Post by snowbigdeal on Jun 2, 2016 2:16:00 GMT -5
I am the biggest planner on earth which really sucks when it comes to loss. When I had DS2 we named him the Anglican version of the DS1s name who was stillborn. No one seems to catch on to it since DS1s name is Gaelic.
So if I had an imaginary DS3 would it be totally inappropriate to use DS1s name as DS3s name? Or use some form of DS1s first name or middle name as a middle name if we had a girl?
I know I am way ahead of myself. We are TTC in the fall and since losing DS1 I always like to go into the process with the names in mind just in case something happens.
Feel free to tell me if this is totally inappropriate
I think the decision should be totally up to you guys and is not at all inappropriate. If it feels right to name your next child after your son that you lost, by all means do it. We gave our daughter the same middle name as our son that we lost, and have conversations about all sorts of ways we might use his first name for our next child. Personally, I don't want to use his exact name, I feel like I want it to remain his and I also think it would make it potentially emotionally more difficult for me. But that's me. I know my h had a different perspective and would like to use his name again. I think as long as you and your h are on the same page, there is no wrong decision here.
I also totally get the urge to think through names ahead of time. We aren't planning to Ttc for another year, but it helps me mentally to start thinking through names right now.
I'm also super curious about what the English/gaelic names you chose are, but I know you're private so I won't pry . But it's giving me ideas for our next baby!
Also this post is not remotely depressing. Bittersweet, perhaps, but not depressing.