***6/22/16 Weekly Check-In***

[caer]

I hope it's ok that I'm posting this. I think wirt2cute is cruising but I miss my > 35 ladies!


Status:

What are you doing this month?

Where are you at in your journey?

What is your mood?

QOTW: What is the worst date you've ever been on?

[twohopes]

I hope it's OK that I will start first instead of a separate intro post. *living child warning, loss warning

I am 35, very very soon (i.e. less than a month now) to be 36. I have one child, 20 months, and I have two losses before her. My husband has a chromosomal translocation, making it harder to conceive a child compatible with life for us.

This month, we are bona fide going to TTC naturally. We have been trying on and off since the start of the year, but we had a few setbacks (surgery - mine, gallbladder; crazy schedules; travel, etc.). If we are not successful by mid-fall, we will begin the IVF with PGD process, we have already selected a local clinic and done a consult.

My mood is a bit apprehensive, but also hopeful, as it usually is a few days before ovulation.

QOTW: Ha, let me count the bad dates. Oh, so very many. I would have to say one where the person looked absolutely nothing like his online picture, but halfway through dinner informed me that he wants to move to Alaska to live with his sister (we are on the East Coast), and was planning to, but maybe I will give him a serious reason to stay behind. Hey, no pressure!!

[caer]

Welcome twohopes! FX for you. Your bad date made me laugh.

[caer]

Status: Cycle 13 of TFAS

What are you doing this month? Nothing right now

Where are you at in your journey? 13 DPO, waiting for AF

What is your mood? Ok. I was sad this cycle was a bust but I'm ready to move on to treatment. We're supposed to try Femara this month and of course I made the mistake of googling it last night. I read that it has low success rates for unexplained IF. But I'm going to try to trust my RE and hope for the best.

QOTW: What is the worst date you've ever been on?
A guy I was newly dating suggested we go back to his place after a good date. It turned out he still lived with his parents (he was 32 I think). We ended up watching The 40 Year Old Virgin...with his mother. I was so uncomfortable.

[badwolf]

Status: TTC #2 for me and #1 for DH

What are you doing this month? Waiting...waiting...more waiting.

Where are you at in your journey? Waiting for my natural cycle to start post D&C

What is your mood? Pretty good.

QOTW: What is the worst date you've ever been on? I haven't been on too many dates so I can't think of any that have been really bad.

[caer]

I'm glad you're doing ok badwolf! AF returned for me about 30 days post D&C. I hope it shows up for you soon.

[badwolf]

Jun 23, 2016 11:01:12 GMT -5 caer said:

I'm glad you're doing ok badwolf ! AF returned for me about 30 days post D&C. I hope it shows up for you soon.

It's only been about three weeks for me. I'm ready to just get it over with. DNW to use protection during sex. I'm married dammit. That shit should have gone out the window. LOL

[caer]

Jun 23, 2016 11:36:15 GMT -5 badwolf said:

Jun 23, 2016 11:01:12 GMT -5 caer said:

I'm glad you're doing ok badwolf ! AF returned for me about 30 days post D&C. I hope it shows up for you soon.

It's only been about three weeks for me. I'm ready to just get it over with. DNW to use protection during sex. I'm married dammit. That shit should have gone out the window. LOL

I remember that feeling well! Hope AF shows soon.

[sleepymonkey]

Welcome, twohopes!
caer, I did 4 rounds of Femara and I also have unexplained 2IF. RE didn't want to give me Clomid because I already have an issue with lack of CM. It worked well for giving me multiple mature follicles quickly. Conversely, I just did a cycle with injectables, which has a greater change of multiples, and only ended up with 1 mature follicle at trigger time. My assumption (and I have no backup other than just a hunch) is no medication has great success rates for unexplained IF because we have something going on that is not easily detectable. On paper, we shouldn't have a problem. I think the medications have more of a chance of helping the problems you can see, like O issues.

Status: TTC#2

What are you doing this month? I did injectables with my 4th and final IUI

Where are you at in your journey? CD17/4DPO Cycle 14. Near the end of this journey

What is your mood? Mostly ok. I'm becoming more at peace with the very likely situation of being OAD, although of course I have my moments of incredible sadness. I really don't have much hope for this cycle because I only had one good follicle and we did not hit any days in my FW due to me being sick with a stomach bug so we have everything riding on a hopefully well-timed IUI. Now we just need to figure out how long we're going to do natural cycles before giving up completely.

QOTW: What is the worst date you've ever been on? In college I went on a date with a guy that I met in a bar. We went to a wine bar and he proceeded to tell me all wine tasting, the differences between the different wine-making regions, etc. I was 21 and my scene was dive bars with cheap liqour and ladies' nights. I thought I agreed to a date, not a lecture.

[caer]

Thanks for sharing your experience sleepymonkey. That's what the online articles seem to say as well - drugs are helpful for people who have trouble with ovulation but may or may not be helpful for those who are already regularly ovulating. Blah. It makes me sad that we're going to be spending thousands of dollars for a not much better shot, but I don't know what other choice we have.

Also, wine snobs are kind of my least favorite people. Sorry you had to deal with that!!

[sleepymonkey]

caer, Yeah I knew our odds were not much greater since we're unexplained so I struggled with spending all the money on treatment. But we decided it was worth it so we could at least feel like we did all we could, short of IVF. If we didn't, I think we would have always had in the back of our minds "Maybe if we had just tried the meds....."

[caer]

Jun 23, 2016 13:05:05 GMT -5 sleepymonkey said:

caer, Yeah I knew our odds were not much greater since we're unexplained so I struggled with spending all the money on treatment. But we decided it was worth it so we could at least feel like we did all we could, short of IVF. If we didn't, I think we would have always had in the back of our minds "Maybe if we had just tried the meds....."

That's kind of my thought, too. We'll regret it if we don't try, a least for a couple of cycles.

I'm crossing all the things for you. I hope this is your cycle.

[beachdreamer]

***lurking grad***

I hope it's ok to post this because caer, I wanted to give you a little hope. I was dx DOR but everything else seemed ok. I had very regular cycles and O'ed like clockwork every month. The first month with the RE we did TI with Femara/letrozole CD 3-7. It gave me 3 mature follicles on CD 12. We did Ovidrel trigger at that point. I hope you have good luck with the Femara.

[caer]

Thank you beachdreamer. That does give me some hope.

[wannabmama]

Status: TTC #1 for two years

What are you doing this month? Au natural

Where are you at in your journey? CD13, just about go time, ha

What is your mood? Remarkably calm, we are setting into "what will be, will be"...we are going to do IVF in August but that might be our last assisted try. We'll see.

QOTW: What is the worst date you've ever been on? Oh I had a bunch...one wasn't really the date itself, but after. We had an ok first date, nothing that exciting, but worth second date. The guy suggested bowling, I said fine...he asked for my address to pick me up. This was a guy I met on the Internet and I lived alone, in a suburb. I said I'd just meet him there...he kept insisting he pick me up. Uh, no. Then he sent me some nasty text about wasting his time if I wasn't really interested. Uh, ok. Thank goodness I never went out with him again.

[wannabmama]

twohopes good luck TTC again! Also, I had a similar online experience...the guy had us married (and me as stepmom to his kids) before we finished dinner.
caer I'm dying laughing at your date story. That's just too amazing!
Hugs badwolf the waiting is definitely the worst part.
sleepymonkey I have everything crossed for you!!!