Memorial Day thread

[cheshie6]

It's raining here... so I'm gonna finish reading Jane Austin's Persuasion and start on Rick Riordan's new book series Trials of Apollo. LOL So exciting!

[rory5280]

We promised DS we'd take him to the pool this morning, so we'll swing by there before doing errands, chores and starting to pack for our vacation.

[sophiegrace]

Boo to everyone having to work today and to everyone else off, I hope you're able to relax and are having better weather than I am.

[sophiegrace]

House guest is still sleeping. Yesterday was manageable because he slept until noon and then everyone started showing up for the party around 2. It was late by the time everyone had gone and I was tired and still not feeling good. He started in on me a little bit and I very nicely told him not to talk to me anymore if he couldn't have a legitimate conversation with me. I also may or may not have said that he's turned into an asshole.

He was bearable after that.

[LizInFL]

Lol sophiegrace. Glad you spoke up! When does this guy check out of HotelSG?

Morning all. We are headed to the pool at my parents' club for lunch and swimming. Ours will be a madhouse since there are a lot more young families in our neighborhood, theirs will be fun but more sedate and easier to keep track of B. Also, last year they did a beer dive in the deep end that was hilarious.

I'm kind of in a mood; not sure if it's hunger or what. I'm feeling overwhelmed with everything I need to do (they're all totally first world problems) and the stuff I want to get done around our house before 2.0 arrives. We are also waiting on info from H's job re: a potential move; I've been able to mostly put it out of my mind for the last few weeks but we should be hearing soon and I'm on pins and needles, but trying not to stress DH out with nagging or questions.

Ugh. Sorry for the whining! Basically I need to be able to have a margarita or something.

[cheshie6]

Based on the ladies mentioning having BH when not getting enough fluids: How does everyone keep track of their fluid intake?

I have a few large mason jars that are 28oz and I try to drink 3 of these a day. I don't count the other drinks I have like milk, juice, etc. While at work, I have a Nalgene bottle that is 48oz and I just make sure to drink 8 oz an hour. I try to drink at least 2 of my mason jars on that day. I've seen so many different numbers of what a pregnant woman should drink. I've seen as little as 8-8oz drinks per say and as many as 13-8oz drinks per day!?!

But water intake is weird for the non-pregnant person. Some people say half your weight in oz which means I need to be drinking over 100oz a day!

[sophiegrace]

LizInFL not soon enough. He has work tomorrow and it's at minimum a 6 hour trip home. Combined with Memorial Day traffic he should really have rethought the sleeping until noon (seriously, how?). He won't stop talking. The fantasy life he lives in is a scary place. I think he just broke my nutri bullet...

[aggiebug]

May 30, 2016 11:13:10 GMT -5 cheshie6 said:

Based on the ladies mentioning having BH when not getting enough fluids: How does everyone keep track of their fluid intake?

I have a few large mason jars that are 28oz and I try to drink 3 of these a day. I don't count the other drinks I have like milk, juice, etc. While at work, I have a Nalgene bottle that is 48oz and I just make sure to drink 8 oz an hour. I try to drink at least 2 of my mason jars on that day. I've seen so many different numbers of what a pregnant woman should drink. I've seen as little as 8-8oz drinks per say and as many as 13-8oz drinks per day!?!

But water intake is weird for the non-pregnant person. Some people say half your weight in oz which means I need to be drinking over 100oz a day!

I don't think there is a specific right answer as you well know as someone who works out activity level and ambient temperature can have a huge impact on fluid requirements. For me I try and keep track of how many how many times I refill my water bottle as an idea, but really I don't fret to much over the number. Some days I know I have barely had one water bottle (like you I don't track other drinks) and I know I am likely on for it the next day kwim? I know if I am not drinking enough because I get a headache and I feel more faint etc and I think the same goes with the BH. You start feeling them and realize maybe I need to drink some more.

If you are peeing adequately and don't have any other symptoms associated with mild dehydration I would just keep doing what you do.

[sophiegrace]

cheshie6 I just keep a running count in my head. I know how many ounces all the cups in my house hold and at work I use a water bottle. Pre preg I drank a gallon a day (128 ounces). Hard for the first week, but then it gets super easy and I always felt so much better. I was also working out with high intensity and needed extra fluids. Aversion to seemingly every fluid was my first pregnancy symptom and I think I've been dehydrated since week 5. My goal would be to get to at least 100 ounces again, but I struggle getting to 64.

I should go get some water right now...

ETA: I've always needed to drink a lot of fluids in order to not get headaches and keep my BP from dropping so I'm not suggesting everyone use those numbers to base their consumption on, that's just what I need to feel good.

[ClassyMrsA]

We just spent an hour at an indoor play place since it was raining here. Sunny and warm now so we may go to the park later. Having lunch out and then relaxing at home. DH started watching Wayward Pines so I expect that will be on at some point. Last night we watched 2 episodes before bed and I had trouble falling asleep. I also need to pack some more today.

I'm really glad we didn't have to drive to Nebraska last night. We thought we would, but DH's dad said we should wait and if we need to come sooner than we would like, he'll fly us up. Things are not sounding good (his grandma is still in the hospital and had a minor heart attack Saturday night), but we should be able to wait at least a week which will work better with the move and everything. Plus, we'll be able to stay longer.

[ClassyMrsA]

cheshie6 I try to drink something every 2 hours. I also monitor myself by how often I need to pee and how clear it is. I've also used a water tracking app to keep track of exact numbers, but I found it annoying so I don't use it now.

[sophiegrace]

Thoughts on belly touches?

Am I broken for only wanting my H to touch me? I offended more than one person yesterday by not letting them rub me. Should I be more relaxed?

[shedreamsincolor]

sophiegrace. Absolutely not. I am not a "touchy" person and so anyone besides DH trying to touch my belly is going to get side eyed hard by me and a "no thanks." I think of it as good practice for overly aggressive strangers (and family) trying to touch my newborn lol. I'm pretty sure LO will be in a sling all through the holidays to avoid as much touching as possible during cold/flu season.

Speaking of sick, everyone at our house has colds. I forgot how shitty it is to be sick and pregnant, when my only recourse is Tylenol, cough drops, and hot tea. Ugh. Used being inside as an excuse to change my closet over to maternity clothes though (which I probably should be have done a few weeks ago but have been avoiding). Huge task- glad it's done!

[LizInFL]

May 30, 2016 13:14:31 GMT -5 sophiegrace said:

Thoughts on belly touches?

Am I broken for only wanting my H to touch me? I offended more than one person yesterday by not letting them rub me. Should I be more relaxed?

No. I barely let DH touch me, lol.

I never had an issue with people asking to touch during my first pregnancy. It boggles my mind that people ask or assume they can.

[kleigh]

LizInFL I had one of those days on Saturday and that's without a LO to take care of, so I feel ya. Have you tried a non-alcoholic margarita ? I know it sounds pathetic but I ended up at my friends house Saturday (after this mood) while our husbands were watching a soccer match elsewhere and she made me the best mocktail to sip on her patio with her (while she of course had the real stuff), came as a shock to me that it helped lol.

Regarding belly touches, I had a random woman at work do it on Wednesday. She's new, part of an acquisition our company just made. I thought I'd be freaked out but it actually made me happy, I *think* it felt like it was more real. But I am a pretty touchy feely person, I don't think most people would like it. And I fear someone who is sick or a random man getting that close to me so it's not a one size fits all answer for me.

Re: water, I aim for 100oz water (3x water bottle fill); plus I drink milk and occasionally OJ neither of those I track. I also use urine as a measure of if I'm getting enough, which doesn't work after I take my prenatal (because the color becomes artificially yellow).

[sophiegrace]

I didn't even think about how that carries over to newborn touching shedreamsincolor, excellent point. Especially during flu season. I still can't shake my cold and it's now in my chest. It's so miserable. I hope you feel better soon!

danib and tgrimes1980, I was really hoping I would feel better about it by the time someone touched me, but nope. I don't like being touched normally and am big on personal space bubbles so I guess I'm not surprised. I feel like such a bitch though.

[sophiegrace]

Oh my gosh YES I need lessons vinolove. I have a negative RBF, it's more of a constant anxiety ridden and concerned face that I manage to rock. Everyone's always asking me what's wrong. Sigh.

It boggles my mind too LizInFL...I'm not yet 17 weeks, my stomach is tiny compared to what's to come and to have that many people just touch without asking already makes me want to get shirts made that say 'hands off'

[sophiegrace]

May 30, 2016 14:13:17 GMT -5 danib said:

You definitely shouldn't feel like a bitch. No one has the right to touch your body without your permission. It's the people who forget this who are the problem.

I'm wondering if it's also heightened for me because my stomach HURTS. I have an umbilical hernia and it feels stabby when I've been on my feet for awhile. The popped belly button seems to be a target for everyone to hit.

[sophiegrace]

Aw your belly story made me really happy kleigh! A mocktail sounds like a great idea to try out. I might have to Pinterest some ideas.

I get into that mindset a lot LizInFL, often when there's a lot of other stuff going on that can't be managed or controlled. I bet the possibility of a move is really nerve wracking right now.

[LizInFL]

I'm definitely going to look up some mocktail recipes kleigh. Thanks for the idea! Lately we've been socializing/eating out a good bit and it would be nice to order something festive.

My BIL is an OBGYN and was there today, and gave me his blessing for a 'lite' mimosa (oj with a splash of champagne to cut the sweetness). Definitely not something I make a habit of but it was nice. Then I switched to cherry slushies with the under-10 crowd

[LizInFL]

sophiegrace Yes, DH calls them my 'wallow days', bc I really don't want feedback, suggestions or a solution...I just want to whine and wallow in my sour mood. I'm super delightful to be married to, haha. They are fairly rare, though, I'm usually a pretty upbeat, can-do person.

[kleigh]

sophiegrace You are most definitely not a bitch for not wanting people to touch you lol. In what other scenario is it ok for someone to just come up and touch your stomach. It actually is really odd when you consider it.

Yes!! Mocktails for everyone :-)

[kleigh]

Anyone get Brazilian waxes??

Are you also a STM?

I'm curious which is more painful for you.

My sister is getting her first Brazilian wax right now, live blogging it to me /other sister / and mom and says its way more painful than childbirth. That the technician told her she'll have to stop if she doesn't stop screaming, that it sounds like she's giving birth.

Sister had a c-section then a VBAC with epidural. So is she exaggerating? I don't find brazilians very painful personally. I now do them myself (not while pregnant though).

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[kleigh]

May 30, 2016 15:03:54 GMT -5 vinolove said:

kleigh that seems a bit dramatic, I've never had one but I'd have to think that the waxer is doing something wrong if it is hurting that much?

Right?! And it's like 5 freaking minutes.

[sophiegrace]

Haha 'wallow days'!! I may have to steal that one LizInFL. It's true, some days I'm in a funk and I want no way to get out of it it.

That's pretty funny kleigh. I think it's a bit dramatic, but some people are just more sensitive to pain? Are you still doing the brazilians yourself pregnant? I was wondering if it was more tender now with all the fun hormones and blood flow down there. I'm sick of shaving.

[kleigh]

May 30, 2016 15:31:18 GMT -5 danib said:

kleigh I can guarantee that brazillians (while they certainly don't tickle) are NOTHING compared to giving birth.

LOL thank you!

[kleigh]

sophiegrace I was nervous to even try with all the blood flow and hormones so I haven't done them pregnant and switched over to shaving/plucking (which I find even more painful).

[shedreamsincolor]

No to brazilians (pregnant or not) so I guess I can't say for sure. Based on the whole eyebrow/leg/upper lip waxing experience though I'm pretty sure it would be FAR less painful than childbirth. Seriously it takes like what 5 minutes?

Side eyeing my neighbors today. Without giving too many details their relationship is kind of a mess- totally hot and cold and very dramatic. They showed up today at a neighborhood play date with matching wrist tattoos. Maybe this is an UO, but while I love DH very much I am never permanently etching his name or any representation of our relationship on my body.

[LizInFL]

PSA: A Pea In the Pod is doing 30% off everything, through the end of today. I am about to order a maternity swimsuit (gulp).

(sorry if it was already mentioned this weekend, haven't read yesterday's thread)

[LizInFL]

shedreamsincolor lol at the hot/cold couple with matching tattoos. Maybe this will finally be the thing that binds them together for.eh.ver?

Not wanting your SO's name, etc. tattooed on your person is not a UO with me. I am anti-tattoo in general for myself, though...I mean, other people can do what they want, but it's not something I would ever do.