Is it really only Tuesday randoms

[sweetieheart32]

What have you got today?

[shellbell]

We are going to the zoo! Please body, just cooperate for a couple hours of fun (and McDonald's lunch!).

[shellbell]

Also, I am just loving that the plagiarism that happened at the RNC last night. They couldn't even have thought to copy a republican?

[oldbaylover1024]

OMG, shellbell, don't even get me started on the RNC last night. The videos of Melania's speech v. Michelle's are everywhere. I mean, really?!?! Ridiculous...

I text the cousin last night, and she said she was drunk and didn't realize what she was saying. That it came out totally wrong. Okay... sure. I'll be the bigger person and blow it off. [insert eye roll]

[Deleted]

Sitting at the OB for my 3rd ultrasound and appt. still not used to the every 2 week visits yet. But definitely going to make a shutterfly album of all these ultrasounds.

other than that not much going on. Waiting for our Flooring quotes to come back so we know who do go with.

[ktl23]

I have my dating scan today and I am so excited! It hasn't felt real yet that I'm pregnant so I think today will be a really special day for us.

I told my brother and sis in law yesterday. They are talking about starting to try for a baby soon so I wanted to e sensitive and not make it competitive... They live in the UK so even though our babies might be close in age, we only see them every 2 years - bittersweet!

Other than that, trying to savour my last 3 weeks as a stay at home mom before going back to work. We leave for our summer vacation in 2 weeks and have my DS first bday on Saturday. It's been a very very busy month!!

Hope everyone is having a good Tuesday!

[sweetieheart32]

Hope everything goes well at your scan today ktl23!

[staz]

My brain can't math today. It's a problem. I do know that there's only 10 more days until my appointment and US!

[sweetieheart32]

I feel totally useless at work these days. I really am trying, but my brain is in such a fog!

[staz]

We have a big deadline Friday and I'm nervous about hitting it. I just can't seem to put two and two together. Solidarity!

[addymac]

Feel so depleted of energy today. I need to eat breakfast but the idea of cooking is exhausting. I'm not even exhausted like first trimester exhausted, I just feel emotionally spent.

Today's our anniversary (2 years!) but he's OOT for work til Friday or Saturday and I work tonight anyway, so we don't even get to see each other like at all. He did send me some flowers 😊

I told my sister last night about the pregnancy and the cysts and genetic testing. She was less than helpful, I actually thought I was going to scream and hang up on her bc of some of the shit she said (like, well you got pregnant once, you can get pregnant again.... Well, whatever's meant to be.... Well you know if you're so sad it's going to have an effect on the baby- you know that research studies show trauma gets passed on genetically...) and other wonderful gems. I flat out told her never say those things to me again. She apologized and said she just had no idea what to say. I told her to say nothing then and just be there if I needed someone to cry to.

She also told me she can't believe I haven't told my parents and she can't understand why I wouldn't, and when I mentioned how stressed and worried they get- example, our dads aunt is sick and has Alzheimer's, and they are worrying themselves sick over her, thinking she could die any day bc she has good days and bad days - they're her primary financial caretakers - she's in a nursing home, so we've seen my mom literally make herself sick to her stomach for a week bc they were freaking out she was going to die while they were away. My dad even said (theyre retired) that they won't be taking any vacations anywhere until his aunt dies bc what if she dies while they're in Europe? Then what! 🙄 They're obsessed and it makes me nervous that I'll spend my time supporting them through this, not vice versa. Also, I don't want to hear that they're praying and God will make things okay bc 1) I'm not religious (they are very religious) and 2) praying isn't going to change what's already genetically done. So idk. My sister thinks they'll be fine and won't be worried sick and I need to tell them. I feel like she's trying to make me tell them and I don't appreciate that bc I still worry about their health and if they'll provide the support I need, not the support they want to give. I just don't know.

Sorry for the novel 🙁

[ktl23]

So many hugs addymac Personally, I think it's totally your call who you tell and don't let anyone pressure you until you're ready. I'm sorry your sis reacted that way. Xo

[ls2012]

addymac, I am so, so, sorry that you have to deal with all this crap. Your sister gets a big middle finger from me. And honestly, with her wanting you to tell your parents despite your legitimate objections, it sounds like she's just trying to pass the buck so she doesn't "have" to be your support.

Hang in there, hon. We're here for you!

[nemomof2]

ktl23, GL at your appt today!
addymac, That is a lot to deal with. I would say tell them when you want and when you feel comfortable. I have also been feeling the drain emotionally, it's hard.

AFM: not much is going on with me today, just the usual grind of 2 toddlers. The Diclegis that the doc gave me has quit working, so.....fun.

[lovebb09]

I feel like I've been MIA for awhile. We had a blast camping. It's so nice to get away from life for a few days. I actually love the fact that we didn't have cell service. It forces everyone to put the phones down.. except MIL.. she had her phone the whole time trying to find spots of service.. ugh.
Today I need to clean up around the house. My nausea has turned into actually throwing up so I'm just hoping I can avoid that today. I'm thinking of calling my midwife to get a script for Zofran since the Diclegis isn't working anymore.
addymac I just had to catch up on everything. I'm so,so,so sorry you're going through this. Sending all the positive thoughts your way!!

[crazycatlady6]

addymac - (((hugs))).

I am at the laundromat since my new washer and dryer came with big dents last night and we rejected the delivery. I just rescheduled for Friday morning so hopefully it comes in a non-battered state. I'm hot, it's 90 degrees with no AC here but it was the only time I had this week and we are out of clean clothes. Yuck.

[flyinghorses6]

addymac so sorry you're having a tough time. Try and just worry about yourself and the baby. Some people just can't handle stress as well as others. I'm sorry you feel like you're not getting the support you need, especially from your sister. I am also not religious. But I'm sending you lots of love.

[oldbaylover1024]

ktl23 - Good luck at your appointment today!

addymac - I'm so sorry. People say ridiculous things when they don't know what to say. Yes, she should have just listened, but some folks don't know how to stop. It's your call on when/who you tell. Do you think your sister will keep her trap shut, or do you think she'll spill the beans to your parents?

[Deleted]

addymac,I'm so sorry you had to deal with that bullshit from your sister. I think if your gut is telling you to wait to tell your parents you need to stick to it. You certainly don't need more stress on your shoulders.

[Deleted]

I have to drive to the barn in a bit to teach one goddamn lesson, because I'm a sucker. It's not worth the money and I'm salty about it. I rescheduled her last week for the same reason and I feel bad doing it again...uhhhhhgggg.

[wildflower810]

We're not having a great day over here. I did suck up my pride and take two friends up on their respective offers to clean my house and watch my kid. Last night I broke down so badly and realized I can't do this all.

[shawnabm1320]

addymac, I'm so sorry you're now dealing with stress from your sister as well. It stinks when you reach out expecting support and have to be the strong one instead.

We had DS's well appointment today, and I got my car back from my dad! I'm so excited that I can actually use it and go places! And I'm super glad I don't have to park H's truck in my OB's tiny lot on Thursday.

I finally got all the dishes washed from cooking for DS's birthday party on Saturday. Don't judge me I still have to put away things like extra plates and decorations. Maybe tomorrow...

[shellbell]

DS has a strong attachment to one of my mom's cats. We're not really sure why because the cat isn't super sociable or anything. DS sleeps with a picture of this cat and often talks about him, even when it's been weeks since he's seen the cat.

My mom just let me know the cat has been admitted to the animal hospital with possible kidney failure. He is very sick. I'm praying the cat recovers because I'm not ready to break DS's heart like that.

[puma1315]

Jul 19, 2016 15:57:36 GMT -5 shellbell said:

DS has a strong attachment to one of my mom's cats. We're not really sure why because the cat isn't super sociable or anything. DS sleeps with a picture of this cat and often talks about him, even when it's been weeks since he's seen the cat.

My mom just let me know the cat has been admitted to the animal hospital with possible kidney failure. He is very sick. I'm praying the cat recovers because I'm not ready to break DS's heart like that.

I'm so sorry. DS also got attached to a cat (not to the extent your DS is) but when the cat was no longer there he asked about her every now and then for months afterwards. Thankfully he's young and with time his questions have gotten fewer and farther in between as he forgets. I hope your mom's cat gets better.

[puma1315]

addymac I'm sorry your sister reacted that way. Hopefully she learned from it and will be more supportive going forward.

[shellbell]

Jul 19, 2016 19:38:17 GMT -5 puma1315 said:

Jul 19, 2016 15:57:36 GMT -5 shellbell said:

DS has a strong attachment to one of my mom's cats. We're not really sure why because the cat isn't super sociable or anything. DS sleeps with a picture of this cat and often talks about him, even when it's been weeks since he's seen the cat.

My mom just let me know the cat has been admitted to the animal hospital with possible kidney failure. He is very sick. I'm praying the cat recovers because I'm not ready to break DS's heart like that.

I'm so sorry. DS also got attached to a cat (not to the extent your DS is) but when the cat was no longer there he asked about her every now and then for months afterwards. Thankfully he's young and with time his questions have gotten fewer and farther in between as he forgets. I hope your mom's cat gets better.

They're giving him until tomorrow afternoon to see an improvement. If he doesn't respond to the treatment by then, they will let him go. I understand because they don't want him to suffer, and, quite honestly, it'll just become too expensive (the bill is already $700). My mom mentioned she's so worried about what to do because of DS.

[addymac]

Thank you, everyone, for your kind words. I really really appreciate it. Sorry I'm such a downer lately- this is seriously the only place (-aside from with my DH) that I feel I can talk since no one else even knows. I'm pregnant and the one friend that does know, is also pregnant, and I just don't feel up to talking about it. Today was a bad crying day all day.

The more I think about it, the more frustrated I get with how my sister spoke. I know she means well, but it really bothers me what she said and how I feel pressured to tell my parents now. Oh, well. It is what it is. I just need to let it go. And try to focus on the positive possible outcomes. It's just SO HARD, esp when it'll be a good 3-4weeks before we can find out any real answers.

Thank you again, ladies. You really have helped in listening to me and supporting me.

[littleredfish]

Late check in. Pretty good day. Library and pool with the kiddos, then we went and checked out a new (to us) van. We're going back to pay for it tomorrow! I'm so excited I won't be driving around a rust bucket with old breaks anymore. And stow and go seats! The things that get me excited now.

[EmMilAlly]

addymac I'm late, but sending you lots of hugs. The way your sister responded was crazy, and whether she meant it that way or not you are totally justified in feeling frustrated and angry about how it went down. I hope you get reassuring news soon and the next few weeks fly by. Please know we are all rooting for you!!!

[notagoddess]

addymac, I didn't get a chance to respond yesterday but I want to continue to send you love and strength. I know it's so hard, but try to not take what your sister said personally. People say awkward and stupid shit when they don't know what to say. It's wrong, but it happens. Don't give in to the pressure to tell your parents. It sounds like that will create even more stress for you, and what you need is support.

Did the geneticist confirm the 20% higher risk of trisomy statistic? If so, you still have a very high chance of having a healthy baby. I would be just as worried, sad and upset as you in this situation, but chances are high things will end well. Try to keep that in mind.