DD was up from 230-5 and then got up for the day at 8. I'm really exhausted. H has a funeral to go to of a family friend so I let him sleep. This afternoon we're supposed to go to my in-laws for my bils birthday, right at DDs naptime. She is insisting we get there early and I give her a nap there. Ugh...
penguin129 , Hope your day gets better! Can you just tell your in laws that you'll go over after nap time?
Not really. My BIL and his family already have plans for later this afternoon. This is the only time they have available. I'll try to go over a bit early like she suggested, but I doubt I'll be able to get DD down. If I can get home by 2 or 230 I'll just push her nap back a bit, unless she is showing signs she needs it earlier. That is one of the good things about living so close to family.
Post by namastebiotches on Jul 20, 2016 10:02:23 GMT -5
DS finished one of four summer camps yesterday & swimming lessons last week so our schedule is slowly getting less chaotic. He's been taking the bus to kindercamp this week & when he gets home we leave for speech & his kindergarten handwriting camp that is in the same facility. I'm going to attempt to stay when he's done with speech to talk to the therapist but will go home when he goes in for camp. DH is going to leave early so that he can pick him up so I'm not straining myself too much. Hopefully I'm fine driving, we shall see.
I think I might take DD to the book store today. It's been a while since I've been there and she likes to play with the train table. Maybe a new book for me, indoor play time for her. I think that sounds like a win-win situation
Hey everyone, sorry I missed the last couple of randoms, we have two weeks of daily swim lessons and its really making things feel busy. But after only 3 lessons, DD1 is making huge progress, so im really glad we did it this way. We will enroll DD2 the same way next summer I think.
We decided to venture out for a bike ride and to the neighborhood park while we were already out and about. We ran into a couple of other kids at the park, so that was fun. I'm so happy DD2 decided to go ahead and try some peddling on her bike today! She was refusing to pedal and I was starting to get concerned.
I have a roast in the crockpot for dinner and a to do list a mile long during DD2s nap...but I'm feeling pretty wiped out from our schedule and lovely AF showing up yesterday, so I am really lacking energy to take on the rest of the day.
@auri, the bookstore sounds wonderful. I've gotten so out of habit of going to the actual bookstore because I either buy an ebook or order books online. They also closed my favorite brick and mortar bookstore and so I think I've been grumpy about going to the other one.
Random question for all of you, trying to decide where I stand or should stand on something. Do you make your husbands lunch for work and/or breakfast? Lately I feel like DH expects this is part of my job and I feel a little resentful over it. I've made his lunch plenty and I don't mind especially when I have to make DD1s for school, but I don't have to make hers ahead since it's summer and I feel like he can handle putting his own lunch together. Am I wrong? I know that I'm the "homemaker", but I already feel like I'm doing so much. Interested to hear everyone's thoughts.
Post by penguin129 on Jul 20, 2016 11:42:06 GMT -5
DD is asleep at home in her bed and I'm resting. H called his mom to tell her and she got upset at first, but said we did the right thing. She briefly tried to tell H DD is going to have to learn to sleep at their house when DD2 is born and they are watching her. We'll have no choice then. Tonight I want sleep so a nap at home it is.
DD is asleep at home in her bed and I'm resting. H called his mom to tell her and she got upset at first, but said we did the right thing. She briefly tried to tell H DD is going to have to learn to sleep at their house when DD2 is born and they are watching her. We'll have no choice then. Tonight I want sleep so a nap at home it is.
I think you made the right choice. Is your MIL talking about DD2 sleeping there just like when you're actually in the hospital having DD2? Or is she going to watching her some days once baby sister comes home? If shes just staying there during your hospital stay, I wouldn't at all stress over making sure she's ok napping at MILs. If shes going to be going there kind of regularlyrics, it might not be a terrible idea to have her nap there a couple of times before you need her to (though not really necessary, she'll adjust), but I certainly don't think I a day where her schedule was all messed up and a day where her pregnant momma could rest at home during her nap, is the best day to try.
Post by brachysira on Jul 20, 2016 12:44:24 GMT -5
We finally made it blueberry picking this morning...but we were late so we missed going with our friends. Kids really enjoyed it but it seemed like a lot of kids there were not having fun...probably not a good activity for kids who don't love berries, but that is not a problem for my two, who probably could consume a whole farm worth of blueberries in a few days.
@mommatotwo, lunch situation for DH is that he likes not taking his lunch--then he either goes out with co-workers or buys food from a deli near his work. I suspect he eats 5000 calories or so and that kind of works out because I feel like then he's okay with taco salad or something for dinner, whereas if he hasn't eaten a huge lunch he is really dissatisfied with a "light" dinner and might even make a late night trip to McDonalds. From time to time, I encourage him to let me prepare lunch for him because I know we'd save a lot of $, but then he ends up not eating it and going out (sometimes there are even work lunches), and that makes me mad, and I just end up not doing it after a while. I don't cook breakfast for anyone on weekdays. The kids get "snack" breakfast, which is dry cereal, dried fruit, and maybe nuts with a cup of milk, and DH usually is gone before the kids eat, so he can either grab a breakfast burrito or something here or buy breakfast at work. If DH and the kids are up early, he might make them eggs and toast or something, and I know he kind of thinks I should be feeding them hot breakfasts, but I just can't keep up with the dishes and the kids are nutritionally fine and like what I give them, and it's not really up to DH, since he's not even here. Anyway, I think your DH can probably handle it...but maybe if you just send dinner leftovers, etc. it won't be a huge amount of work if you do it.
@mommatotwo I do not make my H's lunch. He's an adult and is quite capable of making his own lunch. I pack up leftovers so he can take them but that's all I'm doing.
We all eat breakfast together in the morning most mornings so we get breakfast for all the kids together. I don't do stuff just for him.
Hi everyone, we spent a couple hours at the beach this am with a friend. Now DD is down for her nap. I threw in a load of laundry, watered the garden, and am about to do some crocheting on the porch. I should really do the dishes too, but that'll have to wait. I do not make DHs lunch for him. I also do not do his laundry. He has been alone all day with DD before and understands that caring for a toddler is basically a full time job in itself. I may be very, very lucky, but he knows that just because I don't get paid for what I do all day doesn't mean it's not hard work.
Thanks gals. Glad to know I'm not the only one that feels it's not up to me to make sure his lunch is prepared. To be fair, he used to put together our work lunches a lot when we were both working full time, but things have changed.
Post by penguin129 on Jul 20, 2016 14:08:37 GMT -5
H doesn't eat breakfast and I don't make his lunch. I do try and put out leftovers for him because he will forget if I don't. I do his wash the majority of the time, but it doesn't bother me. He tells me not to do it, but he puts it off and forgets.
We had a good morning! We toured a new parent's day out/preschool for my DS1 and I was a big fan. DS1 gets pretty nervous about new experiences but even he was excited about some of the different things they had there. I am too warm to play outside so it is playroom time for now.
I'm late to the lunch convo but I don't make lunch for my husband. He usually eats out with coworkers when he is in town and usually the leftovers are for the boys and I at lunch.
I'm interested in your laundry situation, sanibel21. Does he have a separate hamper and just does it on the weekend? I have been tempted to cut my husband out of laundry service but we mix our clothes and it'd be annoying to sort it out. I draw the line at putting them away for him though.
oreobitsy, we do have our own laundry baskets. Same ones we've had since before we got married. He does it either at night (he's kind of a night owl) or on the weekend. I wash DDs and mine together. And I usually do towels. Which is actually a third laundry basket. I guess we kind of have a big bedroom to have that many baskets. Haha. And sometimes I'm doing my laundry on the weekend because I just don't get to it all during the week. I wonder if the washer/dryer wasn't two floors down if maybe I'd do more. But probably not.
@mommatotwo, I don't pack my husbands lunch...he usually grabs lunch every day with his coworkers. He will occasionally talk about bringing lunch...but then he changes his mind. I do all the laundry though...but it's mostly because I like to do all the laundry at once instead of having it done all week.
DD is asleep at home in her bed and I'm resting. H called his mom to tell her and she got upset at first, but said we did the right thing. She briefly tried to tell H DD is going to have to learn to sleep at their house when DD2 is born and they are watching her. We'll have no choice then. Tonight I want sleep so a nap at home it is.
I think you made the right choice. Is your MIL talking about DD2 sleeping there just like when you're actually in the hospital having DD2? Or is she going to watching her some days once baby sister comes home? If shes just staying there during your hospital stay, I wouldn't at all stress over making sure she's ok napping at MILs. If shes going to be going there kind of regularlyrics, it might not be a terrible idea to have her nap there a couple of times before you need her to (though not really necessary, she'll adjust), but I certainly don't think I a day where her schedule was all messed up and a day where her pregnant momma could rest at home during her nap, is the best day to try.
I agree, that probably was the best choice. My motto is never, ever wake a sleeping baby (or toddler!) Honestly though, I know my daughter would never take a nap somewhere when she knows there's a bunch of people around. But, I will admit, that this is something my inlaws would try to pull on me and I don't really like them (especially the part about your mil being upset), so it might have rubbed me wrong on your behalf.
I def do my H's laundry. I don't put his laundry away but I wash and fold it and put it in a basket on his side of the bed. He'd never do it on his own and (UO) I like doing laundry.
Post by meeggaannw on Jul 20, 2016 15:25:07 GMT -5
Hi. I'm hoping to try to be a part of this board so I hope you don't mind if I jump in.
Mh works nights so he eats before he leaves and takes a lunch. It can be frustrating that he expects me to make both every night but I do it because his working allows me to stay home. He does his own laundry. I will switch it for him occasionally and fold it during DDs nap but I don't put it away.
H has his own hamper. I tend to consolidate at times. H is a night owl too so he'll start his wash around 11 and then forget about it.
Don't his clothes smell kind of moldy then? If I forget a load in the wash overnight, I have to wash it over just because I hate the hint of that smell.
I kind of like doing laundry too, but not folding. DS2 thinks it is fun to flap clothes around and toddle around waving shirts like a flag. If he is awake when I fold, it's a mess.
Post by brachysira on Jul 20, 2016 16:50:18 GMT -5
I do all the laundry and put it away because it's easy and I like it compared to other chores...so then DH can mow, sort mail, do repairs, and deal with all the other stuff I dislike. Kids go through phases where they are helpful or at least capable of hanging out while I do laundry, but DS is in a "take it out once it's in" phase so I mostly try to do it when DH is home to watch them.
See, we definitely can't afford for DH to eat lunch out every day so that's part of the lunch packing thing. He usually eats out once a week with coworkers, and maybe once a week on his own. The other 3 days he needs to bring something. It's not hard at all to throw a sandwich together or plate up some leftovers after dinner, I suppose. He didn't say "it's your job", or anything like that, but I think he might view it as part of the luxury of having a stay at home wife based on a couple of comments he's made.
He does make dinner probably 75% of the time and cleans up afterward 50% of the time, so I really can't complain too much.
As far as laundry, I pretty much do it all (washing, folding, putting away) for all of us. My 8 year old will sometimes help fold as much as she can, and she puts away her own clothes, I just leave the basket of clean laundry in her room to put away.
Post by younglove316 on Jul 21, 2016 6:42:50 GMT -5
Lunches I don't have to worry about for the most part. He will either stop and get something or come home and find something. I do think he expects me to make lunches on occasion but I don't really do much for them so he's on his own if he comes home.
As for laundry we probably split it pretty evenly. I do our stuff together, the girls together, and then towels. He hates baby clothes so I handle theirs and then we either put it away together or if I'm on top of my game, I'll get it done. But that's rare I feel like that I'm completely on top and get it all washed and away at the same time.
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