N16 Private Board

[aggiebug]

Was this brought up last week? Or did I miss the interest I this before?

I find this concept very strange.

[aggiebug]

May 23, 2016 15:17:24 GMT -5 danib said:

May 23, 2016 14:49:20 GMT -5 aggiebug said:

Was this brought up last week? Or did I miss the interest I this before?

I find this concept very strange.

I think it was brought up in regard to sharing pictures. I'm cool with it if people are more comfortable for that, but would like to keep general conversation on the main board (for new members, or GKU friends checking in on us) if thats not making too complicated?

Hmm interesting I guess I never thought of it as safer than posting in this forum so I guess what I post wouldn't change . ::shrugs::

[dashook]

May 23, 2016 15:17:24 GMT -5 danib said:

May 23, 2016 14:49:20 GMT -5 aggiebug said:

Was this brought up last week? Or did I miss the interest I this before?

I find this concept very strange.

I think it was brought up in regard to sharing pictures. I'm cool with it if people are more comfortable for that, but would like to keep general conversation on the main board (for new members, or GKU friends checking in on us) if thats not making too complicated?

This.  I want the board to remain just as it is in terms of everyday conversation, but I would feel more comfortable sharing pictures (HDBD and especially once babies are born) on the private board.

It came up aggiebug during a discussion last week (partially in jest) with regard to live blogging our births. 

[dashook]

May 23, 2016 15:29:43 GMT -5 dashook said:

May 23, 2016 15:17:24 GMT -5 danib said:

I think it was brought up in regard to sharing pictures. I'm cool with it if people are more comfortable for that, but would like to keep general conversation on the main board (for new members, or GKU friends checking in on us) if thats not making too complicated?

This.  I want the board to remain just as it is in terms of everyday conversation, but I would feel more comfortable sharing pictures (HDBD and especially once babies are born) on the private board.

It came up aggiebug during a discussion last week (partially in jest) with regard to live blogging our births. 

Quotin' mahself

To clarify, I would share HDBD pics on both.  But on the private board you might actually be able to see my face (gasp!)

[sweetmelissa5]

I like to check in on picture threads, but I rarely participate since I don't know how to upload pictures (at least, not since tinypic ceased to be an option). If I can figure it out, I'll participate either here or on a private board, though.

[tallblonde]

Thanks tgrimes1980 - I'm in the never post pictures on the main board camp, so I like this option.

[shedreamsincolor]

I'm not big on posting pics online in general, but would be more likely to do it in a private group. Would be nice to have general conversation on the regular board though, especially if there are any late joiners. I never intro'ed into my last BMB because I was so busy (and shy) and feeling like I didn't have much to contribute. Just don't want to see anybody miss out

[ashleysyn]

Crazy people will eventually get into the private board, too. Don't ever think it's actually private.

[aggiebug]

May 24, 2016 9:05:11 GMT -5 ashleysyn said:

Crazy people will eventually get into the private board, too. Don't ever think it's actually private.

seriously. I have heard stories around here of some insane shit pulled on off boards / private boards around here.

[ashleysyn]

May 24, 2016 9:16:27 GMT -5 aggiebug said:

May 24, 2016 9:05:11 GMT -5 ashleysyn said:

Crazy people will eventually get into the private board, too. Don't ever think it's actually private.

seriously. I have heard stories around here of some insane shit pulled on off boards / private boards around here.

We were seriously catfished on July14 and no one figured it out until almost a year in. And the catfish was so active that she would have been the one setting up the private board. She stole pictures, made up a fake identity, and it wasn't the first time she had done it. Wasn't the last I'm sure.

[aggiebug]

May 24, 2016 9:25:55 GMT -5 ashleysyn said:

May 24, 2016 9:16:27 GMT -5 aggiebug said:

seriously. I have heard stories around here of some insane shit pulled on off boards / private boards around here.

We were seriously catfished on July14 and no one figured it out until almost a year in. And the catfish was so active that she would have been the one setting up the private board. She stole pictures, made up a fake identity, and it wasn't the first time she had done it. Wasn't the last I'm sure.

I am sadly not shocked. Sorry you were conned that has got to make you feel incredibly violated.

[kleigh]

May 24, 2016 9:25:55 GMT -5 ashleysyn said:

May 24, 2016 9:16:27 GMT -5 aggiebug said:

seriously. I have heard stories around here of some insane shit pulled on off boards / private boards around here.

We were seriously catfished on July14 and no one figured it out until almost a year in. And the catfish was so active that she would have been the one setting up the private board. She stole pictures, made up a fake identity, and it wasn't the first time she had done it. Wasn't the last I'm sure.

Help me understand better. Someone took/used your boards photos and created an identity for themselves using that? What'd they do with the stolen identity? I mean it's creepy enough but why would someone do this??

[ashleysyn]

May 24, 2016 10:32:02 GMT -5 kleigh said:

May 24, 2016 9:25:55 GMT -5 ashleysyn said:

We were seriously catfished on July14 and no one figured it out until almost a year in. And the catfish was so active that she would have been the one setting up the private board. She stole pictures, made up a fake identity, and it wasn't the first time she had done it. Wasn't the last I'm sure.

Help me understand better. Someone took/used your boards photos and created an identity for themselves using that? What'd they do with the stolen identity? I mean it's creepy enough but why would someone do this??

They took photos from other boards and Facebook and tried to pass them off as her own. We were able to contact the person she had stolen pictures from. We found her a few months later doing the same thing on Baby Centre. She has probably taken and used photos she gathered during her time on TB elsewhere.

[kleigh]

May 24, 2016 11:46:11 GMT -5 ashleysyn said:

May 24, 2016 10:32:02 GMT -5 kleigh said:

Help me understand better. Someone took/used your boards photos and created an identity for themselves using that? What'd they do with the stolen identity? I mean it's creepy enough but why would someone do this??

They took photos from other boards and Facebook and tried to pass them off as her own. We were able to contact the person she had stolen pictures from. We found her a few months later doing the same thing on Baby Centre. She has probably taken and used photos she gathered during her time on TB elsewhere.

Creepy, disgusting, and concerning (who does this stuff my god).

[goldenlove3]

May 24, 2016 11:46:11 GMT -5 ashleysyn said:

May 24, 2016 10:32:02 GMT -5 kleigh said:

Help me understand better. Someone took/used your boards photos and created an identity for themselves using that? What'd they do with the stolen identity? I mean it's creepy enough but why would someone do this??

They took photos from other boards and Facebook and tried to pass them off as her own. We were able to contact the person she had stolen pictures from. We found her a few months later doing the same thing on Baby Centre. She has probably taken and used photos she gathered during her time on TB elsewhere.

I remember reading about that. So crazy to think someone would go through all that. For what??

[aggiebug]

May 24, 2016 11:46:11 GMT -5 ashleysyn said:

May 24, 2016 10:32:02 GMT -5 kleigh said:

Help me understand better. Someone took/used your boards photos and created an identity for themselves using that? What'd they do with the stolen identity? I mean it's creepy enough but why would someone do this??

They took photos from other boards and Facebook and tried to pass them off as her own. We were able to contact the person she had stolen pictures from. We found her a few months later doing the same thing on Baby Centre. She has probably taken and used photos she gathered during her time on TB elsewhere.

This is the crap that scares me not the lurker who never posts.


Do y'all remember the bmb Facebook group who had a member lose a child or maybe was gravely ill, one lady offered to collect the money so she got thousands of dollars in a PayPal account that she kept for herself? Not so much creepy but still awful.

There was also one on the nest off board (pandce) who literally stalked someone including talking to her employers? This was between 2 people who had each other's phone numbers.


Don't get me wrong I have friends I made on my knot month board 6+ years ago that we talk every day and I have actually met IRL, and some great friends from my local board. These places can truly create lasting friendships, but there are also creepers who don't just lurk.

[dashook]

The creepers and catfish are a huge concern in any internet situation. The fact is that we are all strangers on this board (with a few exceptions of course, as I understand there are a bunch of N'13 ladies on here who maybe are IRL friends too!).

I am very careful with what I post about my personal life here and even on Facebook where I have more control over who sees my stuff. You guys on here know that I live in the Boston area (a huge metro area), have a toddler, am an attorney, am married, and am in my 30's. And pregnant, obv. Oh and my FIL has Sox season tickets lol. Am I missing anything? None of that is particularly identifying information.

I have made strong, lasting friendships through these message boards and by this point have met many of these friends in person too. I text with them and our kids play together when we meet up. We send each other holiday cards and Mother's Day gifts.

My hope is that some of us on here will form bonds like this over the next few months. I am willing to share the same amount of personal information with you all (i.e., not very much) on a private board, the main difference being that I'll maybe share more photos. If someone on here is a catfish that's going to be true whether we have a secret board or not. My interest in the secret board is more as a means of ensuring that people I know IRL can't accidentally stumble onto this site and recognize me (and then be able to go through all my post history) by a photo of myself or my baby. DNW my boss or an ex-boyfriend reading about my discharge and hemmorhoids, thanks.

[ashleysyn]

I'm not saying to be 100% guarded with everything you post. I have also made some lifelong friends through TB and have met some old bumpies IRL. My husband almost lost his shit when I told him I was flying down to Georgia to meet internet strangers, but here we are nearly 6 years later and still friends. I'm just saying that crazy people may still get in to private groups. You just have to decide if the risks outweigh the benefits.

[jubilantsquirrel]

May 24, 2016 13:59:01 GMT -5 vinolove said:

If you ladies want to try and fine me it's cool; come on in, my front door is generally open, we'll have a drink and share some stories.

I'm only half kidding, I'm not taking away from the serious cat fishing that can happen.

This is me exactly. I mean, I won't be handing out my full name and SSN to anyone, but I'm not an overly private person either.