Post by loves2shop4shoes on Aug 13, 2016 18:59:52 GMT -5
Today, DH and I announced our pregnancy.
As I had mentioned, I spoke with my estranged brother on Wednesday and told him the news. His response was to try to convince me to use my baby and my pregnancy as an excuse to mend fences with my mother (from whom I'm also estranged). The conversation was heavy and didn't go particularly well.
So, today DH and I decided to tell the rest of our families and announce on FB. I wasn't even planning to do this much, but I called my mother to tell her. (She always, always answers her phone, for reference.) She didn't answer her house or cell phone and I left messages on both. I then texted her asking her to call me. No response. I then notice that she has (very recently) unfriended me on Facebook. So my (reasonable) deduction was that my brother told her, she got pissed that I wasn't willing to blindly mend fences, and began to act like a petulant child. (Which is her usual behavior)
So, A few hours go by and I decide to send her an email and let her know before I make it public. No response.
Ok. So then a few hours later, I send out a Paperless Post postcard announcement to my extended family. There are read receipts on it, and I can see that my mom is the first of my family members to open it. Again, I still don't hear from her.
Then my brother begins sending a barrage of abusive text messages to me saying that he had not told my mother, that she wasn't answering because she had a migraine, and that email was a shitty way to tell her. He further stated that I'm a heartless person, should be ashamed of myself, and just when he thinks he couldn't get any more disgusted by my behavior, I always find a way to sink to a new low.
He continued and continued to be abusive, guilt me, and try to destroy my happiness. I told him that my mother was an adult and if she was upset, should reach out to me directly. I mentioned how inappropriate it was for him to insert himself in the middle like this.
It was just very sad and very hurtful.
Nevertheless, I'm very lucky for the people I have in my life that are happy for me and are supportive. It's just a really shitty situation. And every time I think I should reinvolve these people in my life, something like this happens and reminds me of why I don't.
Don't know what I'm looking for here... Just wanted to share.
As I had mentioned, I spoke with my estranged brother on Wednesday and told him the news. His response was to try to convince me to use my baby and my pregnancy as an excuse to mend fences with my mother (from whom I'm also estranged). The conversation was heavy and didn't go particularly well.
So, today DH and I decided to tell the rest of our families and announce on FB. I wasn't even planning to do this much, but I called my mother to tell her. (She always, always answers her phone, for reference.) She didn't answer her house or cell phone and I left messages on both. I then texted her asking her to call me. No response. I then notice that she has (very recently) unfriended me on Facebook. So my (reasonable) deduction was that my brother told her, she got pissed that I wasn't willing to blindly mend fences, and began to act like a petulant child. (Which is her usual behavior)
So, A few hours go by and I decide to send her an email and let her know before I make it public. No response.
Ok. So then a few hours later, I send out a Paperless Post postcard announcement to my extended family. There are read receipts on it, and I can see that my mom is the first of my family members to open it. Again, I still don't hear from her.
Then my brother begins sending a barrage of abusive text messages to me saying that he had not told my mother, that she wasn't answering because she had a migraine, and that email was a shitty way to tell her. He further stated that I'm a heartless person, should be ashamed of myself, and just when he thinks he couldn't get any more disgusted by my behavior, I always find a way to sink to a new low.
He continued and continued to be abusive, guilt me, and try to destroy my happiness. I told him that my mother was an adult and if she was upset, should reach out to me directly. I mentioned how inappropriate it was for him to insert himself in the middle like this.
It was just very sad and very hurtful.
Nevertheless, I'm very lucky for the people I have in my life that are happy for me and are supportive. It's just a really shitty situation. And every time I think I should reinvolve these people in my life, something like this happens and reminds me of why I don't.
Don't know what I'm looking for here... Just wanted to share.
