Now that we're starting to pick up some here (yay!!) when do you plan to tell people you're expecting?
We've only told 2 very close friends so far, and my crossfit coaches. I'm hoping to wait til I see at least a HB before telling our parents. Was hoping to wait til 10w, but may cave on Father's Day when I'll be just about 8w, IF we see the HB before then.
Post by flyinghorses6 on Jun 4, 2016 11:22:08 GMT -5
I have no idea. We will probably tell our parents after we see the heartbeat as well.
I want to wait until the second trimester to announce; however I am going to a bachelorette party the first weekend of July (I think ill be like 8 weeks) and it's at a winery so not quite sure how I'll get out of that one. Even if I end up telling those friends I won't announce to everyone else until at least 2nd trimester or even after anatomy scan. It also depends how much I'm showing.
Last time the ladies I work with knew early on because I was so sick all night. 3 people at work asked me last night when number 2 was coming! I was like uhhhh whenever it comes!
We are having both sets of parents over tomorrow to cookout and are telling them then. Then we'll call siblings. I won't make a big announcement until 2nd tri, and I'm thinking of waiting until the anatomy scan. But there will be some other people I tell before that. I have a monthly girls' night and we always have a nice dinner and drinks. Not drinking would be obvious, and these are my closest friends, so I'll tell them.
Funny thing about drinking. I was at the grocery store today, and they were giving out wine samples. Without thinking, I took one! I just took my test on Wednesday, so it's still sinking in. Right after I took the sample, I was kicking myself! It wasn't much of course, but I feel so silly about it.
I told my parents this weekend because we had booked a cruise that we needed to reschedule. I got a "soon to be big brother" shirt for DS and surprised them! They are so excited!! Last time we found out around my moms birthday and I got her a grandma charm for her Pandora bracelet. We are telling my brother tomorrow because he's impacted by the cruise rescheduling. I'll probably tell a couple close friends this week and will hold off on the big announcement until 2nd tri. DS is having a first year photography session done so I'll likely get a big brother photo done for the social media announcement.
Post by lilyofthevalley on Jun 4, 2016 19:39:44 GMT -5
We'll hold off until 2nd trimester for an official announcement (we announced at 16 weeks with DS), but we've already shared with my parents and my best friend. I announced to my parents by putting DS in a "big bro" shirt, and my mom noticed immediately, but my dad was oblivious - we finally had to ask him to read DS's shirt, and even then it took a minute to sink in.
@tiffw201 I actually had a similar wine sample incident at our local market the day I got my BFP! The woman offered and I went in for the sample, and then awkwardly was all "Wait, no thanks!" ...and ran away. It takes a while to adjust!
We'll wait until 2nd tri for most people. One close friend knows now and we plan to tell my mom and sister the first weekend of July because we'll all be at a wedding together and it's kind of hard to hide when there's an open bar!
We had a board game night last weekend and I filled an empty bottle of wine with watered down apple juice for myself to drink (crowd of beer drinkers, so no risk of anyone else taking a swing of mine). I kept chuckling to myself all night, like I was getting away with something sinister!
We will tell family after the 8wk scan. I have my appt on June 21, then that weekend we are going to Baltimore with DHs whole family to see his sister who is also pregnant. I just ordered DD a romper that says "big sister" and will put it on her and see how long it takes people to figure it out. I will prob go to my parents on the 21st (they are local to me) and tell them.
We won't do a social media announcement until after the N/T scan comes back clear.
Post by Somers Isles on Jun 5, 2016 22:36:38 GMT -5
I'm torn about this.
1) I'm not a huge fan of being the center of attention in certain things... so the thought of waiting to ANNOUNCE stresses me out.
2) We got out a lot as it is for drinks and stuff.. and now that summer is here that's happening more and more whether it be lunch & drinks, dinner & drinks, drinks at a BBQ, whatever. And it's so annoying to hide drinking. This weekend we are camping with a HUGE group of friends (15+ families) and people will be drinking all weekend. The last day of school is around the corner and everyone always goes out afterwards to celebrate... more drinks. And a coworker is moving to DC so we're having a going away party and of course there will be more drinks there. (I swear i'm not an alcoholic lol)
SO honestly I feel like maybe I'll just send lots of group texts and just be like, "We're prego, it's early but we're hoping for the best, I don't want to pretend to drink, call me if you need a DD."
1) I'm not a huge fan of being the center of attention in certain things... so the thought of waiting to ANNOUNCE stresses me out.
2) We got out a lot as it is for drinks and stuff.. and now that summer is here that's happening more and more whether it be lunch & drinks, dinner & drinks, drinks at a BBQ, whatever. And it's so annoying to hide drinking. This weekend we are camping with a HUGE group of friends (15+ families) and people will be drinking all weekend. The last day of school is around the corner and everyone always goes out afterwards to celebrate... more drinks. And a coworker is moving to DC so we're having a going away party and of course there will be more drinks there. (I swear i'm not an alcoholic lol)
SO honestly I feel like maybe I'll just send lots of group texts and just be like, "We're prego, it's early but we're hoping for the best, I don't want to pretend to drink, call me if you need a DD."
What do y'all think?
Yepp summer is so hard to fake drink. If you think people will really question then tell them. I trick I did with LO 1 was to arrive early and order my virgin drink then half way thru it mention it wasn't sitting well and change to iced tea.
I find that most of the time it's easier to hide not drinking than you think. I worked a five course wine pairing dinner last week and no one noticed I didn't drink any, lol.
We will tell my parents on Father's Day weekend. Idk when we will tell mil. That's up to DH.
I'm a little worried about telling my principal. June 23 (last day of school) is wayyyy too soon, but I'll probably be showing by September. He'll be out on paternity leave over the summer. But I guess September it is.
We are on vacation at my MIL/FIL's house so they know already. It's really hard for me to keep secrets. I have also told my SIL and one of my best friends. I'll probably tell more after an early scan if I get one and we won't go public until after the NT scan probably.
Post by flyinghorses6 on Jun 8, 2016 1:44:55 GMT -5
I'm kinda bummed. I told my two close friends who I work with (1 of which is getting hitched early August) and she basically said--did you think about how you were going to make this work? You're already always tired. Not quite the response I was expecting. She also said she was bummed I won't be able to drink at her bach party and wedding. I think she could tell by my face that she crushed me and was like ohhh but congrats that's awesome for you guys.
It's kinda making me think about not announcing at all. DNW peoples judgments or negativity. I know I shouldn't let it bother me--but can't help it.
flyinghorses6 - so sorry for that crapoy reaction! What a terrible thing for your coworker/friend to say! Please don't let 1 shitty reaction ruin your excitement for telling others.
@flyinghorse8 that was a really crappy reaction from your friend. Like, who even cares if you drink at her beach wedding? Does that make it less fun for her if you don't? So weird.
I'm sorry people couldn't be more excited for you.
flyinghorses6, after that kind of reaction, I would reconsider my friendship with that person and probably let her know I wouldn't want her to be put out by having to pay for my spot at the wedding and decline the invite. That was terribly shitty.
Andplusalso, she needs to keep her nose out of your ute.
Post by flyinghorses6 on Jun 8, 2016 7:23:41 GMT -5
@jacks605 shellbellpibblemom thanks for the support ladies. I definitely shouldn't let it ruin my excitement I just was shocked that this came from her. I was honestly going to wait to announce until after her wedding as not to take any attention from her and her glorious day... Oh well.
flyinghorses6, that is ridiculous! I am so sorry a friend acted so selfishly and I hope you get much better experiences when you are ready to tell others.
I'm kinda bummed. I told my two close friends who I work with (1 of which is getting hitched early August) and she basically said--did you think about how you were going to make this work? You're already always tired. Not quite the response I was expecting. She also said she was bummed I won't be able to drink at her bach party and wedding. I think she could tell by my face that she crushed me and was like ohhh but congrats that's awesome for you guys.
It's kinda making me think about not announcing at all. DNW peoples judgments or negativity. I know I shouldn't let it bother me--but can't help it.
Wow. That's super sucky. Sorry you had to deal with that...
Kinda related, but I have weird feelings announcing because I feel like there are many who simply don't care ... so 1) I'm not interested in other people's excitement when often it's just an obligated excitement & 2) Some people are just dumb and you get reactions like yours.
Our pregnancy is exciting for us and that's all that matters. Same for you!
Post by linewifekat on Jun 8, 2016 21:26:31 GMT -5
We've told my dad, our birth team and close friends. We're seeing my in-laws and my mom and sister this weekend. I'd like to wait to tell them but if we were to miscarry we would tell them anyways. I'm also in the boat where I don't like being the center of attention. If it were up to me I would probably text everyone but I feel like I should do it in person.
We've told my dad, our birth team and close friends. We're seeing my in-laws and my mom and sister this weekend. I'd like to wait to tell them but if we were to miscarry we would tell them anyways. I'm also in the boat where I don't like being the center of attention. If it were up to me I would probably text everyone but I feel like I should do it in person.
I legit plan on texting most, if not all, when we announce. I hate the face-to-face part of it... lol. Not even gonna lie, i'll probably even text my mom. (though she wasn't terribly excited when we announced our 1st... she's a very stereotypical judgmental asian mom lol)
We haven't told anyone yet as we're only 4w5d. I think we will wait until our dating scan at 8 weeks and then tell my parents and H's. I'm not really much for announcing (with dd I was in Canada, we just told our parents and they told everyone), but as I'm home this time, I really want to have dd wear a "big sister" shirt and use her to tell my family and best friend .
Post by beachdreamer on Jun 9, 2016 8:32:11 GMT -5
We haven't told anyone and are undecided when we will. My nephew's birthday is right around when I'll be 8w so there's a chance to tell H's side of the family all at once there. But we won't see my parents until a couple of weeks after that and I'd kind of like to tell them first since the IL side found out first last time. I got DS a "big brother" shirt that I want him to wear and just see who notices. If we do a social media announcement, it won't be until after the anatomy scan.
I'm kinda bummed. I told my two close friends who I work with (1 of which is getting hitched early August) and she basically said--did you think about how you were going to make this work? You're already always tired. Not quite the response I was expecting. She also said she was bummed I won't be able to drink at her bach party and wedding. I think she could tell by my face that she crushed me and was like ohhh but congrats that's awesome for you guys.
It's kinda making me think about not announcing at all. DNW peoples judgments or negativity. I know I shouldn't let it bother me--but can't help it.
That's pretty rude to say and it would definitely hurt my feelings. I'm sorry she said that to you. You drinking at her bach and wedding should have no impact on the amount of fun she haves. Hugs.
So we had both sets of parents over on Sunday to cook out and we told them. All were excited. Then once they left, we called our siblings to tell them.
I was talking to my Mom on Monday and she said she saw on FB where my FIL posted "I'm going to be a grandfather again!" Apparently later in the day it was taken down because I never saw it. I'm thinking my MIL must have seen it and make him take it down. I get that he's excited, but damn...
sweetieheart32 Yeah. I think he just doesn't get it. I have a great relationship with him and I know he's excited. I haven't addressed it with them since it was taken down. And there is one other kid the grandchild could be from, so it doesn't automatically point the finger to us.
Funny, that same morning, I had received texts from my MIL asking when we were comfortable sharing the news, and I gave her my plan. This must have been after the whole FB posting. She's always been great at being discreet, so I'm sure she gave him an earful.
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