My Mom was there, and I hope she can make it in time for this birth too (they live 1500 miles away so they're planning to come a few days before my due date or catch a flight once I go into labor to help watch DS even if they miss the birth). But I am the real odd ball in that it's actually my husband who wants her in the room most of all. I am pretty sure he'd happily move her into an inlaw apartment in our house permanently. She's great at being helpful without being intrusive, and really respects boundaries. We all get along really really well. She was able to be our "been there, done that, and you too will get through this" voice of experience and reason.
My Mom was there, and I hope she can make it in time for this birth too (they live 1500 miles away so they're planning to come a few days before my due date or catch a flight once I go into labor to help watch DS even if they miss the birth). But I am the real odd ball in that it's actually my husband who wants her in the room most of all. I am pretty sure he'd happily move her into an inlaw apartment in our house permanently. She's great at being helpful without being intrusive, and really respects boundaries. We all get along really really well. She was able to be our "been there, done that, and you too will get through this" voice of experience and reason.
My mom is the same way, and she was a huge help when we had DS. At the time we were living halfway across the country from home; she'd intended to come out after the birth but as it turned out, I had a schedule induction so she was able to be there for everything. She stayed for about 10 days and I cried when we took her to the airport.
I feel really fortunate that we are in my hometown this time around.
My Mom was there, and I hope she can make it in time for this birth too (they live 1500 miles away so they're planning to come a few days before my due date or catch a flight once I go into labor to help watch DS even if they miss the birth). But I am the real odd ball in that it's actually my husband who wants her in the room most of all. I am pretty sure he'd happily move her into an inlaw apartment in our house permanently. She's great at being helpful without being intrusive, and really respects boundaries. We all get along really really well. She was able to be our "been there, done that, and you too will get through this" voice of experience and reason.
My mom is the same way, and she was a huge help when we had DS. At the time we were living halfway across the country from home; she'd intended to come out after the birth but as it turned out, I had a schedule induction so she was able to be there for everything. She stayed for about 10 days and I cried when we took her to the airport.
I feel really fortunate that we are in my hometown this time around.
There's a duty station within an hour of my parents' house and they are hoping so hard (as are we) that we get sent there next. It would be great to be near family with two young kids. I am good at this independent lifestyle usually but I feel like my son and my parents are missing out on something not living closer.
Plus super overqualified free babysitting occasionally. Omg I would die of joy.
calindi My H is also military so I know exactly what you mean. I hope your next set of orders gets you closer to home!
We were lucky in that my hometown is also a huge Navy area (which is how my H and I met to begin with). We are hoping to be here for a few years and a huge part of that is having family close by--both for selfish reasons (haha, baby-sitting like you said) and just to foster those close relationships. I know we'll have to leave eventually for career advancement and it already makes me sad. It will be a lot harder to leave with kids than it was when it was just me and DH starting our married life together.
So we will have an OB at a hospital, same as last time. I am probably the type that would like a MW, but I also like familiarity and predictability. I would feel way more comfortable and confidant going to the same place and knowing (to an extent), what to expect.
I went med free last time, which was my goal, but I still don't know if that was the right decision. That shit was painful and I felt out of control for most of my labor. The saving grace, maybe, was that it was so fast. So although I would consider an epidural this time, I probably won't have time. My OB told me after my last delivery, next time you're pregnant, come to the hospital immediately cause you might not make it. K, thanks, why don't I just heal from this one first.
And although my mom lives no where near us, in would NOT have her in the room with me. One of my sisters, yes, but mom, nope. Also, I only want H and people that don't know me to see me in that state again. It wasn't pretty.
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