kleigh, you need to tell yh that you have needs and bj's aren't cutting it. Have you reminded him that sex after babies may be a while? So, take advantage of your baby free time now.
Oh no, my needs are still met of course! And I can't orgasm from sex alone anyway - I just like it. To be fair, I knew this would be the case, we've discussed it month after month pre-pregnancy and we've discussed it every couple weeks since just seeing if he can get past it mentally but no such luck. He is just one of those people that doesn't have a raging sex drive like me to begin with so we've found a lot of other ways to be intimate over the years.
Is everyone else's discharge really that significant? Why am I always the one with no symptoms? Mine is just like normal pre-menstrual discharge, same quantity etc.
This is not something you really want to be jealous of not getting.
There are days when I wonder if I have incontinence; my panties are just too wet for comfort. It's not regular enough for me to think, I need to wear a liner today.
Not jealous per se, but was wondering comparatively because I can't tell if my symptoms really are naught or if others are just very fine tuned into their symptoms (which I used to be in TWW).
kleigh , you need to tell yh that you have needs and bj's aren't cutting it. Have you reminded him that sex after babies may be a while? So, take advantage of your baby free time now.
Oh no, my needs are still met of course! And I can't orgasm from sex alone anyway - I just like it. To be fair, I knew this would be the case, we've discussed it month after month pre-pregnancy and we've discussed it every couple weeks since just seeing if he can get past it mentally but no such luck. He is just one of those people that doesn't have a raging sex drive like me to begin with so we've found a lot of other ways to be intimate over the years.
Glad to hear your good and doing followups with YH. Maybe you'll wear him down haha, just kidding. If this works for you guys, that's what's important.
This is not something you really want to be jealous of not getting.
There are days when I wonder if I have incontinence; my panties are just too wet for comfort. It's not regular enough for me to think, I need to wear a liner today.
Not jealous per se, but was wondering comparatively because I can't tell if my symptoms really are naught or if others are just very fine tuned into their symptoms (which I used to be in TWW).
I didn't have any discharge whatsoever last pregnancy until 3rd tri but even then I was just peeing myself when I coughed, sneezed, laughed...
This is not something you really want to be jealous of not getting.
There are days when I wonder if I have incontinence; my panties are just too wet for comfort. It's not regular enough for me to think, I need to wear a liner today.
Not jealous per se, but was wondering comparatively because I can't tell if my symptoms really are naught or if others are just very fine tuned into their symptoms (which I used to be in TWW).
I haven't had a lot yet this pregnancy. I think I didn't get it bad enough for a panty liner until later on.
Post by tallblonde on May 24, 2016 19:04:21 GMT -5
I've had a noticeable amount but not in liner territory yet. It used to be predictable based on cycle, but it's everyday now.
kleigh mh was the same last time but he learned the hard way that I will have negative interest in sex for about 6 months after (I had some issues with scar tissue from my tears)...so this time he is all about it, and of course now I'm not that interested.
kleigh I'll second the super long postpartum lack of interest in sex. And not just a lack of interest but I also had excess scar tissue that made it hurt so bad I was literally in tears. Once it was removed it got better, but I had it removed when L was 7 months. I honestly had just started to enjoy it again when we decided to start ttc again which was when L turned 1. It sounds like you've got a system that works for you, though. I commend you for being willing to give bjs. I dislike oral sex in general and we just don't. DH doesn't seem to mind, though.
Eta: I also 100% say take advantage of the time you have now to have sex/do sexual stuff together. I wish I had been less nervous about it when I was pregmant with L because once I could feel her all the time and I was huge, sex was soooo awkward. We had to stop a couple of times because she was rolling around and once when I was like 38 weeks it was so comical we couldn't finish because we both started laughing about how awkward it was (I was insanely big since I carried entirely in front).
My rave is that I only have to do this for like 5ish more months.
Holy shit. YES.
I might not wear shorts in public this summer. And this will get fixed after baby even though I'm (hopefully) not done having kids yet.
You might want to consider waiting until after you are done having babies for sure. Every doctor I have talked to about them -- which is three -- has said they will just come back. Mine are much worse than last time already.
I might not wear shorts in public this summer. And this will get fixed after baby even though I'm (hopefully) not done having kids yet.
You might want to consider waiting until after you are done having babies for sure. Every doctor I have talked to about them -- which is three -- has said they will just come back. Mine are much worse than last time already.
I'll admit it, this is definitely one of those 'do as I say, not as I do' situations. Your advice is the same advice I would give to any other female patient. I work a lot with vascular and see on a first hand basis how tenacious varicose veins are. I'm truly hoping I eventually just don't GAF, but right now my skin is rebelling in every single way it possibly can and I'm feeling very ugly duckling. Will I necessarily get them fixed immediately? Probably not. Am I going to say it right now to make myself feel better? Yes.
You might want to consider waiting until after you are done having babies for sure. Every doctor I have talked to about them -- which is three -- has said they will just come back. Mine are much worse than last time already.
I'll admit it, this is definitely one of those 'do as I say, not as I do' situations. Your advice is the same advice I would give to any other female patient. I work a lot with vascular and see on a first hand basis how tenacious varicose veins are. I'm truly hoping I eventually just don't GAF, but right now my skin is rebelling in every single way it possibly can and I'm feeling very ugly duckling. Will I necessarily get them fixed immediately? Probably not. Am I going to say it right now to make myself feel better? Yes.
I am rocking shorts today because IDGAF (actually, I rarely GAF about anything, let's be real) and comfort is more important than worrying about my fucking ugly legs. Pardon my language.
Did you have varicose veins prior to pregnancy? The area I have trouble with is one that has had a problem for probably 20+ years, starting in my late teen years. But it was pretty minor until about 5 or so years ago. I was fortunate to not have hemorrhoids last pregnancy (by some miracle of God), but I did have a vulvar varicosity and I can already see where it's going to pop out this time. I can pretty much see the problem vein from my vag to my ankle. It's all on my left side, runs down the hamstring, around my knee to my inner calf down to my ankle. I don't get the super dark ones, I get the super swollen ones. I am SO excited for surgery. They are achy and tender all of the time.
My grandmother had terrible varicose veins but my mother did not. Damn her! (She also got pregnant just by someone looking at her sideways, never had a miscarriage, and had relatively easy pregnancies. I kind of hate her a little bit.)
Post by sophiegrace on May 25, 2016 18:37:30 GMT -5
Behind my knees and off to the lateral side of both my legs for as long as I can remember, but the left leg has just exploded since my last pregnancy. I had weird body issues after my loss and can't tell you for the life of me if it improved, stayed he same, or continued to worsen from that point until now. I just started looking at myself again in our full length mirrors because of HDBD and that when I saw it and investigated. Lefty goes from mid quad to ankle and righty comes from behind my knee and wraps around to my shin. Unless I'm really tan my veins are always visible right under the service so the varicose veins are really dark. When I do get surgery I'll definitely have them start with the deep veins to find where the problem is originating. Hopefully if that gets taken care of along with the superficial ones it'll keep more from showing up.
Behind my knees and off to the lateral side of both my legs for as long as I can remember, but the left leg has just exploded since my last pregnancy. I had weird body issues after my loss and can't tell you for the life of me if it improved, stayed he same, or continued to worsen from that point until now. *snip*
I know my situation is not nearly the same as yours was, but I had terrible body issues after my first loss. I felt like it failed me and that it didn't deserve me taking care of it. So I can totally get at least the gist of how that feels.
The next three losses weren't as bad, at least for that aspect of things.
Behind my knees and off to the lateral side of both my legs for as long as I can remember, but the left leg has just exploded since my last pregnancy. I had weird body issues after my loss and can't tell you for the life of me if it improved, stayed he same, or continued to worsen from that point until now. *snip*
I know my situation is not nearly the same as yours was, but I had terrible body issues after my first loss. I felt like it failed me and that it didn't deserve me taking care of it. So I can totally get at least the gist of how that feels.
The next three losses weren't as bad, at least for that aspect of things.
Thank you for understanding, it's not an easy thing to describe and you just helped me explain my own thoughts a bit better through your own experience.
I might not wear shorts in public this summer. And this will get fixed after baby even though I'm (hopefully) not done having kids yet.
A friend of mine had horrible varicose veins during her recent pregnancy, to the point where she had to wear the compression stockings, etc. She was worried she'd need to have them treated post-baby. Fortunately within a week or two of her baby being born in March, they were 95% improved, and she is 100% back to normal now. Hopefully it will work out that way for y'all, as well!
Unfortunately, I've had them for over 20 years and they are not going to get better. Mine weren't created by pregnancy, but pregnancy definitely makes them worse. I just ordered my compression stockings today. Not looking forward to wearing them in the heat, but I am going to do my best. I also have a belt to wear for the VV, which is terribly sexy. (or not...)
A friend of mine had horrible varicose veins during her recent pregnancy, to the point where she had to wear the compression stockings, etc. She was worried she'd need to have them treated post-baby. Fortunately within a week or two of her baby being born in March, they were 95% improved, and she is 100% back to normal now. Hopefully it will work out that way for y'all, as well!
Unfortunately, I've had them for over 20 years and they are not going to get better. Mine weren't created by pregnancy, but pregnancy definitely makes them worse. I just ordered my compression stockings today. Not looking forward to wearing them in the heat, but I am going to do my best. I also have a belt to wear for the VV, which is terribly sexy. (or not...)
Yes, I went back and deleted my post when I saw that the discussion had continued onto the next page and this was obviously a long-term issue for both of y'all and not just pregnancy related.
Unfortunately, I've had them for over 20 years and they are not going to get better. Mine weren't created by pregnancy, but pregnancy definitely makes them worse. I just ordered my compression stockings today. Not looking forward to wearing them in the heat, but I am going to do my best. I also have a belt to wear for the VV, which is terribly sexy. (or not...)
Yes, I went back and deleted my post when I saw that the discussion had continued onto the next page and this was obviously a long-term issue for both of y'all and not just pregnancy related.
I do that all of the time, post before I see the conversation continued. It's all good.
Unfortunately, I've had them for over 20 years and they are not going to get better. Mine weren't created by pregnancy, but pregnancy definitely makes them worse. I just ordered my compression stockings today. Not looking forward to wearing them in the heat, but I am going to do my best. I also have a belt to wear for the VV, which is terribly sexy. (or not...)
Yes, I went back and deleted my post when I saw that the discussion had continued onto the next page and this was obviously a long-term issue for both of y'all and not just pregnancy related.
No reason to delete! I had to go make it all depressing and whatnot. It's important for people to know that it might not be permanent. I wish peanutmuse and I are the only ones here that will be dealing with this long term. Pregnancy brings enough other fun stuff to the table.
Post by tallblonde on May 25, 2016 20:41:56 GMT -5
Varicose veins run in my family and my mom's were what nightmares are made of. She thought she just had to live with them since they didn't hurt and then she got a new doctor and he's like holy shit, get those removed. This was maybe 5 years ago?
I ran exactly once last pregnancy and my one vein that I worry about started aching. I quit immediately and had no further issues. I have a feeling I won't be so lucky this time even though I'm still not running.
Post by tallblonde on May 25, 2016 20:44:03 GMT -5
Oh knock on wood this hasn't happened yet, but last time I had a freaking tooth DIE. Like turned slightly gray and was very sensitive. It seems to have come back to life and doesn't seem discolored, but it was def noticeable at the time.
Post by ClassyMrsA on May 25, 2016 21:59:26 GMT -5
I have terrible stretch marks from my last pregnancy. They've faded, but I imagine they'll be back with a vengeance at some point. I don't mind the ones on my hips so much. It's the ones that go all the way down my thighs.
Also, the last 2 nights, right as I've been finishing cooking dinner, I've gotten really weak and lightheaded feeling. Like need to sit down for a few minutes because I might fall over. I want to say I felt like this periodically with L, but I honestly can't remember. Once I sit down and eat I feel fine. Anyone else? And also why?
*snip* Also, the last 2 nights, right as I've been finishing cooking dinner, I've gotten really weak and lightheaded feeling. Like need to sit down for a few minutes because I might fall over. I want to say I felt like this periodically with L, but I honestly can't remember. Once I sit down and eat I feel fine. Anyone else? And also why?
This happens to me every so often during pregnancy, although not necessarily when I'm cooking. But always when I've been on my feet for a bit. Most recently, I was in a model home with a client and suddenly felt like I was going to pass out. We'd been standing in one place for a bit talking and I had to grab a barstool or risk falling over.
I think mine has to do with either dehydration or blood sugar dropping; since it gets better once you eat, maybe it's that your blood sugar is low? I was looking online and saw that it can also be as a result of reduced bloodflow to brain (esp. early in pregnancy), or getting overheated in a small, enclosed space (like a kitchen).
I have terrible stretch marks from my last pregnancy. They've faded, but I imagine they'll be back with a vengeance at some point. I don't mind the ones on my hips so much. It's the ones that go all the way down my thighs.
Also, the last 2 nights, right as I've been finishing cooking dinner, I've gotten really weak and lightheaded feeling. Like need to sit down for a few minutes because I might fall over. I want to say I felt like this periodically with L, but I honestly can't remember. Once I sit down and eat I feel fine. Anyone else? And also why?
Our blood volume increases by about 50% during pregnancy, some to make up for use by the baby/placenta, but mainly as a protectant against bleeding out from labor. Unfortunately our vascular system isn't really set up to just deal with all that extra work we're now demanding from it. To try and keep your BP normal your vessels dilate and constrict depending on the situation, and sometimes the body over corrects. Dehydration/heat/over working yourself can be a big trigger as well. Fun times.
This morning I suddenly remembered sitting in the grocery store while DH shopped because I would get too weak and lightheaded when I was pregnant last time and also having these kinds of episodes at work teaching. So I guess it was actually pretty common with L and I somehow blocked it out of my memory. I have relatively low blood pressure to begin with so maybe it has something to do with standing for long periods of time and that? Or could be blood sugar dropping, but I pretty much graze all day on a variety of things so I'm not sure if that makes as much sense to me. DH thinks it's because I need to drink even more water than I already do. He could be right. In any case, glad I'm not alone and there seems to be normal reasons for it.
ClassyMrsA, The same happens to me periodically. I just need to sit down because I feel sick to my stomach and just not well all over. I find if I just sit for a bit I'm okay. Drinking juice and eating help a lot. I agree with others that it's most likely low blood pressure or blood sugar.
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