Post by sweetieheart32 on Aug 17, 2016 7:45:01 GMT -5
Two people on my team called out yesterday and I had to take over their work for the day. I hope they show up today. Lately, like some others on here, I have been reevaluating my work/family balance. There have been a lot of unpleasant changes at my job over the past year. DH is fine with me not working and makes enough so we could do fine on a modified budget. I'm on the verge of a possible jump up in my career within the year, though. I'm afraid if I leave, I will lose that possibility maybe forever. Well, that's adulting, right?
Leaving for vacation tomorrow. Have done nothing -- except laundry -- to prepare. Dh's office doesn't have power today, so I was hoping he would need to take pto. Instead is wfh. Had he taken pto, I would have had so much time to get stuff ready. Now I really have extra work. Fun!
sweetieheart32 Sorry for the extra work and uncertainty about your career future. It's so hard to make an in the moment decision that will impact you years down the road.
Post by dancerspose on Aug 17, 2016 10:04:38 GMT -5
sweetieheart32 so sorry about the work challenges. It's been a pretty rough 1-2 years at my work as well, and if I could leave I would. Unfortunately, I am the primary income for our house so my options are limited... I hope you can make a decision that brings you peace.
pivot I fully support leaving work early for a mani!
I'm just tired...I've been having trouble falling asleep this week, not sure why.
This is the first week since we found out we were pregnant that I'm not having an ultrasound (and won't have one next week either). I know this is more the norm, but it feels weird...
Post by loves2shop4shoes on Aug 17, 2016 10:16:09 GMT -5
sweetieheart32, I can totally relate. I'm at an interesting point in my career too. I've dipped my toes into the "next step" on the totem pole, and if I stayed and got another year or two's experience, I could easily make 3-4 times what I make now.
I just don't know that that's what I want. Sure, extra money is great. But I'm very fortunate in that I'm not starving as it is. That being said, I make enough money that cutting down to one salary would mean lots of sacrifices.
But ultimately, money is just money and things are just things. I don't think it will seriously impact my quality of life if I decide to drive a Ford instead of an Audi. KWIM? I want to have more time for my DH, my cats, my LO, my sanity. I don't live to work...
But I'm ranting. Today is just another day filled with work. (The irony isn't lost on me here...) I go for counseling (mostly to deal with the stress of my family while pregnant), so I'll do that this evening.
And DH was very sweet and hired housekeepers so I don't feel pressured to clean while I'm exhausted. They start tomorrow.
Post by sweetieheart32 on Aug 17, 2016 12:16:08 GMT -5
Well, I have been pretty lucky up to this point and haven't gotten too many annoying/baffling pregnancy comments, but I just got "you're moving awfully slow!" from a coworker. I had forgotten how often people say that to you. What's the appropriate response? "Uh.. yeah" seems to be my standard reply. What are your favorite comments?
Ugh. Career decisions are so hard sweetieheart32. Sometimes I just want to make a blanket fort to hide in so I can avoid the fact that I'm an adult lol. Also, your coworker is lame for making that kinda comment. I'm always crappy at spur of the moment comebacks, but I would have loved to say "yeah, it's cuz I'm growing a human" with a deadpan stare.
Hooray for housekeepers loves2shop4shoes!! It does SO much for my mental happiness when our cleaners come. It's seriously the best. I clean in between their visits, but the deep clean they do (that I don't have time/energy for cuz pregnancy/toddler) is amazing.
Post by shawnabm1320 on Aug 17, 2016 13:23:25 GMT -5
Enjoying a lazy day here. MH normally works from home, but he went into the office today, 2 hours away. So he won't be back until late. We went to my great grandma's house to visit and eat lunch with her. Poor lady, the heat is really getting to her. DS just woke up from a nap, and now I'm shopping for some things to fill a basket for a friend whose baby shower is in 3 weeks.
Oh and I found out we have a small flea infestation. Yay! (Sarcasm) So now I'll be vacuuming the whole house every night and washing everything. Hooray!
Post by sweetieheart32 on Aug 17, 2016 13:42:14 GMT -5
shawnabm1320 boo to fleas! loves2shop4shoes I have been seriously considering hiring professional cleaners before in laws come for Thanksgiving week, but wasn't sure if it would cost too much.
Now that the word is spreading at work, I get a ton of comments like "Wow, didn't you just have a baby?" Or "How old is B again?" Geez people, my "baby" is 15 months old. Maybe time just really flies and everyone doesn't realize that he's that old. I do feel judged sometimes like I'm doing something wrong by having my kids close in age but that's what we wanted!
Post by CoffeeOnIce on Aug 17, 2016 14:53:03 GMT -5
Well I had some bleeding this morning and went in to midwifes to get checked out. Baby's heart rate was great according to Doppler, but she put me on "pelvic rest" for two weeks. She told me I could do an ultrasound at the hospital tomorrow to check on the cause, which I'm going to. Maybe a stupid question but by 13 weeks, or at least since nobody should be poking my cervix right now, it'll likely be abdominal ultrasound right? I've never had an ultrasound at this time before. Thanks for any explanations in advance!
I assume it'll be abdominal CoffeeOnIce. I'd say most NT scans (~11.5-13.5w) are abdominal cuz babies are big enough at that point. Sorry for the bleeding anxiety!
I feel like I've spent all day catching up on what hasn't been done in the last 3 days. Between the toddler's antics and the regukar headaches, all I want to do is hide from the world.
coffeeonice, I'm sorry about the spotting and pelvic rest. I hope the ultrasound shows nothing serious and that it goes away very soon!
Post by zcookiemonster on Aug 17, 2016 16:00:43 GMT -5
I hear ya all on making work changes and evaluating things. This fall DH actually just took a little pay cut to re-arrange things with work and he will be home so much more. My job is already very flexible so between the two of us we will be able to be with the kids much more with a little help from some babysitters. Plus life should be much less stressful, I'm really excited about the switch.
ls2012 hope you were able to catch up with everything!
Today was supposed to be a catch up day for me but I started throwing up this morning again and have been out for the count since. I can't wait for this to end.
Post by oldbaylover1024 on Aug 17, 2016 16:39:24 GMT -5
I've been outta work for two days with a cold and have 70+ missed emails. I am not thrilled to go back tomorrow. One, because I still feel shitty. Two, because inbox.
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Post by oldbaylover1024 on Aug 17, 2016 16:46:59 GMT -5
CoffeeOnIce - huge hugs. I assume they'd do an abdominal u/s. Keep us posted!
As for job stuff and struggles, those are so hard. MH has jumped ship last year and switched to a more stable job (he's in sales). It was a tough move, but ended up being a great one. Sometimes happiness comes before the money. And most times money follows the happiness!
My boss will probably sell the firm in about 10 years, so I'll move on then. I have a ton of experience and he'd give me a 3-year warning so I'd have time to plan. But it still scares me. I have ridiculous flexibility and make great money (I'm the breadwinner) so a job change is slightly terrifying.
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Well I had some bleeding this morning and went in to midwifes to get checked out. Baby's heart rate was great according to Doppler, but she put me on "pelvic rest" for two weeks. She told me I could do an ultrasound at the hospital tomorrow to check on the cause, which I'm going to. Maybe a stupid question but by 13 weeks, or at least since nobody should be poking my cervix right now, it'll likely be abdominal ultrasound right? I've never had an ultrasound at this time before. Thanks for any explanations in advance!
CoffeeOnIce when they checked me after spotting it was abdominal. The tech just went very low to check my cervix.
I should be packing (we move sept 1) but I just want to sit on the couch and take a nap. I worked last night and slept like poop today.
I have a dinner with my old BFF from HS whose in Chi for a work trip and one of our other HS BFFs who lives in Chi, too. It should be nice to catch up with them, visiting BFF is pregnant- like 24 weeks, so it'll be cool to see her and her bump. We haven't told anyone yet about the pregnancy (aside from our parents) and we want to wait until the u/s next week to feel comfortable that everything is actually okay and nothing happened between weeks 8-14, but I feel so awkward NOT telling them, like I'm lying by omission. Oh well.
coffeeonice I'm so sorry, bleeding during pregnancy is always stressful/scary. At my 7 week ultrasound they were able to do an abdominal ultrasound to see baby, and with my daughter they did at 10, so hopefully you're able to avoid that pesky vaginal ultrasound. Prayers for you and baby that everything will be just fine!
For everyone else having a rough day, due to work issues or otherwise- *hugs*!
My DD & DS are actually currently napping at the same time, which is an absolute miracle, so I think I'm going to save this pile of laundry to fold until after bedtime, and curl up for a nap myself! (Fingers crossed I'm not jinxing myself by writing this... PLEASE SLEEP CHILDren, MOMMY IS TIRED!)
7 weeks!! Wow my tech must just be mean then lol, let's all have abdominal exams that early!
MIL decided to announce on Facebook that she's expecting another grand baby in February and now everyone is wondering which of her children it is. So DH gets to call her now and state that we haven't put it on Facebook for a reason and it better not be linked to our pages. Especially since he hasn't told work and he's friends with his boss.
In happier news, we had DS open house for preschool last night. He didn't want to go into the room at first but then he opened up and was enjoying it.
Post by sweetieheart32 on Aug 17, 2016 20:23:39 GMT -5
puma1315 I'm so sorry your MIL made such a lame move. I can't even comprehend why people think it's okay to announce someone else's big news without permission.
sweetieheart32 and @jane1426 ya I'm not too happy and would think it's common sense that if DH and I haven't put it on Facebook we probably don't want it on there. DH called and spoke to her and she said she wasn't going to answer people on whose baby it is until she could ask us if it was ok. So I guess she's not going to answer them but has left the post up.
My aunt posted on Facebook that my cousin and his wife were expecting when she was 8 weeks. She didn't link to their accounts, but she did use their names so a bunch of people posted on their walls congratulating them, long before they had planned to tell their bosses. People are nuts!
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