Toddler behavior

[lilahbean13]

Please tell me I'm not the only one with a sour patch kid. She's a lunatic one minute and 5 seconds later it's "I love you mommy you my favorite"
also I feel like I need to get her hearing checked because it takes me saying PUT YOUR SOCKS ON 10 thousand fu*king times to get her to ..not do it and then I have to.
Do your kiddos mind ? I feel like I'm at my wits end trying to get Cooper to mind some days. Like I really don't know what to do some days. Please tell me this is normal. What do yall do to get them to mind? We do time out and take away things that she wants like mickey mouse and blah blah but it doesn't seem to phase her. She's startung to talk back and it seriously makes me want to scream. I do not want a bratty kid so I worry that she is bratty and all this isn't normal.
Help meeeeeee before I go bald please

[trixi282]

If its not normal, then I'm in it with you. We've definitely entered the talk back and ignore/not listen phase. When I ask her to do something and she doesn't listen I say "do I have to count?".

She knows that if I do start to count, and I get to 3 she either gets in trouble or I take away/do what I asked her to do, and on my terms. Like putting shoes on... If I have to start counting, she usually runs over and starts on her own when I get to 2, if she doesn't I pick her up set her on the chair/stair/etc and do it myself while taking her away from what she was doing. She hates being taken from what she's doing.... So far that's the best thing to work for us in terms of not listening.
You're certainly not alone!

[starfishy]

Yup. My kid is such a sweet little man one minute and is insane the next. Everything is "minnnnnneeee" and he's so demanding.
Today I said for him to get on a chair so I could put his boots on. He of course says "I no want you to put boots on." My response: "I'm the parent and I do what I want" Winning!

[snickers4everyone]

Yeah. Pretty sure the teenage years will be a walk in the park compared to this. Ok, probably not, but holy cow this kid can drive me nuts. Talking back and pushing her brother around are the big ones around here.
I had a super awful mommy moment the other day and just screamed back at her. I was so ashamed and told her I was sorry. It's been much better since then as far as me staying calm. She responds much better to my directions if I just stay calm. Not easy, but I'm working on it.
We do time outs or putting toys in time out. She hates either one, but especially if her time out is in another room away from us. I reserve that for really bad behavior.

[xanthepants]

We have more good days than bad, but there are definitely days like this. I find counting works awesome for us. We count down from 5. She jumps to it then. Otherwise we turn a ton of things into a race. "You can't beat day getting dressed/into the car". Etc. she likes that and her mood usually changes from defiant to giggles. I try and react lighthearted and most times it breaks her defiance.

[sunflowersummer]

Ugh, yes! There's a stupid go daddy commercial where this woman tells everyone to stick it. Guess what my kid likes to tell people now...

[starfishy]

Feb 7, 2015 10:31:24 GMT -5 xanthepants said:

We have more good days than bad, but there are definitely days like this. I find counting works awesome for us. We count down from 5. She jumps to it then. Otherwise we turn a ton of things into a race. "You can't beat day getting dressed/into the car". Etc. she likes that and her mood usually changes from defiant to giggles. I try and react lighthearted and most times it breaks her defiance.

Counting is something that works for us too, not all the time but the majority. Once I say 5 he hops right to it.

[junkytrunk]

Yep totally normal here too. I have a "no" kid. He will answer any question with "no". Even before I finish the question and then sometimes once he realizes what I said, he will change his answer to "yes".

I think they are just finally learning the have opinions and can express their opinions and are finally doing so!

He seems to have trouble focusing on what I'm asking him to do a lot of the time because he is distracted by something else. So I have to get him to look at me and then have him listen like that.

[somethingcleverer]

Yep I would say totally normal. It sucks but it gets better. I still have to tell my five year old the same thing over and over before he actually does it. Counting does seem to help. I give until 3 then it's a time out if I say three. It doesn't work every time but it helps.

[mommymadness]

Sounds about normal here too. If I ask him to do something he doesn't want too, he just ignores me. That or he will side eye me, smile and continue to do what I asked him not too. I also worry I'm raising a bratty child. It is like my worst fear! Lol I always said how I would never have a brat because I would be firm with discipline ect but I am not!! Parenting is hard!

[mightythorgi]

Normal. I had to chase S around his preschool at pick up the other day. Do you know how hard it is to not swear at the Methodist preschool? He's lucky he is so cute.

[lilahbean13]

It is so comforting to know we are all in toddler hell together. I hope it gets better I hope it passes I do I do before I go CRAZY!!!!!!!!!!
If she says NO one more time I may just drop down in fetal position and cry. Parenting low

[heatherbee]

Feb 7, 2015 14:09:46 GMT -5 lilahbean13 said:

It is so comforting to know we are all in toddler hell together. I hope it gets better I hope it passes I do I do before I go CRAZY!!!!!!!!!!
If she says NO one more time I may just drop down in fetal position and cry. Parenting low

Hopefully it will get a little better as she adjusts to the new baby how old is your LO? I can't see on mobile. My DS amped up the ridiculous behavior for awhile after DD was born. He still does all the things you listed, but it's a little bit less often. And even a little helps, right?

[ultramonkey]

It sounds like a typical day at my house. You're not alone! I find it frustrating too and have to keep reminding myself he's 2. He went from eating everything to being very picky. He also says no all the time.

[nursedesi]

My kid purposely doesnt amswer us. Hes looking right at us but refuses to answer. Loves to scream no. I frequently have to ask him multiple times to do things. So yes, completely normal at our house.

[laurski81]

Yeah this sounds like every second of a normal day here at my house. It's frustrating, exhausting, and makes me appreciate wine more then I probably should.

[lilahbean13]

Feb 7, 2015 15:44:11 GMT -5 heatherbee said:

Feb 7, 2015 14:09:46 GMT -5 lilahbean13 said:

It is so comforting to know we are all in toddler hell together. I hope it gets better I hope it passes I do I do before I go CRAZY!!!!!!!!!!
If she says NO one more time I may just drop down in fetal position and cry. Parenting low

Hopefully it will get a little better as she adjusts to the new baby how old is your LO? I can't see on mobile. My DS amped up the ridiculous behavior for awhile after DD was born. He still does all the things you listed, but it's a little bit less often. And even a little helps, right?

LO is almost 7 weeks. She has been so sweet and caring towards him I never even thought that her behavior could be because of him but that makes total sense. I hope she calms down a little cause I'm over this crap