Gender Reveal?

[cookiesandwine]

What are J12's thoughts?  I'm really torn. *If* we did something, it would be just our parents and brothers, no big party or anything.  The only reasons I'm FOR it are to involve Sadie somehow and make it exciting for her, and I already feel guilty because this kid is getting classic second child treatment (like I've taken two bump pics and I'm 18w tomorrow).  We found out at the ultrasound for Sadie and texted our familly (called grandparents who don't text). Nothing special and I'm totally ok with that!  Also, I want to know ASAP. I couldn't leave the a/s with it written in an envelope or something; I don't have the willpower for that.  Does it make it super lame for the others (like our parents) if we know already and aren't being surprised too?  Are there really awesome ideas that would sway me in to doing a surprise reveal of some sort? Why am I over thinking this? Let's have some thinking juice and talk about it.......

[cbear]

I had one with Vera and not with Elise it was just family and some close friends and it was actually pretty fun! Since I'm 99.2% sure Vera is my last it was kind of nice to do something special. Plus CAKE!

[cookiesandwine]

Feb 10, 2015 16:08:01 GMT -5 cbear said:

I had one with Vera and not with Elise it was just family and some close friends and it was actually pretty fun! Since I'm 99.2% sure Vera is my last it was kind of nice to do something special. Plus CAKE!

Ooooh good point, I'm putting CAKE in my mental + column. 

[aylafsu1881]

I think I will do one this time. This is going to be our last and I want LO to be involved. I think we will do cake or cupcakes with family. I think it is fine for you to know before you tell anyone. Maybe do something like @lewispm did. Get a cake and have Sadie announce the gender.

[bliz1712]

When I had my u/s for Hanna I made 2 signs. Then I took a picture of V holding the correct sign and texted it to the important people: my brother, his sister, my parents, and for MIL/FIL I went and told them in person. Actually it was quite funny because the first u/s she was a stinker and the tech wouldn't give us a definite answer and wanted me to come back a week later. So I texted a picture of V holding both signs and they all thought it was twins, haha  FOr Eliza I only had my Mom in the u/s so she knew already and then I texted H and told the other people.  No picture and nothing special and she is my last.

I think it's ok if you know and are still revealing to them. Plus don't forget about pictures for us j12'ers!!

[cookiesandwine]

Cupcakes would be easy enough for me to do myself. Why can't I remember what @lewispm did?! Is she even around on here now?

And I would probably still tell here even if we couldn't tell my parents right away LOL I'm a terrible secret keeper!!!!

[xanthepants]

ok I kept my envelope closed for a day and it was HARD. But I loved what we did and you could modify to have a few important people there. We went to dinner and gave the card from the ultrasound to the waiter. He had the bartender prep drinks for us in either pink or blue(mine na) and bring them out as the reveal. They hid it under a napkin and revealed. Super easy and fun. The whole restaurant full of servers got into it and came over at the reveal as well. (day after Vday so it was dead!). Basically you just buy a round of drinks for those there- not too pricey and fun.
Wait though. Sadie doesn't drink. Nevermind me.

[aylafsu1881]

Feb 10, 2015 16:20:57 GMT -5 cookiesandwine said:

Cupcakes would be easy enough for me to do myself. Why can't I remember what @lewispm did?! Is she even around on here now?

And I would probably still tell here even if we couldn't tell my parents right away LOL I'm a terrible secret keeper!!!!

I want to say they went out to dinner with family. She had Kellen make the announcement that it was a boy with a cake.

[cookiesandwine]

LOL at Sadie drinking. I'd be too sad to see all those delicious drinks and not have any!

I'm thinking maybe have Sadie help decorate a cake with pink or blue sprinkles and we can send out that picture. Then I don't have to clean my house!

[mrsplaydoh]

This is cute too using blocks for a pic to send out!
bottom pic...

[summergirl1211]

Could you do something simple and just get pink or blue balloons and put them in a box? Sadie could then open the lid when your families are there? I don't know, I'm awful at this kind of stuff.

[cookiesandwine]

I'm all for simple and not a ton work After more thinking, I remembered that FIL is a giant weirdo and most likely wouldn't leave home. (He missed Sadie's baptism and dinner because he was "tired") Sooo that would end up causing tension between H and I. I still want to do *something* with Sadie. Something fun for her that we could get a picture of at least.

[pinkluna]

I think the balloons in a box idea would be fun for Sadie. Or maybe a small pinata (the pull string kind) filled with confetti.

[junkytrunk]

So I have seen some where they do a photo shoot, and inside a water bottle, is water based paint. They wear all white and then spray the paint out to reveal the gender.

[pinkluna]

Or this:

[rollerrink]

I like the balloons in the box idea.
A friend of mine had her daughter wear a shirt that said "I love my little brother!", had her H hang out with her in her room for a bit, and then had her run out to greet the family in the living room.

[bantyrooster]

We did balloons and then sent a text to family with gage holding the "its a girl " balloons. Gage told us it was a "sister" the whole time so he wasn't amused and looked at us like "um duh I already know that. "

[mommymadness]

I didn't do any gender reveals but kind of wish I had. They always look so fun! So I think you should do something, even if it is small. Take pics too so we can see!

[heatherbee]

We called / texted to immediate family and then posted this picture online:



My friend is a photographer and was doing our 2 year pictures at the same time. I'm glad we did it though because it's a really nice way to always have a memory of when we found out.

[starfishy]

Here's my 2 cents. If you're going to do a big reveal to the whole family I would be annoyed that you already knew. I think if you're going to do it together, find out together. This is if you're doing a cake or silly string etc. Just a personal preference. Im sure others won't mind.
If you're putting Sadie into the reveal (picture or what have you) than of course you have to know, but then that's a whole different scenario.
So, if I were you I would decide if you want to use Sadie in the reveal or have her find out with everyone else.

[ThePinkSuperhero]

I agree that if its a thing, you gotta find it with everybody else.

[MissMusic]

I think gender reveals are awful. AW'ing, unnecessary, completely stupid, and ridiculous.
Tell me how you really feel, right?

Its your choice. Smaller is better, and no cake/balloons/professional photog/etc is even better. If you were keeping it small and limited to immediate family without invitations and such, I'd hate it less

FYI, your kid, your family, etc will be just as happy for you without a party. There's always ways to make it special without having a party.

[mrsrek10]

We did a gender reveal and we knew first. After our struggles to get pregnant we wanted to celebrate and both of our immediate families were super excited for us, esp our moms, So we had a family dinner with both sets of immediate family. We had a cake made and let our moms cut it to reveal the gender to everyone. It was fun bc our moms loved it. DH's mom almost knocked my mom down to see first because JA is her only grand while he is number 5 for my mom. Not that my mom wasn't excited but
she was more calm, lol

It was also fun that we knew and they didn't. We found out on a Tuesday and had the dinner on Saturday. All week they all tried to get us to slip and tell. It was fun messing with them. Like, totally on accident, I wore a pink sweater to the dinner so they thought I was hinting..nope, we were team blue.

I say go for it! Anything you do will be fun for all of you. I think at times like these, it is perfectly acceptable to be an AW ;-)

[laurski81]

I think however you want to do your reveal go for it. I love them personally (and this is coming from someone 2x team green) and wouldn't care if you had a party and already knew. Your baby your prerogative. I bet your family will just be excited to celebrate the new baby and have some fun with it!

[somethingcleverer]

I would do whatever you want. I think it's fun to have a little extra celebration of life! If it's just your family in sure they won't care what you do. I wish we had done a gender reveal for Aubrey because I felt like with it being my second pregnancy nobody cared as much and it didn't seem as special in general. (I know that's not true but it felt that way at times). Have fun with it!

[cookiesandwine]

Feb 11, 2015 8:52:11 GMT -5 somethingcleverer said:

I would do whatever you want. I think it's fun to have a little extra celebration of life! If it's just your family in sure they won't care what you do. I wish we had done a gender reveal for Aubrey because I felt like with it being my second pregnancy nobody cared as much and it didn't seem as special in general. (I know that's not true but it felt that way at times). Have fun with it!

That's how I'm feeling exactly. I feel so guilty about this, but it doesn't even seem as special to me, so I don't expect others to be shouting from the rooftops or anything. I don't have that instant connection that I felt when I was pregnant with Sadie. I keep waiting for the next step (first US, end of MS, feeling movement, finding out sex, etc.) thinking that it will 'click' then. 

After throwing out ideas with H last night, I think we're going to get some balloons and have Sadie help us decorate a cake with pink or blue sprinkles.  It'll be special for the three of us and we can share those photos with our parents as our way of telling them.