I've only been to church once with my LO and that was to get him baptized. It seems impossible to bring him. I feel guilty because I have no problem getting to all my mommy & baby groups.
We were like this too and my husband is a priest. I finally told myself the same thing. I just need to make it part of our routine like a mommy group I do during the week. It took a while but I finally started going with her 2 weeks ago. It's hard! I was always in the bathroom with her when we went when she was first born or a different room and then trying to keep her quiet. We just stopped going. I finally said people will just have to understand if she's not quiet the whole time. I take a blanket toys and puffs and she seems to do well with it the last 2 Sundays. Anyway don't feel bad it's hard!! You get to Sunday and you're just exhausted.
That's exactly how I feel. My dh works 6 days a week and midnights at that. When Sunday hits I'm just too tired and want to hang out just the three of us. My DH will be off for a couple months for shut down soon I guess we shall try then.
I've only been to church once with my LO and that was to get him baptized. It seems impossible to bring him. I feel guilty because I have no problem getting to all my mommy & baby groups.
Jake goes to the nursery.
We don't send dd to the nursery yet because she is still nursing and typically needs to eat smack dab in the middle of the service
That makes sense. People at our church always bring them in for the mass. Our priest encourages that. I guess I feel stressed knowing that he's going to be super loud and disruptive.
We bring DS to mass every Sunday. He is loud, he screams, he cries, he wiggles around. We make it work. It's important to us that we go and that he goes, too. We have gotten a few glares and whatnot, but really, Catholics not wanting babies around..... Yeah, right!
That makes sense. People at our church always bring them in for the mass. Our priest encourages that. I guess I feel stressed knowing that he's going to be super loud and disruptive.
We bring DS to mass every Sunday. He is loud, he screams, he cries, he wiggles around. We make it work. It's important to us that we go and that he goes, too. We have gotten a few glares and whatnot, but really, Catholics not wanting babies around..... Yeah, right!
DS and DD are so welcome at mass. I was really nervous about taking DS initially, but the priest encourages babies, kids and all sorts of noise. No one seems to bother - I think it's better that children are welcome and families made to feel relaxed. I know that's what Jesus would want that's for sure!! We have it down to perfection - there is plenty singing up until the gospel reading to keep DS occupied. He gets a quick feed during the homily to keep him super quiet. When we are all kneeling during the Eucharist, I let him stand holding onto the pew infront and he seems to just enjoy balancing and trying to grab the people in front of him. I take him up to be blessed and he tries to grab the communion wine and by the time we sit back down it's nearly over. I love taking him and I genuinely think the church love having him there (well either that or they are good at hiding their true feelings ha ha!!)
buster - DD has started saying 'you said a baa wowd' to me...even though she only does that when I say mother of pearl or fudge monkeys and tator tots (my new kid friendly curses). She doesn't seem to catch my actual sailor outbursts, thank goodness!
We bring DS to mass every Sunday. He is loud, he screams, he cries, he wiggles around. We make it work. It's important to us that we go and that he goes, too. We have gotten a few glares and whatnot, but really, Catholics not wanting babies around..... Yeah, right!
DS and DD are so welcome at mass. I was really nervous about taking DS initially, but the priest encourages babies, kids and all sorts of noise. No one seems to bother - I think it's better that children are welcome and families made to feel relaxed. I know that's what Jesus would want that's for sure!! We have it down to perfection - there is plenty singing up until the gospel reading to keep DS occupied. He gets a quick feed during the homily to keep him super quiet. When we are all kneeling during the Eucharist, I let him stand holding onto the pew infront and he seems to just enjoy balancing and trying to grab the people in front of him. I take him up to be blessed and he tries to grab the communion wine and by the time we sit back down it's nearly over. I love taking him and I genuinely think the church love having him there (well either that or they are good at hiding their true feelings ha ha!!)
I joke and call myself a retired Catholic. LO is not baptized and will only be if we decide we want her in the Cdn Catholic school system.
That being said, I LOVE the church I grew up in! Soooooo baby friendly, even if they're screaming. The church was renovated approx 20 years ago now and when they did the renos they built a beautiful parents room where if you really want you can go in, hear and see mass but it's sound proof so if your kid is losing their mind you don't have to feel embarrassed about it. I love knowing if I ever go back to church that they have this little hideaway!
I've only been to church once with my LO and that was to get him baptized. It seems impossible to bring him. I feel guilty because I have no problem getting to all my mommy & baby groups.
I have this problem too except I find it hard to get there cause it's just me and DS on the weekends. I think when he's older and I don't have to hold him the whole time it'll be easier to go to church.
ETA: We go to the Cathedral Basilica in St Louis and the few times I have gone, I've ended up walking up and down with DS in the carrier near one of the doors until DS fell asleep.
I've only been to church once with my LO and that was to get him baptized. It seems impossible to bring him. I feel guilty because I have no problem getting to all my mommy & baby groups.
I have this problem too except I find it hard to get there cause it's just me and DS on the weekends. I think when he's older and I don't have to hold him the whole time it'll be easier to go to church.
Same... DH works on Sundays so we never make it. My church has a great nursery & nursing room though so I really have no excuse. Just laziness.
I have this problem too except I find it hard to get there cause it's just me and DS on the weekends. I think when he's older and I don't have to hold him the whole time it'll be easier to go to church.
Same... DH works on Sundays so we never make it. My church has a great nursery & nursing room though so I really have no excuse. Just laziness.
We take DD every week but it sounds easier to be an evangelical.
We have nursery and a cry room. We take her to nursery but sometimes bring her for the music. She loves to "sing". It's so loud with the drums and guitar that it doesn't interrupt others.
Same... DH works on Sundays so we never make it. My church has a great nursery & nursing room though so I really have no excuse. Just laziness.
We take DD every week but it sounds easier to be an evangelical.
We have nursery and a cry room. We take her to nursery but sometimes bring her for the music. She loves to "sing". It's so loud with the drums and guitar that it doesn't interrupt others.
When I was growing up, our church had a cry room, but I don't know of any Catholic churches that have one these days and the one in my childhood parish has been converted to storage space.
We take DD every week but it sounds easier to be an evangelical.
We have nursery and a cry room. We take her to nursery but sometimes bring her for the music. She loves to "sing". It's so loud with the drums and guitar that it doesn't interrupt others.
When I was growing up, our church had a cry room, but I don't know of any Catholic churches that have one these days and the one in my childhood parish has been converted to storage space.
At our church parents are encouraged to stay in the church, not go to the vestibule. We end up walking in the side aisle with DS sometimes. But really, babies are babies and they're going to do what baby things. God put the wiggle in them!
It's ok to not be upset. People have different personalities and react differently to things. There are no rules how you should feel about your life, as long as you don't tell someone who is upset that they shouldn't be. It's ok to be ok even if something bad happened, you know? I hope I don't sound like a total dingdong. I mean, if you think you should be upset maybe talk to somebody about it, but if you're really ok then good for you.
Totally agree! I was upset for a day after my CP. Other people feel as though they are missing a child. I would never make anyone feel weird for being sad and I hope nobody has made you feel weird for being OK.
Thanks yvanehtnioj, sisterjanet and @usernameedit. I certainly never think anyone shouldn't be entitled to be upset by what affects them. I don't feel I am in anyway an unfeeling person, so I guess it sometimes just makes me feel weird when I read or speak with individuals who have such a depth of feeling for something I have moved on from. This is a hard topic as I in no way want to offend anyone I guess everyone processes loss differently.
Post by jennyinheaven on Feb 8, 2015 7:41:39 GMT -5
Oh and just to way in about church, We don't make it all the time, I work some Saturday nights and it is hard to function and get us there on a few hours sleep. We will go today, when we make it, DD goes to the nursery. Our church is cool with babies in service but the few times I brought her in she gets restless and she seems to.like her nursery time with the other babies.
Umm, cause this is kinda a confession. Babe is sick for the first time. Low grade fever (100.7), runny nose, trouble breathing, restless sleep. So I am only learning what to do with her.
Any tips? I have the cool most humidifier going in her room when she sleeps.
kittyriot DDs has had the same. Just stay on top of the congestion with saline & the nosefrida. If the fever lingers you may want to get her ears checked because it can lead to an ear infection. Good luck & hopefully she feels better soon!
Thanks scout251 ! We never invested in the Nosefreida. We'll attempt the bulb!
I actually wound up throwing our bulb out because it wasn't strong enough suction for her serious congestion. Then I saw a picture on facebook of someone who cut theirs open and it was all moldy in there from not being able to fully dry out.
Safety 1st makes a bulb that comes apart so you can wash it, if you're not down with the nosefrida. I think mine came in like their $10-15 baby care kit. Not sure if they sell it by itself.
Oh good thoughts. Thanks. I had planned on getting the Nosefreida but LO didn't catch anything and that went on for a while so I put it off. I may order it from Amazon today in the hopes of it arriving tomorrow.
I second the nose Frieda and saline. Humidifier, and if she starts coughing, prop up the mattress and put Vicks on her feet. I use a warm mist humidifier in winter because the cool one makes his room cold.
I second the nose Frieda and saline. Humidifier, and if she starts coughing, prop up the mattress and put Vicks on her feet. I use a warm mist humidifier in winter because the cool one makes his room cold.
I propped DD mattress up the other night because she was coughing and she wiggled herself to the top while asleep. When she woke up she sat up and rolled down the mattress. I have to admit I laughed inside a little :-)
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