ashleymarie26, actually my IF is exactly what I thought of. My sis didn't brag on her ability to get KU and I don't brag on my BFing. I mean, seems obvious.
For example, this same friend was very adamant about minimal intervention, all natural child birth.
She had a c-section because baby was breech. She was devestated.
I don't think I've ever had a single conversation with her about my vaginal delivery because I worry she would be disappointed or sad that she didn't get to experience it.
I don't think it's so much to ask for the same consideration in return.
Post by ashleymarie26 on May 31, 2016 12:16:15 GMT -5
On a lighter note, I got the baptism invites back and they are adorable. Buttt.... I forgot to put RSVP info on them. I have two options, either an insert in the envelope, or a label on the back. Which is more likely to catch people's attention??
Post by melimo1315 on May 31, 2016 12:30:10 GMT -5
ashleymarie26 I swear your friend is my SIL or maybe both my SILs hahaha.
Both my SILs will praise their lady bits to high heaven for allowing them to birth their children. "Csections are not for true moms" is the mantra of one of them. After my 1st csection (after 40+ hours of labor including hours of pushing) one made the comment of me "doing it right the next time." Her eyes just about rolled out her head when my dr opted to do a scheduled csection this time around. Hahaha.
Both are also avid breast feeders until the kids are the age of 2 minimum. For some reason I don't produce milk and therefore formula feed. Once again damaged goods in their eyes. I feed my kids how I am able to feel my kids and they are healthy and thriving. I hate being made felt bad because I can't feed them like they feed their kids.
So to them I'm broken hahahaha. Would have I preferred not to have 2 Csections? Yes. Do I feel bad I can't breast feed? Yes. Do I feel like my body failed me? Sometimes. Do I do the best I can to keep my kids safe and healthy? Yes! Do I love my kids as much as I would with a vaginal birth and breast feeding? Yes
People need to think before they speak is my final take home point
Post by littleredfish on May 31, 2016 12:30:51 GMT -5
ashleymarie26, she sounds socially challenged judging by the last story on her "CIO" methods. I would want to bring it up like cat said but in reality would probably bring it up like "that's great that you have so much extra, why don't you consider donating to help out mom's like myself who struggle with supply or can't produce at all". See if that switches the light on, then if it continued I'd probably go with "dude, really I get that you're proud and I'm really happy for you but given my struggles it's sensitive point for me to keep discussing this with you".
TTC #1: March 2014 Dx: MFI Medicated IUI #1: March 2015-BFP Baby Girl born 11/5/2015! TTC #2: August 2016 Medicated IUI #1: Feb 2017-BFN Medicated IUI #2: March 2017-BFP Baby Boy expected Dec. 1
ashleymarie26 I swear your friend is my SIL or maybe both my SILs hahaha.
Both my SILs will praise their lady bits to high heaven for allowing them to birth their children. "Csections are not for true moms" is the mantra of one of them. After my 1st csection (after 40+ hours of labor including hours of pushing) one made the comment of me "doing it right the next time." Her eyes just about rolled out her head when my dr opted to do a scheduled csection this time around. Hahaha.
Both are also avid breast feeders until the kids are the age of 2 minimum. For some reason I don't produce milk and therefore formula feed. Once again damaged goods in their eyes. I feed my kids how I am able to feel my kids and they are healthy and thriving. I hate being made felt bad because I can't feed them like they feed their kids.
So to them I'm broken hahahaha. Would have I preferred not to have 2 Csections? Yes. Do I feel bad I can't breast feed? Yes. Do I feel like my body failed me? Sometimes. Do I do the best I can to keep my kids safe and healthy? Yes! Do I love my kids as much as I would with a vaginal birth and breast feeding? Yes
People need to think before they speak is my final take home point
Post by ldubhawksfan on May 31, 2016 12:44:24 GMT -5
ashleymarie26 I'm so sorry about your idiot friend/coworker. It sounds like she is totally unaware and I think if you are comfortable saying something, I would say something about how it hurt you. Or frankly, if you don't really like her, I would start shutting down conversations. You can be cordial, but just because you were pregnant at the same time doesn't mean you have to be friends.
TTC #1 starting July 2013, RE last 2014 First Angel baby lost July 11, 2014 IUI #1 with injections successful: EDD 11/24/15 Rainbow baby DD born 11/14/15 TTC#2 October 2016 Second Angel baby lost Jan 5, 2017
On a lighter note, I got the baptism invites back and they are adorable. Buttt.... I forgot to put RSVP info on them. I have two options, either an insert in the envelope, or a label on the back. Which is more likely to catch people's attention??
Insert. I might throw away the envelope accidentally
TTC #1 starting July 2013, RE last 2014 First Angel baby lost July 11, 2014 IUI #1 with injections successful: EDD 11/24/15 Rainbow baby DD born 11/14/15 TTC#2 October 2016 Second Angel baby lost Jan 5, 2017
ashleymarie26 I swear your friend is my SIL or maybe both my SILs hahaha.
Both my SILs will praise their lady bits to high heaven for allowing them to birth their children. "Csections are not for true moms" is the mantra of one of them. After my 1st csection (after 40+ hours of labor including hours of pushing) one made the comment of me "doing it right the next time." Her eyes just about rolled out her head when my dr opted to do a scheduled csection this time around. Hahaha.
Both are also avid breast feeders until the kids are the age of 2 minimum. For some reason I don't produce milk and therefore formula feed. Once again damaged goods in their eyes. I feed my kids how I am able to feel my kids and they are healthy and thriving. I hate being made felt bad because I can't feed them like they feed their kids.
So to them I'm broken hahahaha. Would have I preferred not to have 2 Csections? Yes. Do I feel bad I can't breast feed? Yes. Do I feel like my body failed me? Sometimes. Do I do the best I can to keep my kids safe and healthy? Yes! Do I love my kids as much as I would with a vaginal birth and breast feeding? Yes
People need to think before they speak is my final take home point
TTC #1 starting July 2013, RE last 2014 First Angel baby lost July 11, 2014 IUI #1 with injections successful: EDD 11/24/15 Rainbow baby DD born 11/14/15 TTC#2 October 2016 Second Angel baby lost Jan 5, 2017
Post by sunfrogger88 on May 31, 2016 13:37:26 GMT -5
Ugh, I had this long response typed up and MOBILE.
ashleymarie26 all the hugs. I have been here with the over enthusiasm and (hopefully this is the case) not meaning to be insensitive and would have appreciated a "hey, wtf" in the moment. It's embarrassing but you correct, apologize and move on. You should absolutely correct her and tell her how uncomfortable it makes you.
Married DH 09/21/13 BCP 08/08-02/12, 01/13-08/14 Paragard 02/16-? TTC#1 August '14 1st BFP 3/9/15! EDD: 11/17/15 Emma Rose born 11/26/15 (Thanksgiving!)
ashleymarie26, wow, I'm sorry she is doing that to you. She may be completely oblivious to the way she is making you feel. Or she is incredibly rude and insensitive. I would choose to believe the former since you say she is a friend. I would just have an open, honest conversation about it and see how she responds.
fuzzylogic , you could try the sleep lady shuffle.
lol the what?
Trying to get E to nap in the crib. It's not going well. She's so happy to see me every time I do an interval check. I swear I'm in and out but damn, she freaks out when I'm gone! She was happily babbling away for a long time but then it escalated. I just don't know. Maybe this isn't right for her? We've tried this for several days and it's not getting better, really.
Post by fuzzylogic on May 31, 2016 14:48:06 GMT -5
Totally unrelated -- somehow my school forgot to pay us all. It's a "bookkeeping error." So, check the box so our pay comes through, why is it still not there if you know? It's not even showing as "available" but not in the total in my account. I got bills, yo. We all do.
On a lighter note, I got the baptism invites back and they are adorable. Buttt.... I forgot to put RSVP info on them. I have two options, either an insert in the envelope, or a label on the back. Which is more likely to catch people's attention??
Post by yummeecookee on May 31, 2016 14:52:44 GMT -5
Just curious if any of you are thinking about trying sippy cups soon? A lot of cups say for 6mo+. I just don't see how a 6mo old is ready, but maybe that's just my kids (holy crap C will actually be 7 mo in a week!) I don't think I started sippy cups with DD until she was 10 mo.
Just curious if any of you are thinking about trying sippy cups soon? A lot of cups say for 6mo+. I just don't see how a 6mo old is ready, but maybe that's just my kids (holy crap C will actually be 7 mo in a week!) I don't think I started sippy cups with DD until she was 10 mo.
I introduced two -- one traditional and one with a flexible straw. She loves them both! She doesn't really drink out of them, but she understands how they work and tries to do it. I just put an ounce of water in and let her go to town.
I've also let her drink water from my cup, just small amounts. She loves it!
Just curious if any of you are thinking about trying sippy cups soon? A lot of cups say for 6mo+. I just don't see how a 6mo old is ready, but maybe that's just my kids (holy crap C will actually be 7 mo in a week!) I don't think I started sippy cups with DD until she was 10 mo.
I got an avent transition one that works with the same nipple as her bottles (but a stage 3 flow) and then it has a sippy nipple for later. I put some water in when giving DD avocado last week.
TTC #1 starting July 2013, RE last 2014 First Angel baby lost July 11, 2014 IUI #1 with injections successful: EDD 11/24/15 Rainbow baby DD born 11/14/15 TTC#2 October 2016 Second Angel baby lost Jan 5, 2017
Just curious if any of you are thinking about trying sippy cups soon? A lot of cups say for 6mo+. I just don't see how a 6mo old is ready, but maybe that's just my kids (holy crap C will actually be 7 mo in a week!) I don't think I started sippy cups with DD until she was 10 mo.
We currently use a Nuby no spill one. E has totally got it down and LOVES it. She likes to drink out of my glass/water bottle, too (only water of course).
Married DH 09/21/13 BCP 08/08-02/12, 01/13-08/14 Paragard 02/16-? TTC#1 August '14 1st BFP 3/9/15! EDD: 11/17/15 Emma Rose born 11/26/15 (Thanksgiving!)
Totally unrelated -- somehow my school forgot to pay us all. It's a "bookkeeping error." So, check the box so our pay comes through, why is it still not there if you know? It's not even showing as "available" but not in the total in my account. I got bills, yo. We all do.
Not chill!!! The district forgot to pay me my second half from my contract. Bills! Adults need to adult. We don't work for fun.
Married DH 09/21/13 BCP 08/08-02/12, 01/13-08/14 Paragard 02/16-? TTC#1 August '14 1st BFP 3/9/15! EDD: 11/17/15 Emma Rose born 11/26/15 (Thanksgiving!)
Just curious if any of you are thinking about trying sippy cups soon? A lot of cups say for 6mo+. I just don't see how a 6mo old is ready, but maybe that's just my kids (holy crap C will actually be 7 mo in a week!) I don't think I started sippy cups with DD until she was 10 mo.
We've tried both the regular and one with a straw. He understands them and will try a couple times, but normally loses interest after just a minute.
On a lighter note, I got the baptism invites back and they are adorable. Buttt.... I forgot to put RSVP info on them. I have two options, either an insert in the envelope, or a label on the back. Which is more likely to catch people's attention??
Glitter with the RSVP info on it, people always notice glitter!!
Married DH 09/21/13 BCP 08/08-02/12, 01/13-08/14 Paragard 02/16-? TTC#1 August '14 1st BFP 3/9/15! EDD: 11/17/15 Emma Rose born 11/26/15 (Thanksgiving!)
Post by sunfrogger88 on May 31, 2016 15:23:06 GMT -5
ashleymarie26 I am feeling you from this weekend. E finally feel sleep for her nap around 250. It's 420 here and girlfriend is still asleep. Ahh! Yay for sleep but so close to bed time!!
Married DH 09/21/13 BCP 08/08-02/12, 01/13-08/14 Paragard 02/16-? TTC#1 August '14 1st BFP 3/9/15! EDD: 11/17/15 Emma Rose born 11/26/15 (Thanksgiving!)
On a lighter note, I got the baptism invites back and they are adorable. Buttt.... I forgot to put RSVP info on them. I have two options, either an insert in the envelope, or a label on the back. Which is more likely to catch people's attention??
Glitter with the RSVP info on it, people always notice glitter!!
Just curious if any of you are thinking about trying sippy cups soon? A lot of cups say for 6mo+. I just don't see how a 6mo old is ready, but maybe that's just my kids (holy crap C will actually be 7 mo in a week!) I don't think I started sippy cups with DD until she was 10 mo.
I got an avent transition one that works with the same nipple as her bottles (but a stage 3 flow) and then it has a sippy nipple for later. I put some water in when giving DD avocado last week.
I have this same cup too, even tho C doesn't use Avent bottles. My DD used almost all Avent sippy cups. They make really good ones IMO.
Post by flutterfly88 on May 31, 2016 15:27:39 GMT -5
At the mall, trying to find a gift for DH. 10 years ago today I asked him out, we've been through a lot since then, but I wouldn't change most of it for anything!
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