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[inthewoods]

Hope you got some sleep last night DoesItComeInPink

I'm getting my hair cut today and I think I'm donating it for a mom cut. The regrowth is bumming me out and I never wear it down anymore.

[cnf2013]

Super rough night of sleep in our house last night. I'm tired today. Still managed to get out for a two mile stroller run though. I have another teaching interview today. Someone hire meeeeeee.

[gdaisy09]

Last night was rough. Hoping for a better day today.


So there is something that's bothering me that I'm hoping you ladies can help me figure out what to do. SIL stops by our house a lot of mornings to play with Iz on her way to work, this is fine and great. However she always takes selfies with Iz and posts them on her facebook account. Now H and I take and post pictures all the time, but we keep our privacy settings pretty tight and we're in control of that. SIL has relatively loose controls on her account and I don't know most of her friends. for whatever reason it makes me uncomfortable seeing DD's picture on her page and not knowing a lot of the people liking and commenting on the photos, would I be overreacting to ask her not to post photos of Iz?

[expatmama11]

Good luck cnf2013

gdaisy09 It probably wouldn't bother me much but with that said, if it makes you feel uncomfortable you should say something.

[expatmama11]

Cam did his normal 630-530 sleep last night so it's looking like he is adjusted now. Hopefully I can get there soon too! Heading to the dentist this morning and then to run errands. Nothing exciting.

[geners]

gdaisy09, if it makes you uncomfortable (I'd feel the same) I'd say something. I was very uncomfortable with how much my MIL and MH's aunt were sharing everything Charlie-related that I posted to their pages (this was before I learned that only our mutual friends would see it on their pages, oh well) so I spoke up and asked them not to.

[gdaisy09]

Aug 9, 2016 8:30:54 GMT -5 geners said:

gdaisy09, if it makes you uncomfortable (I'd feel the same) I'd say something. I was very uncomfortable with how much my MIL and MH's aunt were sharing everything Charlie-related that I posted to their pages (this was before I learned that only our mutual friends would see it on their pages, oh well) so I spoke up and asked them not to.

Yea, my main concern is that it's on her page, so subject to her lax security controls.

[geners]

The contractors guys are back at our house today, supposedly (finally) installing the three-seasons room. For those keeping score at home, they were supposed to do it the week of 7/18, then got pushed to the 25th, then it was going to be August 5th (they did come out that day, worked for 2 hours, ran into problems, then left), then it was supposed to be yesterday but they didn't show and we didn't find out they weren't coming until MH called, now it's today and they are there, so we will see. This is a reputable, highly rated company, too! So annoyed.

I very nicely asked MIL a while back to dial back the volume of gifts for C that she was showing up with every Monday (it was at least 2-3 books, 1-2 outfits and a toy or two every.single.week for months... I'm not even exaggerating, and a lot of it was dirty junk from garage sales that she hadn't even wiped down, wrong size, no tags etc.). She listened for a while, then yesterday showed up with a bunch of stuff and told MH that she didn't work hard her whole life raising her only son only to be told she's not allowed to buy anything for her only grandson. Um, ok lady.

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gdaisy09, that is one of the reasons I'm thankful that people can't post pictures of our kids on facebook because they are foster kids. My SIL is the SAME way. She is a nanny to a couple kids and she posts several pictures of them a day on her own facebook. I'm not even an old and I just don't get the point of just selfies where you're not doing anything. H and I are like you-much more private in general on social media. Really tight security settings and don't post that we're on vacation or out of the house.

I really don't like the idea of all these pictures of our kids just being on the internet. We've talked about how to approach social media a few times if we do get to adopt our kids. One of our friends did something cool. They created a private group called "Baby X Updates" and they only post photos in there. And they asked all the participants to do the same. So we still get to see all the stuff, but it's a much smaller group of people. If she wants to share the picture with others that are not in the group, I agree with everyone else-ask her to either change her security settings if she'd like to keep posting or do it via text to particular friends or ask you before she posts.

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Also, you guys, my almost three year old will eventually be potty trained right? We've decided we're not going to buy any more gigantic diapers.

[gdaisy09]

Aug 9, 2016 10:47:23 GMT -5 @helgahufflepuff said:

gdaisy09 , that is one of the reasons I'm thankful that people can't post pictures of our kids on facebook because they are foster kids. My SIL is the SAME way. She is a nanny to a couple kids and she posts several pictures of them a day on her own facebook. I'm not even an old and I just don't get the point of just selfies where you're not doing anything. H and I are like you-much more private in general on social media. Really tight security settings and don't post that we're on vacation or out of the house.

I really don't like the idea of all these pictures of our kids just being on the internet. We've talked about how to approach social media a few times if we do get to adopt our kids. One of our friends did something cool. They created a private group called "Baby X Updates" and they only post photos in there. And they asked all the participants to do the same. So we still get to see all the stuff, but it's a much smaller group of people. If she wants to share the picture with others that are not in the group, I agree with everyone else-ask her to either change her security settings if she'd like to keep posting or do it via text to particular friends or ask you before she posts.

Thanks, I'm glad I'm not the only one that feels this way! yes, I totally don't get the point of selfies it it's not for some purpose; check out my new hair cut, glasses...city i'm visiting, look how big this zucchini is next to my face! SIL takes all these mopey, frowny selfies, which fine, you do you and all, but I feel like she should at least be asking permission to post photos of my kid. I certainly don't post pictures of her children. It shouldn't surprise her that this makes me uncomfortable, I asked her to take down photos she posted of me at my baby shower because we never went facebook public with the pregnancy (and I for sure didn't want her to make that announcement for us...but she got upset with me when I asked her to remove those photos). 


ETA: there's a bit of a double standard here because I don't have a problem with my mom and sister posting photos, but I know most their friends and I know they have the same security controls on their profiles that I do. 

[byjove]

That moment when your high school AP history teacher messages you on FB to let you know your BEC (not only from high school, we randomly ended up at the same college) just moved to your town...

ETA and she has a PhD too, and married an MD... thanks??

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gdaisy09 would it be easier if your H talked to her? I'd have no problem telling my own siblings to take down pictures or tell them to stop posting nonstop selfies with our kid but would not dare speak so candidly with my SILs. My H would though.

[HelgaHuffle]

We had the weirdest night of sleep last night. From 10ish until 1am R woke up every 30 minutes. I might have shed a few tears. At the 1am wake up he was super hard to get back to sleep. He finally went back to sleep and slept for 5 hours. That's the longest in months. Why do we have to have such crappy sleep and good sleep on the same night?!

[HelgaHuffle]

R has a fever.

[geners]

Aug 9, 2016 20:12:19 GMT -5 HelgaHuffle said:

R has a fever.

[HelgaHuffle]

Aug 10, 2016 4:45:42 GMT -5 geners said:

Aug 9, 2016 20:12:19 GMT -5 HelgaHuffle said:

R has a fever.

It was 101.7 just now. I guess I'll call the dr when they open.

[13liza]

HelgaHuffle hope he feels better soon!!

[byjove]

Aug 10, 2016 5:32:11 GMT -5 HelgaHuffle said:

Aug 10, 2016 4:45:42 GMT -5 geners said:

It was 101.7 just now. I guess I'll call the dr when they open.

Poor babe