I'm starting to wear thin. We have zero family in driving distance and no friends I'd leave lo with for longer than an hour. That's the price I paid to move here, as DH's job is here. It was hard enough before lo was born and now it's worse. I need a break!!!
Same here! My dad is great with lo but he won't do diapers or feeding so we can't leave him with lo and my MIL and FIL would watch him in a heartbeat but that won't be happening for several years! My MIL currently treats lo like he has the plague every time she sees him and when she does hold him she holds him out away from her facing away and then lays him on her knees. If he starts to cry she immediately gives him to FIL. And my H doesn't see an issue with leaving lo with them despite this behavior.
We're in the same boat. But TBH I probably wouldn't leave LO with my in-laws. SIL and BIL are smokers and MIL is just weird. I understand needing a break though. The hunt for a good babysitter is underway.
tacocat have you started the hunt for a sitter? I'm hoping the girl we hired for my wfh days will be awesome and be able to come for an occasional evening. What I want more than a sitter is for my H to feel more confident with LO so I could extend my runaway from home trips past two hours.
My random: just dropped my phone on sleeping LO and she barely stirred but think too loudly yesterday during the day? BAM wide awake.
spikesmom- I am experiencing the same thing right now with my MIL...she has seen lo 3 times since she was born, and didnt want to hold her because she's "uncomfortable around little babies" she then decides to give my husband a hard time the other day because she never sees the baby, and offers to babysit.. sorry but I'm not ok with that if you just said you are not comfortable with litte babies! Oh and she wanted it to be an overnight thing but then said "oh your breastfeeding so that won't work for you will it?" Ummm if that's my excuse then no! Sorry for the vent, she's just been driving me crazy. Worst part is she watches my bil's kids all the time w.t.f?!
Put me in Camp MIL is Weird with LO. I can't put my finger on it, but it's just not natural. Sometimes I feel like they are more in love with the idea of a grandchild than LO herself. MIL keeps saying things like "I can't wait until she's old enough to open the mailbox and get presents from us." LO is the first grandchild and you'd think she'd want to enjoy her now too. Oh and calling her "my baby" and "my" this and that still gets to me!!
At Christmas my MIL held lo but only after my FIL and taken her to a different room away from my husband and I...what is that? Oh and she has 2 other grandchildren... Why must they be awkward? ?
We're going to use care.com to find a nanny...hope we find a good one (the best for my baby!).
Yesterday I checked out "the dump" for fun and checked the breastfeeding thread on N14. It looked like all of AmyG*'s posts were gone...did she get the boot?
Another weird MIL here. Where does one find a safe sitter? I thought about asking our daycare lady. Has anyone looked at care.com?
I was up most of the night. My baby ate at 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 2:30, 5:30, and 6:30. Slept maybe four hours total. Whose child is this?
I signed up with care.com, but didn't follow through. My husband is pretty paranoid, especially after our house was robbed a few years ago. He started going in two hours early instead twice a week so I could work in the evening and he'd stay home with the baby.
I've heard good things though from friends that used it.
Post by HutterFlutter on Feb 7, 2015 11:29:37 GMT -5
For all the women having trouble with sitters: if you're in a neighborhood, do any of your neighbors have small children? You could always ask them who they use. That's what we plan on doing if there's an emergency and we need a sitter ASAP. Or, we're close with our neighbors next door and they actually have 3 little ones ages 6-2, so I'd be comfortable sending her there just for a bit in an emergency.
We're going to use care.com to find a nanny...hope we find a good one (the best for my baby!).
Yesterday I checked out "the dump" for fun and checked the breastfeeding thread on N14. It looked like all of AmyG*'s posts were gone...did she get the boot?
They marked her as a troll or something and hid all of her twelve thousand posts. There's a long thread about it in breastfeeding. They "warned" her when she posted about the new TOU which state all your posted words and pictures in the dump forums can be used by them without payment or additional consent.
briannea Wow...lame! So...how do I ask them to erase my login and everything I've posted? Definitely don't want to be associated with them anymore. I know it's been posted before but I'm not even sure where to look for that now.
Post by HutterFlutter on Feb 7, 2015 11:49:19 GMT -5
Re. AmyG*, that's absolutely ridiculous. That's the final straw. I'm requesting account deletion today. lissydee, were you able to get your account deleted after the 48 hour period?
wildflower810 ha! We probably are. All my friends are work related and other than that they're all music business people "friends" of my DH, aka crazies lol...I watch a lot of tv to say the least. I guess a sitter would be a good idea. Time to look before I officially lose my shit.
Re:sitters, my mom is the only person I trust with Liam besides my husband. His parents are divorced and remarried. And we both don't like the people they married. His mom doesn't even want to be called grandma. She thinks she is too young. Umm your son is 31 lol, you are 52. She just enjoys buying him clothes and that's about it.
His dad seems to enjoy when Liam cries? Like whenever he holds him and Liam starts crying he is like 'that's all you got? That's weak' ummm no, give me my child so that I can soothe him please because no.
H did Liam's first MOTN feeding and let me sleep in till 10 am! I swear I feel like I went on a relaxing vacation.
TO DELETE YOUR DUMP ACCOUNT you have to go to the "specialty" boards and open the Bump HQ board, there is a thread that tells you how and gives you more options. They deleted my content but not my account ....you have to be diligent.
That link is where you do it. Beware though, they use cookies so even if you log out, if your cookies aren't cleared, the site will log you back in if you go to check, negating any account deletion.
Post by moonandback on Feb 7, 2015 12:13:50 GMT -5
I'm leaving LO tonight with my mom and sister. They have to put him to bed and he's in the habit of nursing himself to sleep 75% of the time. He can fall asleep with a bottle, right? I'm just being nervous. We will be an hour away.
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