blog link in Voldemort siggy

[lemonliz]

I just linked NariaDreaming's blog in my Voldemort siggy and deleted everything else until we can rescue the rest of our friends. There are still a few people missing and I'm hoping that by responding on a few threads curious people will click and read the first banhammer post. Naria, if you want me to take it down, of course I will.   

I'm just going to be lurking over "there" indefinitely. I don't want to leave anyone behind. I figured the blog link was a good way to reach out to people since PMs are down, if they are curiously inclined to do so.   

[NariaDreaming]

That's fine

[lemonliz]

I wanted to tag it #jesuisNaria but I figured that would arouse too much suspicion.

[nomnom]

I copied your idea. Except I left the rest of my siggy afterwards.

[NariaDreaming]

since I'm probably going to be updating my blog this weekend with my cycle updates, I made THIS for you to put in your siggies over there


wherethebumpiesare.blogspot.com/

[SweetieShellie]

Awesome idea!

I'll have to do it in the morning... This prometrium I just took (its weird taking it orally now) is kicking in and I'm seconds away from passing out ... ***snores**

[lemonliz]

I'm on it!!

[SweetieShellie]

I changed my siggy toooo. Wasn't easy since I'm on my tablet at work and it isn't Voldemort friendly (maybe it knew of things to come?)

[SweetieShellie]

Made a post on IF, hopefully ppl I'll bite!

[NariaDreaming]

SweetieShellie the link isn't working for me when I try and click

[lemonliz]

Okay, updated siggy blog link and I posted on a few more threads. I double checked to make sure the link was working.

[SweetieShellie]

Oh crap NariaDreaming I will have to check it out when I'm on lunch!

[NariaDreaming]

try putting http:// in front of it.

[lillee]

I changed my siggy too. I'll probably still lurk and love tit the BTDT check in though. I've considered having my account and content deleted but I can't bring myself to pull that trigger just yet.

ETA - I just removed my sig over there after reading Rumbera's newest post. 

[lemonliz]

lillee, what's going on over there? I haven't really checked today because it's depressing me.

[NariaDreaming]

Jan 17, 2015 19:48:43 GMT -5 lemonliz said:

lillee, what's going on over there? I haven't really checked today because it's depressing me.

They're having issues where if you have your content deleted, it leaves your siggy

[lillee]

Jan 17, 2015 19:48:43 GMT -5 lemonliz said:

lillee, what's going on over there? I haven't really checked today because it's depressing me.

Rumbera posted a thread about rebuilding 3T and she doesn't want people sticking around just to redirect people here.  I felt bad so I just deleted my signature.  I will probably leave my account open for a few weeks until I decide to delete it for good.  

[lemonliz]

Ok, I just saw Rumbera's post. And I feel a bit guilty. But I'm not going to delete my siggy with the link. I understand where Rumbera is coming and would never want to put her in an uncomfortable position. But I feel very torn about whether or not that site will ever feel like home, or comfortable, or safe for me, again. I won't know until things either settle or implode over there. I'm not trying to recruit to "win" something; I just think people have the right to know where all of their friends went, and why.

[k1111k]

Jan 17, 2015 23:10:41 GMT -5 lemonliz said:

Ok, I just saw Rumbera's post. And I feel a bit guilty. But I'm not going to delete my siggy with the link. I understand where Rumbera is coming and would never want to put her in an uncomfortable position. But I feel very torn about whether or not that site will ever feel like home, or comfortable, or safe for me, again. I won't know until things either settle or implode over there. I'm not trying to recruit to "win" something; I just think people have the right to know where all of their friends went, and why.

I agree 100%

[lillee]

Jan 17, 2015 23:10:41 GMT -5 lemonliz said:

Ok, I just saw Rumbera's post. And I feel a bit guilty. But I'm not going to delete my siggy with the link. I understand where Rumbera is coming and would never want to put her in an uncomfortable position. But I feel very torn about whether or not that site will ever feel like home, or comfortable, or safe for me, again. I won't know until things either settle or implode over there. I'm not trying to recruit to "win" something; I just think people have the right to know where all of their friends went, and why.

Yeah, that's a good point. It's a tough situation.

[NariaDreaming]

Honestly Rumbera is in a tough spot. She is a Paid employee of XO as of last week.

She knows I am there for her, and that she is always welcome here, but I refuse to leave anyone behind in that hellhole. XO group isn't ever going to change. They've made promises in the past about changing how they treat their end users, and every time that promise is empty.

XO group accused me first of "violating the mod agreement" and then when I asked specifically what I did, I was told that my account was associated with posting pornography and harassing users.

I then found out that Bump May straight up admitted to banning the first 6 or 7 mods as a precaution since we had been the most vocal opposition on the mod board to the new TOU.

Frankly, knowing what I know, I don't understand why anyone would want to continue to provide XO group with revenue via page clicks. They are a bunch of greedy two faced bastards who do not give a single fuck about the IF and loss communities

[lemonliz]

Jan 18, 2015 8:36:44 GMT -5 NariaDreaming said:

. They are a bunch of greedy two faced bastards who do not give a single fuck about the IF and loss communities

I think this last part is what bothers me most of all.

[lillee]

The more I find out what happened the more pissed I get. It sounds like they had been planning this. I deleted the app on my phone so I don't get tempted and posted my GB post on the BTDT check in with the link to the blog.

I can't Thank You enough NariaDreaming for creating this site. I can't commit to being a mod/ admin but if there is anything I can do to help with the site, please let me know.

[NariaDreaming]

Jan 18, 2015 9:35:37 GMT -5 lemonliz said:

Jan 18, 2015 8:36:44 GMT -5 NariaDreaming said:

. They are a bunch of greedy two faced bastards who do not give a single fuck about the IF and loss communities

I think this last part is what bothers me most of all.

I mean, even the basic things were ignored. I can't tell you how many times we put in a request for the developers to re-name the app... because every time it crashed on an android product, the user got the error "Pregnancy has stopped"

We told them well over a dozen times why this was offensive and yet they never did anything about it.


And don't even get me started on the baby product ads on 3T/IF. They'd "fix" it and then a few months later, boom, more baby ads.

[lemonliz]

NariaDreaming, I get the distinct feeling that they would simply prefer that 3T and IVF and TTCAL and all the loss related boards didn't exist.

Funny, but 3T (because of Rumbera) is the only board in some semblance or order right now. TTGP is a hot mess. I haven't even looked at the others but can assume that the situation is similar.

[NariaDreaming]

Jan 18, 2015 10:17:46 GMT -5 lemonliz said:

NariaDreaming, I get the distinct feeling that they would simply prefer that 3T and IVF and TTCAL and all the loss related boards didn't exist.

Funny, but 3T (because of Rumbera) is the only board in some semblance or order right now. TTGP is a hot mess. I haven't even looked at the others but can assume that the situation is similar.

Oh and I have no proof, but MTB requested a micro preemies board since the challenges faced by the littlest preemies are so different and not always a happy ending.


Despite pointing it out several times, the board was never added to the main directory, which meant people couldn't find it.

Just another way XO tried to hide the "ugly/scary" side of pregnancy and parenthood

[tumbleweed]

Jan 18, 2015 9:35:37 GMT -5 lemonliz said:

Jan 18, 2015 8:36:44 GMT -5 NariaDreaming said:

. They are a bunch of greedy two faced bastards who do not give a single fuck about the IF and loss communities

I think this last part is what bothers me most of all.

I've been seething for a few days now, since they released their "statement" or whatever that was.  I was willing to keep an open mind about how all the nonsense went down, I was willing to wait to see how everything panned out...but once it was clear that they do not care about, in fact are ashamed of, our community of women who don't magically pop out a baby after reading one of their bullshit articles, I was done ever trusting them again.  Unless they take NariaDreaming back, pay her a salary, publicly apologize, make a donation to Resolve, and hire a loss mom to work in their office, full time, I cannot give them my clicks.  I refuse to be the poor creature in the corner that they throw pity scraps to. Even if they release another statement saying "oops, forgot to include you" it won't be enough.  We are an afterthought, forced on them by some PR team, we are not an actual concern.  

[SweetieShellie]

I did somewhat change my siggy after reading her post. I added back some of my info, but the link is still there. I'm supposed to do the check in for the penguins tomorrow. Haven't had time to go through it yet so I don't even know who is still over there.

[daydreamsam]

At first, I was just really pissed about Naria and wanted to do something to show support, at the very least I hoped that my tweeting and emailing would make them fire BM and apologize to Naria. I planned on dual citizenship because Rumbera's posts spoke to me and I didn't want to leave her or anyone else behind (including newbies). When they released their non-apology that completely excluded us, didn't apologize to Naria and instead made it clear that they were listening to BM's side of the story alone, it made me even more pissed and I stopped posting there altogether and just lurked. When I saw Dovah's post and Rumbera's response, I thought that maybe the Godz at Voldemort might at least make an attempt to make amends, but nope. Nada. Nothing. How long does it take to draft an apology? An hour? Two if they have to run it by legal? And they still couldn't manage.They are making it more and more clear (not just behind the scenes, out in the open now) that they don't care about our community and want nothing to do with us. We don't bring in the big ad bucks therefore we are expendable.

On a side note, I really don't like that I feel paranoid posting there and not just because I worry that if I "step out of line" I'll get banned for no good reason. Maybe it's because once you don a tin foil hat it's hard to take it off but it seems like some of the posters on TTGP and (possibly?) 3T are bump employees who have made accounts to prey on the fact that many have said they aren't leaving because they don't want to leave those who need help behind. One poster in particilar on TTGP is definitely posting there and lurking here to find out info and that REALLY freaks me out.

[tumbleweed]

daydreamsam I totally agree with you. I think there are spies.