Is anyone brave/crazy enough to TTC already?

[USCgirl]

I don't get to spend much time on the board or online at all these days, so I figured I would try to catch up now.  I hope all of you are doing well and things are getting easier now that our babies are getting more independent (at least most of them...mine is attached to my hip!).

So...I am curious to see if anyone has any plans of TTC soon or is already pregnant?  This baby was my last and I am kind of sad about it, but he is very "high maintenance" (according to my H) and takes up a good chunk of my time (not to mention the fact that I also have to care for a needy toddler too), so I am okay with it.

I am just very blessed to have had gotten one of each and was able to experience both ways of giving birth (vag and CS (CS was not by choice, but turned out okay in the end)).

I love seeing all of the babies and I wish I had more time to spend on here or FB to be a better interweb friend.

[rachaeleigh]

No way. I kind of feel like I just got through some of the physical PP stuff (back pain, hemorrhoids/ tear, ppd/a,etc).
I also think that I'm *kind of* just finding a groove with balance. I've learned to give myself a break about it but I'd love to consistently fit in one more gym day.
There is always the chance that I get pregnant (I'm not on BC) but most likely conceiving again would involve a frozen embryo transfer. I just can't imagine trips to the RE again several days a week right now.

[pearlvirus]

I can't imagine TTC before the previous baby is consistently STTN. I know surprises happen but hot damn you'd be nuts to wish for babies barely over a year apart!!

www.thealphaparent.com/2012/07/what-no-one-tells-you-about-child.html?m=1

[littleredfish]

A couple of us were casually discussing this in the weekend thread.

DH is done having kids. I am not. We have agreed to discuss when baby is 2 years. I love our 3 yr age gap since DD1 is pretty self sufficient. I also watch my cousins 1 yr old on occasion and just the taste of 3 with the 2 youngest with such a small age gap is overwhelming to me. I get wanting the baby stage over with all at once if that's not your thing, but I love it so I'm happy to take it in well spaced out waves and not a tsunami of baby cries, diapers and late night wake ups lol.

[kensie5226]

We're so in the fence. We talked about me having my IUD removed to see what happens, but since we're MFI it's unlikely. So we'll wait until we wean b/c I have to take the drugs for IUI.

[proceedwithcaution]

Mine are 20 months apart and *most* days I love it. I just never used protection after my first. I got my period at a year.

[Deleted]

My plan is to start TTC in October or November. If I happen to get pregnant now I would be ecstatic. I would also get serious about sleep training before the arrival of the next.

[sunfrogger88]

Nope. We need our shit together before #2. My H wants them close but can't do 2 in childcare with our current arrangement so, he knows we need to be at a place where I can SAH for a while. Maybe in 2.5 years is my hope

[ldubhawksfan]

We aren't ready yet, but I've thought about it. And it would be crazy! I think at a year we may think about starting. I'm doubtful it won't take awhile again, which is why we may start a little earlier. Knock on wood, DD has also been a relatively easy baby, which plays a big factor in where my head is with timing too.

[fuzzylogic]

Hahahahahahahaha no.

I was told to wait awhile before ttc again. Like a year. We are using condoms the rare time we have sex. I've had one pp period.

[younglove316]

Not here. This was our second and we definitely feel complete with two so we are done.

[flutterfly88]

Not yet, I will be classified as high risk for all future pregnancies, and have restrictions on how much I am able to lift (plus no sex!) so we want to wait until B is at least a year before we ttc again. I also joined weight watchers, and signed up for a year commitment so we will probably tta until that year commitment is up.

[littleowl913]

I was thinking of TTC in January. DH would start now if I said okay. AF was a week late and he giddily asked if I was PG. I can't even imagine being PG right now.

[whatsit]

We've talked about trying once G is a year but we'll see come fall. I'm enjoying the time we have with him. He's a really mellow baby too so I'm kinda scared the next one will be really high maintenance.

I do miss being pregnant though. Strange?

[PonyGirl]

Jun 5, 2016 8:32:14 GMT -5 sunfrogger88 said:

Nope. We need our shit together before #2. My H wants them close but can't do 2 in childcare with our current arrangement so, he knows we need to be at a place where I can SAH for a while. Maybe in 2.5 years is my hope

This is us exactly.

[fuzzylogic]

Oh yeah, it's pretty cost-prohibitive for us right now, too. And I would be high risk and AMA and probably end up with GD again...so the whole idea of it is pretty scary, tbh.

[melimo1315]

Jun 5, 2016 14:28:05 GMT -5 fuzzylogic said:

Oh yeah, it's pretty cost-prohibitive for us right now, too. And I would be high risk and AMA and probably end up with GD again...so the whole idea of it is pretty scary, tbh.

My old roomie is a labor and delivery nurse and said they are changing AMA from 35 to 40 because of the high number of first time moms being 40+. I was considered AMA because I turned 35 the month before delivery and if I went for a third I'd be 37 at delivery if we tried this fall/winter. I'm hoping it goes to 40+ because I had weekly appt starting in July based on early glucose testing and diagnosis of GD. Even if you had this time, you may not have it again. I had this time too because I already had a family history of diabetes 1 and 2. I'm expecting it a 3rd time but try to maintain the GD diet between pregnancies so it's not a huge shock haha.

[squeakyduck]

At this time, we are happy with our one. The idea of being pregnant now scares the crap out of me. Like, not sure I'd even go through with it level of dread.

I have an iud that is good for three years and we will reevaluate then. But right now it's a hard no.

Sometimes I think it'd be nice to try again and have a better birth experience, but unless they come up with a new type of spinal block, I don't see that happening. I'm still devastated that I missed his birth and fairly traumatized by the nicu stay. Maybe that will change in a few years, but I'm not holding my breath.

[sassypantzz]

I'd love to be but DH needs to graduate and get his job and we need to see where we will be living first. One thing as a time I guess

[yummeecookee]

Jun 5, 2016 13:45:54 GMT -5 whatsit said:

We've talked about trying once G is a year but we'll see come fall. I'm enjoying the time we have with him. He's a really mellow baby too so I'm kinda scared the next one will be really high maintenance.

I do miss being pregnant though. Strange?

I kinda do too. It's an amazing journey and there is nothing like the excitement of waiting for a new LO. I can't tell you how many times during my last pg I said "I never want to do this again!!1!1." But the truth is, my body handles pregnancy pretty well. It's kind of hard knowing I'll never do it again. We feel our family is complete.

[countingthestars]

Not right now. We say we are undecided about a fourth but I'm pretty sure we will have another one. We want to wait until Paige is 2 before trying. We love the bigger gap that we had between our first 2(3 years) compared to our youngest(2 years).

[littleowl913]

Jun 5, 2016 13:45:54 GMT -5 whatsit said:

We've talked about trying once G is a year but we'll see come fall. I'm enjoying the time we have with him. He's a really mellow baby too so I'm kinda scared the next one will be really high maintenance.

I do miss being pregnant though. Strange?

I kinda miss it too and I tell people how I kinda loved being pregnant. But I also tend to forget I was high risk, scared shitless I was going to lose my baby for the first 22 weeks, went into PTL before the really uncomfortable weeks of third tri and oh how much I missed drinking. lol

[winogirl]

Jun 5, 2016 19:41:19 GMT -5 yummeecookee said:

Jun 5, 2016 13:45:54 GMT -5 whatsit said:

We've talked about trying once G is a year but we'll see come fall. I'm enjoying the time we have with him. He's a really mellow baby too so I'm kinda scared the next one will be really high maintenance.

I do miss being pregnant though. Strange?

I kinda do too. It's an amazing journey and there is nothing like the excitement of waiting for a new LO. I can't tell you how many times during my last pg I said "I never want to do this again!!1!1." But the truth is, my body handles pregnancy pretty well. It's kind of hard knowing I'll never do it again. We feel our family is complete.

My body seemed to handle being pregnant really well too! I never had MS, had a few bleeding scares but otherwise I didn't have problems sleeping or too many aches and pains that some ladies complain about. Labor and Delivery was a whole other story for me - it was so traumatizing and then the NICU stay added on top of that and then F being so high maintenance and the colic. I think it will take a while for me to be ready again - if I ever will be. And I just turned 40 (yikes) so it is kind of in the we try at the end of the year or not at all.....
We'll see I guess. DH says he is 50/50 on going for a second.

[pearlvirus]

I do pretty well with pregnancy and birth, so that doesn't scare me. But if ability to handle sleep deprivation is on a scale of 1-10 (10 being best) I think I am a negative 50. It's seriously absurd how poorly I handle even one night of suck.... And on top of that I also seem to produce only babies that hate sleep, so if DH wasn't a saint I think I would be dead. Not sure if I want to sign up for a third year of hell.

[onyx]

Nope. But I'm not married anymore so... Sorry my humor.
Had my life gone exactly as planned, I would have loved to keep the 3 year age gap. I love it for Seb and Liam.

[sunfrogger88]

Jun 6, 2016 11:30:12 GMT -5 onyx said:

Nope. But I'm not married anymore so... Sorry my humor.
Had my life gone exactly as planned, I would have loved to keep the 3 year age gap. I love it for Seb and Liam.

When one door closes.... Hey. As long as you find the humour in it that's what matters!!

And maybe it'll work out to have another 3 year gap

[Deleted]

Jun 5, 2016 17:08:42 GMT -5 @mattsgirl2004 said:

Definitely not right now, but we plan on starting to TTC this coming fall. We already have no money and never sleep, so what's one more kid. Lol.

My thoughts exactly! Plus, now that we have had both sexes we can just recycle the onesies and sleepers and just buy season appropriate clothing for the next two. That's a huge money saver right there. I also have baby gear exploding from my house so no need to purchase anything new in that category either.

[fuzzylogic]

Last night H told me he wants another. So there's that.

[flyliceandcoffee]

we were actually just talking about this the other night. and the answer was yah no way no how. maybe in like 5 years we'd consider adopting an older child though. We both feel like there are so many children out there who need homes that get skipped over because they aren't infants that we want to do something for someone who might be a little older but still needs a loving family. we'll see though....

[squeakyduck]

Jun 6, 2016 17:45:05 GMT -5 flyliceandcoffee said:

we were actually just talking about this the other night. and the answer was yah no way no how. maybe in like 5 years we'd consider adopting an older child though. We both feel like there are so many children out there who need homes that get skipped over because they aren't infants that we want to do something for someone who might be a little older but still needs a loving family. we'll see though....

We've talked about fostering older kids when ours is older. I worry about the kids that age out. They can usually get scholarships, but being in college is hard. I'd like to help support kids at that age. They still need a home and family for summers and holidays. And someone to call when they don't feel good or don't know how to do laundry. Shit, I'm 28 and still call my mom to ask how to do stuff.