I was raised catholic, but no longer belong to the church. My older kids have god parents, and we're baptized in a Protestant church. We will probably do the same with this LO. We'll choose close friends that we would leave the kids to if something happened.
Post by NatashaBromanoff on Feb 6, 2015 12:45:26 GMT -5
My husband's family is catholic and the baptism convo has come up with them a few times. Neither my husband nor I are religious these days, and I wasn't even catholic to begin with, so probably not formally.
Informally I would like to leave guardianship to my sister or our married best friends.
Post by atangiblewish on Feb 6, 2015 13:13:18 GMT -5
We did not do this with DD#1 and won't with DD#2. But to answer your questions. I am the godmother to my best friends daughter. So we aren't related and I am not catholic either. Actually I am Jewish.
My husband was raised in a church where they don't get baptized until they're older and make the decision themselves. And I was raised in hippie church, the one "baptism" I ever saw was done with roses. So we don't have to navigate the baptism thing, though we'll do a blessing/dedication thing.
But I like the title God-parents, even if it doesn't technically apply to our situation. Though Guardian is definitely more accurate.
Add me to the heathen camp we won't baptize DS and we aren't choosing godparents. We are writing guardianship into our will though.
Heeeaaaathen!!!!!! Blasphe-me!! Blasphe-you!!!!
Heathens here, too. No baptism. No godparents. But we do have Special Friends, or will. This is how my atheist aunt and uncle handled the guardianship/godparent thing for their boys. The boys had their Special Friends to whom they could go for guidance and advice and who would become their legal guardians should the worst happen. We don't have ours picked out, though. None of our friends are married and/or want children. And his family is totally out. Most of my family is, as well. I have a cousin I may approach with the idea, though. It is very important to us that he be raised a particular way and I know that my parents and H's mother would not adhere to those wishes.
We are not religious, but LO will be baptized and will have God parents who will be asked to take care of LO if something were to happen to me and/or SO.
I'm in the same boat as luvsponies as far as I am catholic and DH is not. We got married in the church and while I am not super active, I still want to have her baptized. My parents would be devastated if we didn't, and they were the driving force behind our marriage in the church. I had a hard time with the godparent thing, as not many of our friends are catholic. We have asked my brother to be her godfather, and I asked my best friend who isn't catholic to be her "sponsor" in the eyes of the church, although I would consider her to be the godmother. We will most likely choose different people (my parents) to put in our Will, should something happen to both of us.
Lurking from April 15 here... My mom's family is Catholic so my brothers and I had godparents. Mostly it was an honorary title, but I always had an extra special relationship with my aunt who was my godmother. DH and I are Protestant, not Catholic, but will have godparents for our LO as an honorary thing because it was special in my family. We've asked my brother and DH's sister. We haven't picked legal guardians in case something were to happen yet.
Post by graciest719 on Feb 6, 2015 18:03:32 GMT -5
Kind of opposite, but I am in the will as the legal guardian of my BFFs kid if something happens, but I am not his Godmother. That is someone else. DH and I will not be having godparents. We are non religious, and I feel like naming someone as a Godmother or father would make me a hypocrite.
We are religious but are not picking god parents. We have however picked the people we would like to cate for our daughter in case we are gone or can't. Eh i just always saw the whole god parent thing as more ceremonial rather than functional. Just my opinion. Baby won't be baptized. We don't do that at our church. We do baby dedications. SOs best-ish friend brought it up to him about how he wanted to be a god parent for the baby which i aisle found a little odd. He just told him that we were not picking any.
I was raised Catholic but we're not religious. I was thinking of doing a baptism as a cultural tradition. As for picking a godparent I thought it was nice to have unrelated godparents. They were my mom's friends and my godmother still sends me things every christmas and has been writing to me about her excitement for the baby. My relatives would treat me special either way, so its a bonus. As far as guardians, that's really tough. We don't have any friends who are in that place yet and cousins live far away. Our parents are older and single except FIL (he would be perfect on paper but we don't want that) and I can't really see them having a young child full time.
Another joining team heathen. Our kid will have guardians, hopefully DH's brother and his wife. Our parents are not up to the task, and my brother still lives at home, so the B&SIL were natural choices. I would want the kid(s) to stay in the family if they were to lose us.
I think you all realize this, but I need to stress that godparents do NOT equal guardians in the legal world. If you want a certain person to care for your child should something happen to you, it's imperative that you have a will stating exactly what you want. No one wants an ugly custody battle between grandparents and friends may be hesitant to step in I f they do not know your intentions or need to hire a lawyer to fight someone else for custody.
H is Catholic but I have NRP. We baptized DD, but as others have said let her choose later on if she wants to continue. I think both godparents had to be Catholic. We will do the same for this LO, but have no clue who the godparents will be. Wondering if it would be weird to use the same ones we did for DD?
It's not weird, my brother and I have the same Godparents
Post by melissat2742 on Feb 6, 2015 21:10:55 GMT -5
We are not having our child baptized. We have discussed who we would want to raise our children if something happens to us. Not the "god parent" title though.
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God parents are a Catholic thing. Most other denominations call them Baptismal Sponsors. That being said we still call DS's his godparents. Less of a mouthfull! Haha!
Anyway, my brother and SIL are DS's and will be DD's as well. They are religious (and I wanted to pick a couple that will provide spiritual guidance) and will remain stable in our children's lives. I have many friends I'd love to honor with it, but they may not be around forever and I want to pick someone who will be in their lives until adulthood.
They are also who we picked to take custody of our children should something happen to DH and I. So it seemed logical that they should also be the Godparents.
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