh. This isn't the first time I've been asked recently if I'm KU. But it always seems to happen *while* I'm on my period so I'm standing there like "lady, there is a zero percent chance, want me to prove it?"
Ugh, sorry you had to deal with this today. People need to keep thoughts like this to themselves...
H and I got a lot of awkward questions when we first got our foster sons. Some people asked us "but don't you want to have some of your 'own' children?" Which made be want to punch them because 1) they have no idea if we are able to have biological children and it's really none of their business if we can or can't, and 2) because if we are able to adopt our foster sons someday, they will most certainly be our "own" children. I know people say that when they really mean "biological children," but as a foster mom and hopefully one day adoptive mom, it drives me crazy.
Then we've had awkward questions on the complete other end of the spectrum where people make the assumption that we can't have bio children because we're foster parents. As if no one could ever want to foster and/or adopt without being infertile. We've always wanted to adopt and we still hope to have a biological child too... they aren't mutually exclusive.
(rant over)
We get this with the nieces all the time (who live with us/we informally foster). People/strangers always ask "when we will have kids of our own" and don't we want our own "real" kids. Like what are the nieces-made up or fake kids???
ETA (hit enter to fast) Hugs to you! Your kiddos are yours-whether for a short time or a lifetime!!
I might have planned our vacation so we would have to skip church on Mother's Day. FFSC??
Every year H and I have a mutual understanding to skip church on Mothers Day and Fathers Day. We usually go see a movie that's likely to have no kids and make our favorite meals and hide out.
It's not others faults they get to celebrate so we don't want to be Debbie downers. We just avoid the hurt feelings all around.
H and I both have awful relationships with our fathers so that day is all around bad. I think we might go to STL that weekend but we won't know until closer.
Every year H and I have a mutual understanding to skip church on Mothers Day and Fathers Day. We usually go see a movie that's likely to have no kids and make our favorite meals and hide out.
It's not others faults they get to celebrate so we don't want to be Debbie downers. We just avoid the hurt feelings all around.
H and I both have awful relationships with our fathers so that day is all around bad. I think we might go to STL that weekend but we won't know until closer.
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I spent the afternoon on my back patio, reading a book. It was a wonderful way to spend the day.
Except now I'm really sunburned. My winter pale skin wasn't ready for all that sun...
I wanted to sit outside and read today. I tried but it's just a bit too chilly here to sit still and be comfortable. We did eat lunch outside though and it finally smells like spring!
TTC since July 2014. CP March 2015. IVF #1 March 2016, 5R, 3M, 2F with ICSI. Transferred 2 on day 3. CP. Surprise BFP and then CP August 2016 (prep cycle for IVF). IVF #2: zero eggs retrieved IVF #3: 6R, 5M, 5F, 3 (2 8A and 1 11A) transferred, one "B" graded embryo frozen on day 5. BFP (at home 7dp3dt, confirmed 14dp3dt with 1552 beta) and U/S at 5w5d, 2 sacs and 2 yolks!
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