Post by preservation on May 7, 2016 7:53:33 GMT -5
Hi everyone My chilhood friend recommended this site to me after I had three pregnancy losses in the past two years (one pregnancy where baby had a major birth defecT and was going to be stillborn and two early misscarriages)....after all her support of me my friend just had a full term stillborn baby...I am taking it hard and am trying to be supportive but we don't live close to each other. It's devestating and I feel so sad. I have this irrational feeling which I know is not true that my bad luck got transfered to her. I don't want this to be about me though. I try to tell her things like it's noT her fault and she isn't a failure and she hasn't dissapointed anyone but I know how much pain she is going through and that she just needs time and that no one can really say anything that's going to make that pain go away
I'm so sorry for your losses, and your friends loss. My daughter was a full term stillbirth as well. I think all you can do is be there for her. Don't tell her everything happens for a reason, or things like that. You know better than most that those things sting beyond measure.
Your bad luck did not transfer to her. I know you may feel that way, but that is impossible. It always feel good to have someone to "blame", though so I understand your thinking. I hope your friend knows that you are there to listen. Has she joined us here yet? I would encourage her to intro here. These ladies have been the light during my dark days. Sending love and hugs to you and your friend.
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