WDYT- vacation situation (long)
Aug 7, 2016 12:46:49 GMT -5
Post by kleigh926 on Aug 7, 2016 12:46:49 GMT -5
Background story: my family and I have been going to our church camp every summer for the past 20 years. I grew up going there, it's one of my favorite places in the world. DH did not go there except for a few youth retreats when he was a teenager, and during one of them he got violently sick. After we got married I tried to get him to go with me and he did for a couple days but really disliked it. There's a lot of social interaction which he is not fond of and he said he was always bored. Then he started getting involved in the games and activities and had fun for several years in a row. Also of note: the facilities have had problems with bed bugs in the past, but there have not been any reports of them for a few years and they've taken steps to reduce the chances of infestations, like getting mattresses that aren't suitable for them to live in.
Current issue: the past two years, DD has gotten sick at the end of the week with a stomach virus. There are also usually at least a couple other people who have stomach bugs while we're there. That combined with DH being sick there in the past and the history of bed bugs has him saying he's never going back. He thinks either they have issues with food preparation or that they don't clean the rooms well enough. I attribute the sickness to a large number of people coming in frequent contact with each other, which could happen anywhere. We were pretty sure we were going to take next year off even before she got sick again just because it was very difficult keeping up with our kids both trying to run in opposite directions all the time, and neither one of us really got to enjoy much since it was so much work. However, I can't fathom never going back. I've never personally had any issues there in 20 years and I love it.
So... knowing both of our experiences and points of view, do you think I'm being unreasonable, he's being unreasonable, or that we just have had different experiences there and we both have valid opinions? And, what do you think about me going for the week with the kids by myself in the future if he still refuses to go? I know it's not optimal for a vacation, but he can be very irrational and avoids social situations regularly. I don't feel that I should have to sacrifice something I love and give up things I want to do just because he chooses to live that way.
Current issue: the past two years, DD has gotten sick at the end of the week with a stomach virus. There are also usually at least a couple other people who have stomach bugs while we're there. That combined with DH being sick there in the past and the history of bed bugs has him saying he's never going back. He thinks either they have issues with food preparation or that they don't clean the rooms well enough. I attribute the sickness to a large number of people coming in frequent contact with each other, which could happen anywhere. We were pretty sure we were going to take next year off even before she got sick again just because it was very difficult keeping up with our kids both trying to run in opposite directions all the time, and neither one of us really got to enjoy much since it was so much work. However, I can't fathom never going back. I've never personally had any issues there in 20 years and I love it.
So... knowing both of our experiences and points of view, do you think I'm being unreasonable, he's being unreasonable, or that we just have had different experiences there and we both have valid opinions? And, what do you think about me going for the week with the kids by myself in the future if he still refuses to go? I know it's not optimal for a vacation, but he can be very irrational and avoids social situations regularly. I don't feel that I should have to sacrifice something I love and give up things I want to do just because he chooses to live that way.