Another sleep post

[flmama622]

How many still have toddlers coming in their beds? Henley comes in our bed every night somewhere between 3-5. Some nights she sleeps until 7 with us, others she's up wanting to watch TV at 4. With the arrival of Macie right around the corner I need to start moving her back into her room during the night. I can totally forsee Macie crying to nurse, Henley waking up and throwing a tantrum to watch TV and then I'm wide awake trying to put her back. The only thing that has ever worked for us is locking the door and repeatedly putting her back, any other tips? Sorry this is so long, I'm just dreading middle of the night sleep training at 36 weeks when my hubs mentality is "she just doesn't sleep well every night". I can't accept that with a newborn on the way very soon.

[decaflife]

DD hasn't slept with us since she was 7 months old. We had a really horrifying incident and just never let her back in bed.

[michieu129]

I can't say that I have ever had this problem. Jack hates to sleep in bed with us. He is also not in a bed yet and cannot just walk into our room when he wakes. Not sure how we'll deal with that when the day comes (soon-2 weeks)
But, I think consistency is going to be key here. You are going to have to bite the bullet and keep putting her back in her bed. Its going to stink for you....you and your husband need to take turns until she gets it.
Have you thought about putting a gate up in her doorway, or some sort of child lock on the inside of her door, so she cannot leave her room? Perhaps she wouldn't wake herself up as much if she couldn't get out of her room and into yours. It might make it easier to put her back to bed if she wakes and starts crying for you.
Sounds tough either way...but eventually she will get it...hopefully sooner rather than later for your sake.

[sep509bride]

DD still sleeps in a crib, but she will wake up early and ask to come into bed with us. She never really lies still and let's us sleep after that though, so we try not to do that.

[cupcakesandpi]

We have put one of the child safety knobs on DD's door so she can't open it. We close it every night when she goes to bed. She thinks our bed is just a place to play.

[TheEleventhHour]

DS has never liked to sleep with us so we've never had this problem. He is also still in his crib so he can't come to us at night. If he cries, we go to him and rock/soothe/whatever in his room instead of taking him into bed with us. Also, every once and awhile I just cannot get him back to sleep so I let him stay up with his "babies" in his own bed and he eventually tires himself out.

It will suck but I would recommend the continuously putting her back. It might take several days but she will eventually get that she has to stay in her room to sleep. Can she physically leave her room? Maybe a baby gate at the door would help. I've also heard some good things about the wake up lights. Maybe that would help solidify that she has to stay in her room for a certain period of time. Hugs mama! I don't blame you for wanted to solve the problem before Macie arrives!

[hikingmama222]

DD has only slept in her bed all night twice this week. But she slept in our bed for over two weeks while on vacation so it became routine. Consistency will be key for us as well, she needs to understand she has to sleep in her bed.

[ohiodoxiemama08]

Don't have a ton of advice as DD has never slept in our bed--that is the one thing DH absolutely refuses to let her do. However, I have talked to a lot of people that have had similar issues and they said the best way is the hard core approach--just not giving in and letting her in your bed. I think it takes a few long nights of walking them back and laying them down but I've also heard that after a bit it sticks! Good luck to you--won't be much longer till you're a family of 4 huh?

[talkativ15]

We have taken dd into our bed 4 times in the past 4 weeks.. She doesn't sleep though so after An hour she is put back in her crib and we time 10 mins and if she's crying one of us gets up ... She does hear the baby monitor for our 4 month old and will squeal for baby... I feel for you.. No advice but good luck and lock it down now ?

[flmama622]

Thanks for the advice guys. The biggest issue is that neither of us wake when she comes to our bed and I only realize she's even here when I wake to pee. I think DH puts her in when he's sleeping and doesn't really wake up. I've done the putting back in the middle of the night and it does work, it's just exhausting and while my husband is the best at everything else, he absolutely sucks at helping sleep train. He gives in, isn't consistent, and can't take her crying so it leaves me and being 36 weeks pregnant is a hindrance to say the least. I'm going to try it tonight and keep in mind it might not stick privacy Thanks again and please say a prayer for me. My bedroom door is closed so hopefully I hear her come in and can get her back asap.

[ann86]

Good luck! I can not get DD to sleep in her room all night. She goes down no problem and sleeps till about 3am and then comes to our bed. But some times she's hysterical and getting her back in her bed doesn't happen. I'd have to sleep on the floor because she senses as soon as I leave and she's awake again. I know eventually I'm going to have to toughen up and be consistent...but I haven't been able to yet. I do want to buy some childproof doorknob covers but I know I won't be able to handle her crying

[flmama622]

And she wet the bed for the first time in forever and woke up hysterical. Ahh fun times. Maybe we start tomorrow night?

[chilibeansm0m]

R went in our bed for the first time in a lonnnnngggggggg time (like i cannot remember the last time before this, could have 6 months or more) when shr woke up yesterday at 550 and i told her she could lay in her bed or our bed (bad mom bad mom) she choose our bed. After 30 min of her laying sideways and kicking dh in the head and ribs he got all pissy and laid on the couch- then r and i slept amazingly! Ha. I don't plan on making it habit.

Oh actually she comes into our bed when we take vacation. So november. We don't start her in our bed but she always ends up in our bEd.

[dckate]

DD will occasionally sleep with us if she wakes up randomly early in the morning, like 4:30am. DH gives her his phone (thanks buddy) so I'm also working on keeping her in her own bed, unless she's sick, has a bad dream, etc.

We leave her door open but put up a baby gate. So far, so good!