PgAL Ladies - anxiety tips?

[thebeaches]

Good morning! Having a rough morning today and can't seem to keep the anxiety at bay. How are other pgal ladies doing? Any tips for trying to calm the nerves? I don't have an US till next Friday. It's going to be a long week!

[linewifekat]

Meditation and listening to Christian music on my commute helped with my second pregnancy. Just don't do what I did and stress eat and gain 10 pounds in the first trimester.

[flyinghorses6]

When I called my OB they originally weren't going to do anything until the end of the month...but when I told them I was having some mild anxiety they ordered betas and progesterone blood work for me. My ultrasound is next Thursday which is a little early (I'll only be 6w2d) but it definitely makes it easier when you get the little reassurances.

I wish I had more advice on things you could do regardless of your appointments, but I don't really know. Hopefully you can clear your mind and enjoy the next week without worrying too much.

[pibblemom]

I've just been trying to tell myself, whatever happens, will happen. There is nothing I can do to cause a loss, nor prevent a loss. Just keep eating healthy, moderate exercise, etc.

My MW practice doesn't usually suggest a first visit till 10w. I'm not sure I can wait that long, and I am waiting for my 3rd beta results (watching my progesterone), so when she calls today i'm going to ask if I can make an earlier appt. Ideally, next thurs when I'll be 7w.

[tiffw2012]

No experience here, but just wanted to say hang in there Mommas! I know this must be nerve wracking. Send you all the positive thoughts.

[lilyofthevalley]

My only solution has been to keep busy. Pgal anxiety is no joke....I go from complete panic one minute to daydreaming about baby names the next, I'm all over the place. I wish my new OB (we moved out of state after DS was born) was willing to do an early ultrasound - my old OB made early monitoring an option for loss patients, and I was so much more at peace being able to see the progress. Just having information made me feel (slightly) in control and less in the dark.

Anyway, following this thread to get some ideas.

[thebeaches]

lilyofthevalley that's me too. The pendulum swings are driving me batty! I think distraction is key.

[madam23]

lilyofthevalley That's so great that your old OB offered that option. It would be great if they all understood what a comfort it would be.

I have no advice, just solidarity. TMI, but every time I wipe I close my eyes and hold my breath. It's impossible to forget that moment.

DS definitely helps keep my mind busy and focused though.

[flyinghorses6]

Jun 9, 2016 19:17:32 GMT -5 madam23 said:

lilyofthevalley That's so great that your old OB offered that option. It would be great if they all understood what a comfort it would be.

I have no advice, just solidarity. TMI, but every time I wipe I close my eyes and hold my breath. It's impossible to forget that moment.

DS definitely helps keep my mind busy and focused though.

Can totally relate to the bathroom moments. Stay strong mamas!

[Deleted]

While it's not good that we have so many loss mommas here it's great seeing you all support one another. I know that seeing some of the comments above made me feel a little less crazy. DH doesn't get it and no others aside from OB know so for now you ladies are my support.

[meladorie]

I think I'm still in denial so I'm not so anxious yet. Last time around I was a mess. I found distraction to be key. Binge watch Netflix tv shows. Read really mindless books (I like twilight for shallow and fun distraction). Also actually my Doppler last time was a life saver because I found the heartbeat at 8 weeks somehow and I listened once a day. (Of course there were times I couldn't find it and man those days sucked).

[notagoddess]

meladorie, I am also more shocked than anxious right now. I'm sure once it sinks in fully, I will have to do everything possible to stay distracted and busy.

[ls2012]

Hello, ladies. +1 me for the more shocked than anxious club. I think for me, just letting go and admitting that there's nothing I or anyone can do to prevent a loss, is helpful. In my other 5 pregnancies (3 losses), I was so worried all the time and getting more betas drawn and having early u/s only bought me a couple hours of peace of mind.

This time, my mantra is the freaking Frozen song- which I hate, but oh well. "Let it goooooo, let it go..."

[notagoddess]

ls2012, thanks a lot for getting that stuck in my mind for the next week!

I was thinking of starting a PgAL/PAIF check-in like on the other BMB. Is anyone else interested?