PgAL/PAIF Check-In 7/6

[notagoddess]

Welcome! This is a weekly check in for those of us who are pregnant after loss and/or infertility. This check in is a safe place to share all things that come with being PgAL and/or PAIF, and to give support to others.

***Loss warnings are not necessary here.***

PAIF Mantras
www.goodbyecb.proboards.com/thread/57254/welcome-paif-read-before-posting

PgAL Mantras
www.goodbyecb.proboards.com/thread/1034/pgal-mantras

~~~If You’re Just Joining in This Week~~~

What is your loss and/or IF history?

What is your EDD?
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How far along are you?

How are you doing physically? Emotionally?

Any appointments or milestones this week?

QOTW: What are your tips or strategies for managing anxiety (PgAL and other)?

[notagoddess]

How far along are you? 7 weeks

How are you doing physically? Emotionally? Physically - exhausted, nauseous, sore boobs. Emotionally - the exhaustion is wearing on me and I'm anxious.

Any appointments or milestones this week? No, no appointments until August 12.

QOTW: What are your tips or strategies for managing anxiety (PgAL and other)? I'm not doing a great job of this. Typically, I ramp up healthy lifestyle type stuff when I feel anxious, but it's been hard with feeling sick. I've also slacked with going to yoga.

[ls2012]

Thanks, notagoddess for running the check-in! I hope everyone is doing well, and hugs to those that need them.

How Far Along: 8 weeks

How Are You Feeling Physically: symptoms come and go, but mostly manageable. Emotionally: bleh, not bad but not great. Still struggling to imagine a positive outcome.

Appts: July 18...too far away.

QOTW: Mostly, I've been reminding myself that there is absolutely nothing I or anyone else can do to change what will or will not happen, and so worrying is counterproductive. I'm not really sure it's working for me, though.

[notagoddess]

ls2012, I try to think that too. I also keep repeating to myself that additional ultrasounds now are not going to change the outcome. It's true, but it doesn't always make you feel 100% better.

[ls2012]

Jul 6, 2016 10:06:45 GMT -5 notagoddess said:

ls2012, I try to think that too. I also keep repeating to myself that additional ultrasounds now are not going to change the outcome. It's true, but it doesn't always make you feel 100% better.

Exactly, especially with the scans. I wonder if that's part of why I put off making an appt, to eliminate any chance for an early u/s. But then, I see others talking about the relief they have from their scans and I wonder if I just made it harder on myself than it needed to be. Ugh! There is no winning emotional road in pgal. :/

[oldbaylover1024]

Thanks for the check-in, notagoddess . {{hugs}} for the anxiety. It's so hard.

ls2012 - {{hugs}} to you, too. I can totally understand the early u/s anxiety. It's nice to have the reassurance, but on the other hand extra scans can be nerve wracking.

How far along are you? 7w5d

How are you doing physically? Emotionally? Physically - still awful. Emotionally - getting nervous for our appointment next Thursday. We don't have a great track record with first u/s so they always make me extremely nervous.

Any appointments or milestones this week? None this week.

QOTW: I try my best to repeat mantras and (frankly) ignore the fact that I'm pregnant. Sometimes going on with life like this isn't happening helps me function. If I focus on it too much, I go to the 'what if' scenarios. Stupid PgAL brain.

ETA: When I was pg with J I had to have all kinds of extra scans, including weekly scans for the last 12 weeks. She turned out fine. I hope that helps with some of the scan anxiety

[ImAPepper]

8w1d

Physically I feel like shit. I keep feeling like I'm going to pass out if I climb stairs or walk too fast and like I can't get enough air. Sometimes this happens when I sit or lay down wrong, but that's pretty rare. I'm having trouble sleeping and keep having nightmares that somethings wrong with the baby. DH had to wake me up the other night because I was thrashing around and whimpering. My emotions are all over the place and I way quicker to anger over stupid stuff. And the nausea is really hard to deal with unless I'm constantly eating

Appointment won't be until the 20th

QOTW - if I find my mind wandering I occupy myself with something else. I work out. I read a book. I do something that makes me have to pay enough attention so my mind doesn't wander.