Post by beenandgone on Aug 5, 2016 14:10:20 GMT -5
kleigh926 and summer, I don't have the depression issues, but I feel like I'm in the same place with H's drinking problem. He acknowledges that he has a problem, but hasn't really seemed like he wanted to make a change.
Last weekend we had an all out blowout, with lots of years from both of us (the kids were at my mom's house, thank God), but this week has been better. He also went back to work this week, so maybe that's helping here?
I know drinking is very different from depression, but how you guys are describing how you cope, and your H's reactions, is very similar here.
Nothing else other than, I feel in the same place, too.
Actually beenandgone addiction can behave a lot like BPD, so I agree with your assessment. I was actually going to ask kleigh if her H drinks a lot but was afraid that would sound rude. Bipolar is a tough one; Doctors aren't really great at diagnosing it so there are a lot of people running around under- or misdiagnosed.
Actually beenandgone addiction can behave a lot like BPD, so I agree with your assessment. I was actually going to ask kleigh if her H drinks a lot but was afraid that would sound rude. Bipolar is a tough one; Doctors aren't really great at diagnosing it so there are a lot of people running around under- or misdiagnosed.
He doesn't really drink at all except for a beer at special occasions. He's only ever been tipsy a couple times and it's pretty obvious when he is- he gets kind of giddy and happy, which is the opposite of how he usually is, so I don't think he has a hidden addiction.
Post by crimsonandclover on Aug 9, 2016 14:56:11 GMT -5
kleigh926, I have no advice, but it sounds really hard. If it makes you feel a *little* better, remember that those families whose dads look so involved and happy and cheerful aren't necessarily like that behind closed doors. I mean, DH is pretty involved and pretty happy in public (as am I), but we still have our struggles at home. Nothing as drastic as what you're desribing, but we fight more than I want and can get into some seriously foul moods when the kids aren't sleeping well or are being difficult in general. So while I definitely think something needs to change with your situation, try not to compare with other families - you don't know what things are really like, nor will it really help. There will always be another family who looks happier.
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