Post by mustloveerica on Apr 18, 2016 12:44:57 GMT -5
Hi all! I'm still here doing nothing. I'm thinking about picking up a copy of It Starts with the Egg to read while I wait and maybe implement some of the dietary changes.
I just found out over the weekend that DH hasn't been taking his vitamins because he's doesn't think they're doing anything. So I snapped at him and told him to take them because we need to do everything we possibly can to help this situation. Ugh.
QOTW: we love going to the lake and swimming, sun bathing, letting the dogs act a fool in the water, etc. I just love summer :-)
Rama , I did an IUI on the same cycle as my HSG, it didn't result in a BFP but it also didn't seem to be a problem for my doc at the time. Didn't you already do one though?
siouxsieq , welcome and I hope your stay here is short!
kawaiikitsune , they better have sent those records!!!
peaseblossom55 , I'm usually crampy and bloated for a few days after IUI too. Gl at your next appointment.
Last Edit: Apr 18, 2016 13:16:16 GMT -5 by JustJudy
Me: 31 Wife: 30. Legally married 2008, thanks CA! TTC #1 since 11/14 using donor sperm. IUIs Jan-Aug 2015 BFN Sept & OCT 2015 added Femara. BFN Saw RE December 2015. IUI with Clomid & Trigger Jan 2016 BFN IUI #13 with Follistim April 2016 BFFN IVF #1 July 2016. 14R, 10F, 6 Day 5 embryos. 4 PGS normal embabies!
peaseblossom55 -I have everything crossed for you. I am hoping this works for you and is your rainbow!
kawaiikitsune -FX that you finally found the key to getting your records!!! I am very invested in how this story ends!!!
Rama -I hope that the financial burden isn’t so much you can’t do another shot. I want everything for you to work!!!! I know a lot of doctors allow an HSG during a treatment cycle and I hope yours is no different!
@siouxsieq-Welcome again. I am hoping your H’s numbers are improved enough for your IUI!!! (and yes MFI is correct-male infertility factor)
hydrangea1019 -Wishing you good healing vibes for your polyp removal!
ugaqueencity -I realized I got your tag wrong and have fixed it! FX the results from your H’s SA show up today!
thelittleredm -I would totally tell my husband to call again too. Hopefully he gets in soon!
thechickencoop -they normally won’t do the HSG during your FW. It is normally scheduled for like days 6-10 so as not to risk any miscarriage side effects and such. FX you are able to do everything needed and be done with testing quickly!
mustloveerica -ISWTE is a fantastic change and will help you look at so much more than just food for improving egg quality. I highly suggest it!
wannabmama-I am so sorry for you loss and not fixing it, I knew about this “update” and just totally missed it on the list. Hugs friend.
Post by snakefisherbub on Apr 18, 2016 13:35:52 GMT -5
Hugs ladies!
I can't temp anymore I never remember and it sucks. FF says O typically from cd 17-21. I hit cd 11, 12, 15, 16, 18, 19, and 21. If my body cooperates this month and is anything like it's normal then I should be good. Ob appointment next Monday, she ordered a shit ton of blood work. I'm not even sure what it was all for, the works apparently. The lab tech took like 8 vials. We'll go over the results and I plan to ask her for the names of the RE in my area.
Post by teachermomtobe on Apr 18, 2016 13:55:24 GMT -5
thechickencoop, GL with your appt next week! Yay for moving forward mustloveerica, That's really frustrating your H stopped taking the vitamins.
Question: I'm thinking about my upcoming IUI. My previous IUIs have been much more painful than I thought they would be. The last one in particular was really bad, they had a really hard time getting the catheter in and the nurse was a n00b which only made it worse. Anyway, I know some people have a full bladder when they do IUI so I will ask about that this time but has anyone taken Tylenol or something the day of IUI to help?
I posted this in randoms but MIL will be here starting Saturday-through next weekend. At least she is staying at her parents but cue anxiety and stress levels going up. Sigh.
I haven't had my period since November and am probably in perimenopause (per RE) and I have my doctor's appointment with a menopause specialist to discuss treatment of symptoms I've been having on Friday. And now over the weekend my body has randomly decided to have me spot off and on but never enough for a liner-more like a little bit there when I wipe. So annoying.
I'm slightly anxious about it especially with MIL coming the next day since I never told her the results of the second RE visit because of how she reacted to us telling her the news of our issues. Do not need her to blame me and state that it's my fault-I already do that enough to myself.
Engaged May 2003 Married June 2005 TTC #1 since October 2014 H-1% morph, low motility, low count Me-.1 AMH levels, low AFC, DOR/POI, perimenopause Foster Care journey begins March 2016-licensed 11/7/16 Foster parents to A & J 1/31/17 www.fertilityfriend.com/home/5525ef
Also, with IF awareness next week I'm wondering if anyone is planning on opening up on Facebook about it here?
I want to in some ways to raise awareness but am scared of who or what comments I may get. But I want to do a big FU to people who are rude and insensitive about this at the same time.
Engaged May 2003 Married June 2005 TTC #1 since October 2014 H-1% morph, low motility, low count Me-.1 AMH levels, low AFC, DOR/POI, perimenopause Foster Care journey begins March 2016-licensed 11/7/16 Foster parents to A & J 1/31/17 www.fertilityfriend.com/home/5525ef
cateyes - thanks for starting! I hope you guys are able to continue your journey. Have you looked into applying for an IVF grant? I remember finding one that was only open to IL and WI residents.... I can send you the link for it if I can find it. teachermomtobe - Glad your follicles are looking good! Hope they continue to grow for your next monitoring appointment. wannabmama - Huge hugs, lady. I hope things resolve quickly so you can move on to IVF #2. rooskie - I'm so sorry you guys are stuck waiting again. And I'm angry for you that the Clomid made things worse for YH. I hope things improve now that he stopped that med. JustJudy - yay for 4 follicles! Hope things look good for trigger at your appointment tomorrow. peaseblossom55 - glad to hear that your IUI went well and YH had great counts! I had a lot of cramping too with my IUI last week. achromia - AHHHHHHHH Congratulations! FX for great betas! kawaiikitsune - FX you get a call soon about your records! I hope this whole thing gets resolved soon. You have been waiting on your old RE long enough! Rama - we did my HSG and our first IUI in the same cycle. My RE doesn't usually do testing and treatment cycles together, but said it would be fine when I specifically requested it. I hope your RE says its ok! siouxsieq - welcome though I'm sorry you find yourself here! What is your H doing/taking to improve his numbers? We have MFI too and MH has been on Clomid, fertility multivitamins, and CoQ10. hydrangea1019 - Good luck to YH for his repeat SA! H did his first one after 2.5 days of abstinence, and his second one after 3.5. Interestingly, some counts (concentration) were better after 2.5 days, and other counts (motility, morphology) were better after 3.5 days. ugaqueencity - hope you don't have to wait too long for the SA results and hope it's good news! thelittleredm - FX your H can get his testing scheduled soon! thechickencoop - good luck at your appointment next week! I know that my insurance required pre-approval before my HSG, so definitely call them ahead of time if you want to schedule that. mustloveerica - I'm pretty sure MH forgets his vitamins and medications more often than he admits to me... I hope YH gets more consistent about taking his vitamins. snakefisherbub - good luck this cycle!
AFM, I'm just hanging out at 6 DPO in IUI cycle #1. It's too early to feel anything either way so I'm trying to be relaxed about everything. I do have more hope than usual but I also know the stats and that IUIs only have a 5-10% chance of working for us. I have my progesterone check tomorrow so hopefully things will be okay and I won't have to do the vaginal suppositories...
QOTW: I love running outside, and I'm excited to run more often now that it's warming up!
My H had his SA today, my doctor said to give it 72 hours for the results to be posted on their patient portal. Hopefully it'll be good news. In the meantime, I'm spotting but still waiting for CD1 to get my labs setup
I'm still kind of amazed at how quickly SA results come back. My bloodwork took a full week! I kind of wish I could take a field trip down to the lab and see what happens to the SA. My knowledge of how labs work, and science in general, is kind of pathetic. I envision white coats, goggles, and laser beams.
I'm a scientist and could probably do most of the lab work they do for SAs, sperm washing for IUIs, and even some of the embryo work for IVF. I sometimes wonder if my RE would let me help with anything if I asked... probably not.
Question: I'm thinking about my upcoming IUI. My previous IUIs have been much more painful than I thought they would be. The last one in particular was really bad, they had a really hard time getting the catheter in and the nurse was a n00b which only made it worse. Anyway, I know some people have a full bladder when they do IUI so I will ask about that this time but has anyone taken Tylenol or something the day of IUI to help?
I've only had one IUI so far, but it was also pretty painful. They had a lot of trouble getting the catheter in, and I think that's what contributed to the pain. I had a ridiculously full bladder for the procedure (which actually added to the pain cause I had to pee so bad) and that didn't help in my particular case. If we need to do more IUIs, I will probably take tylenol that day to help with the pain and cramping (but still need to check with the RE to see if that's okay).
I'm still kind of amazed at how quickly SA results come back. My bloodwork took a full week! I kind of wish I could take a field trip down to the lab and see what happens to the SA. My knowledge of how labs work, and science in general, is kind of pathetic. I envision white coats, goggles, and laser beams.
I'm a scientist and could probably do most of the lab work they do for SAs, sperm washing for IUIs, and even some of the embryo work for IVF. I sometimes wonder if my RE would let me help with anything if I asked... probably not.
All of this is beyond comprehension. Like, how does one even go about washing sperm? I want to Google but scared. Props to you for being science-minded. I am truly in awe.
Post by teachermomtobe on Apr 18, 2016 15:12:07 GMT -5
achromia, Ahhhh all the congrats! butlerfan, I also thought about "coming out" on FB about IF. I don't know that I'm ready to yet. I feel like if/when we get a BFP and share the news on FB I will include something in our announcement about IF and our struggle. I'd have to see if DH was on board though.
TTC since July 2014. CP March 2015. IVF #1 March 2016, 5R, 3M, 2F with ICSI. Transferred 2 on day 3. CP. Surprise BFP and then CP August 2016 (prep cycle for IVF). IVF #2: zero eggs retrieved IVF #3: 6R, 5M, 5F, 3 (2 8A and 1 11A) transferred, one "B" graded embryo frozen on day 5. BFP (at home 7dp3dt, confirmed 14dp3dt with 1552 beta) and U/S at 5w5d, 2 sacs and 2 yolks!
I have an acquaintance from high school that I'm still FB friends with. We haven't talked since high school and honestly weren't very close then either. But she's alluded to IF on facebook before and recently posted a GoFundMe for her and her husband pursuing donor eggs. She said in the post that they've done IUIs, IVF, etc and now know that they need to use donor eggs.
So... the GoFundMe was for $30k. I really want to tell her that donor eggs overseas (Czech Republic) is much more affordable (right? I don't remember the exact amounts but I remember our DE in Czech girls said it was significantly cheaper than doing DE in the US). Would it be weird for me to reach out to her through FB messages and ask if they've looked into international DE? Maybe they've already considered that and ruled it out, but I know that many here have had a great experience doing DE overseas and I would want her to be aware that it's a more affordable option. But I don't want to totally weird her out since we haven't spoken in 12 years.
Also, with IF awareness next week I'm wondering if anyone is planning on opening up on Facebook about it here?
I want to in some ways to raise awareness but am scared of who or what comments I may get. But I want to do a big FU to people who are rude and insensitive about this at the same time.
We have been very vocal about our IF and I usually post something each day of IF awareness week. Sometimes it is our blog, sometimes a picture or meme, sometimes an article. People have been supportive 99% of the time and when they aren't, others will jump in and protect/defend us. Especially if you are friends with any ladies from here! And if people say stupid things, I usually try and shrug it off and think to myself, "you" are the reason I do this.
Post by peaseblossom55 on Apr 18, 2016 15:40:06 GMT -5
ceejay, I wouldn't say it's weird to contact her at all. I didn't need a full bladder for the iui. It hurt a tiny bit during but way more after. I feel like the egg retrieval for IVF was not as bad.
Hey pretty ladies, not a whole lot of exciting stuff happening over here. I had my pre op appointment with Dr. P (who is still amazeballs). We discussed the ins and outs of the surgery, and discussed how the med they give me to soften my cervix is the devil, all good stuff.
We briefly talked about protocol, she is putting me on a long lupron protocol this time, and we will be staying at 375 Gonal-F and 75 Menopur, but she said she would bump me up to 450 if I needed to. She's still afraid of overstimulating so we will see how it goes.
Just over here waiting to O so I can get AF and start the very long month of May aka month of BCP hell. Wheeee
IUI 1-3 BFN IVF #1 - Oct '15 - 10R, 3M, 0F IVF #2 - August 16 - 12R, 11M, 5F. 1 to transfer and 2 to freeze - BFP!! - MMC caught at 7w5d FET #1 - 1/26 - BFP, due 10/14
Post by ohinvrtedworld on Apr 18, 2016 15:48:57 GMT -5
ceejay, I am putting myself in her shoes and thinking that if someone I knew from a long time ago contacted me, I'd appreciate that info it if I really had no idea that I could save money AND have a vacation abroad You could frame it like "you totally may have already looked into this and thought through all your options, but in the case you hadn't, this is cheaper blah blah blah. I know people who had a great experience in blah country for example."
Since she publicly made her IF known, I think it's also nice knowing that there are people who understand what you're going through either way!
Post by teachermomtobe on Apr 18, 2016 15:54:37 GMT -5
ceejay, I'm trying to think how I'd feel in that situation. Personally I wouldn't start off with "Hey DE are cheaper overseas" just because you don't know what they have or have not already considered. I would definitely contact her, maybe share your IF journey, and see if she opens up to you with more details and then you could suggest DE abroad.
Post by wannabmama on Apr 18, 2016 15:55:45 GMT -5
I agree with others ceejay that reaching out to her, especially framing it the way @ohinvertedworld suggested, would be nice. I'd appreciate it if I were in her shoes. Also, I didn't have full bladder for IUI either time and it was mildly uncomfortable but not painful. I did take something before, probably Tylenol but I'm not actually sure.
TTC since July 2014. CP March 2015. IVF #1 March 2016, 5R, 3M, 2F with ICSI. Transferred 2 on day 3. CP. Surprise BFP and then CP August 2016 (prep cycle for IVF). IVF #2: zero eggs retrieved IVF #3: 6R, 5M, 5F, 3 (2 8A and 1 11A) transferred, one "B" graded embryo frozen on day 5. BFP (at home 7dp3dt, confirmed 14dp3dt with 1552 beta) and U/S at 5w5d, 2 sacs and 2 yolks!
ceejay, I guess I'm on the opposite end from everyone else. While I wouldn't go BSC on you via FB messanger, I don't know if I would be open to receiving your message. Somedays the failed IUIs, the failed IVFs, the tens of thousands of dollars we've spent on IF already makes extra work like going overseas seem like the proverbial straw that just may make me lose my mind, you know?
I assume she's done a lot of googling and has had a lot of options thrown at her, so just keep that in mind if you do message her.
IUI 1-3 BFN IVF #1 - Oct '15 - 10R, 3M, 0F IVF #2 - August 16 - 12R, 11M, 5F. 1 to transfer and 2 to freeze - BFP!! - MMC caught at 7w5d FET #1 - 1/26 - BFP, due 10/14
ceejay Do it. If she already knows, great! If she didn't, now she knows! If she doesn't want to hear it, you can support her anyway. God knows we need to stick together in infertility.
JustJudy I want to have another HSG because of the ectopic. Fx our doctor will let me do it!
I have an acquaintance from high school that I'm still FB friends with. We haven't talked since high school and honestly weren't very close then either. But she's alluded to IF on facebook before and recently posted a GoFundMe for her and her husband pursuing donor eggs. She said in the post that they've done IUIs, IVF, etc and now know that they need to use donor eggs.
So... the GoFundMe was for $30k. I really want to tell her that donor eggs overseas (Czech Republic) is much more affordable (right? I don't remember the exact amounts but I remember our DE in Czech girls said it was significantly cheaper than doing DE in the US). Would it be weird for me to reach out to her through FB messages and ask if they've looked into international DE? Maybe they've already considered that and ruled it out, but I know that many here have had a great experience doing DE overseas and I would want her to be aware that it's a more affordable option. But I don't want to totally weird her out since we haven't spoken in 12 years.
Do youJ think I should contact her or not?
If it were me, I'd love to have someone reach out who knows what they are talking about. I'd send a short message just reaching out as a show of support and let her know you have done a lot of reading up on donor eggs and the options available if she ever wants to compare notes. I think you'll get a good sense from how she replies whether she'd be open to your info. I wouldn't let the 12 years thing hold you back. That means nothing now thanks to FB!
Engaged May 2003 Married June 2005 TTC #1 since October 2014 H-1% morph, low motility, low count Me-.1 AMH levels, low AFC, DOR/POI, perimenopause Foster Care journey begins March 2016-licensed 11/7/16 Foster parents to A & J 1/31/17 www.fertilityfriend.com/home/5525ef
ceejay , I am putting myself in her shoes and thinking that if someone I knew from a long time ago contacted me, I'd appreciate that info it if I really had no idea that I could save money AND have a vacation abroad You could frame it like "you totally may have already looked into this and thought through all your options, but in the case you hadn't, this is cheaper blah blah blah. I know people who had a great experience in blah country for example."
Since she publicly made her IF known, I think it's also nice knowing that there are people who understand what you're going through either way!
Engaged May 2003 Married June 2005 TTC #1 since October 2014 H-1% morph, low motility, low count Me-.1 AMH levels, low AFC, DOR/POI, perimenopause Foster Care journey begins March 2016-licensed 11/7/16 Foster parents to A & J 1/31/17 www.fertilityfriend.com/home/5525ef
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