Post by thatgirlrachel on Sept 1, 2016 7:16:33 GMT -5
I had a training workshop all day yesterday so I was pretty MIA. We are expecting some bad weather here today and/or tomorrow from Hermione. I just hope it passes so we are able to keep our beach plans this weekend.
Today will be interesting. Nanny is here this a.m., then she has to leave at noon. MIL is coming at noon to help so I can work this afternoon. From what MH told me, she really only helps in terms of playing with C while he's awake, and giving him bottles (but MH has to be the one to tell her when he is hungry and warm up the bottle) which means I'll still need to keep my eye on him and the clock, change diapers and get him down for his naps. Plus will need to make time to chat with her and her friend since I haven't actually seen her in a really long time. Also MH normally makes their lunches for them and cleans up afterwards... Don't think I'll get much done this afternoon but it was nice of her to offer.
I have a follow up at my OBGYN this morning to check Paraguard placement. Fun stuff!
On the bright side - it's almost time for a four day weekend!!
I caught H flat out lying to me this morning, and I don't even know why he would lie about it?! I came out of our bedroom after getting myself ready for work and he was heating a bottle and LO was screaming because she was clearly hungry. I gently reminded him that she needed some solids before he gave her a bottle...and here's where the lying starts and I have no idea why?!
He says, she had solids. I look around, her high chair still has last night's dirty bib on the tray, there are no dirty food bowls, and all the baby spoons are in the drying rack. I ask what she ate, he says oatmeal and bananas. again I look around, there are just as many bananas sitting on the counter as there were last night. I get that solids are more work than a bottle, and H likes easy, but I now suspect that he's not been feeding her any solids while I'm at work, which explains her eating 15+ oz during the 6-7 hours I'm gone. I just don't understand why he would do this?! I'm so mad, and he won't admit he lied to me. I pointed out all the evidence that I caught him red handed: the high chair was untouched, there were no dirty dishes, there were the same number of bananas as last night, there was the same amount of BM in the fridge as there was last night, LO's clothes were 100% clean. and I just keep thinking "Why is this even something he felt the need to lie to me about??"
Sorry @gdasey09, I've been in a similar situation, not regarding the baby but being lied to over something that didn't call for a lie at all, and I have no advice. I don't lie, or I guess I should say I don't lie to my husband which makes me wonder why anyone would lie to me. And really for the most part I just don't lie. I'm an over sharer for better or for worse. I can't ever wrap my head around not being truthful (unless someone wants me to tell them if they look fat, which I always say "you look fabulous" because I don't truly believe they are looking for an actual assessment on their appearance, just a reassurance that they don't look foolish.
But IF I had to guess: he probably just doesn't want to be bothered with the time it takes to feed the solid and the clean up. If that's is the case, he needs a correction and preferably from the pediatrician first hand.
But IF I had to guess: he probably just doesn't want to be bothered with the time it takes to feed the solid and the clean up. If that's is the case, he needs a correction and preferably from the pediatrician first hand.
This is my guess. on weekends he always comments about how messy it is. to which I usually just say "kids are messy". I agree, I don't understand why this was even something he felt he had to lie about. I don't lie, so I don't understand why he felt the need to.
@gdaisy I'm sorry he lied to you, that is a really weird thing to lie about especially when it's an obvious thing. I don't have any advice either.
As for us, DD2 woke up at 2am with a 103.1 fever and after 6 hours still has a fever so we are going to the doctor this am to make sure it's not an ear infection. H has his V consultation today so he will only be working a half day.
gdaisy09 that's crazy - I can't imagine lying to my spouse's face like that. What did he say when you confronted him?! I'd be so pissed, both about her not getting what she needs and the totally unnecessary lying.
baylorbear hope DD is okay and you get answers at the ped!
gdaisy09 that's crazy - I can't imagine lying to my spouse's face like that. What did he say when you confronted him?! I'd be so pissed, both about her not getting what she needs and the totally unnecessary lying.
baylorbear hope DD is okay and you get answers at the ped!
he just kept trying to explain his way out of it. I said "but there are the same number of bananas on the counter as yesterday" he said "I used the part of one that was in the fridge from yesterday", I told him that I used the rest of that banana last night. I said where are the dirty dishes? he said in the dishwasher (nope) I said "what spoon did you use, all the baby ones are clean" he said he wanted to see how she did with one of the big spoons...so how is she so clean and where is the dirty bib? then I just kept saying "I have no idea why you would even lie about this, but I don't believe what you're telling me"
gdaisy09, That's frustrating. I'm sorry. I agree that the lying is probably from him not wanting to deal with the mess. But still really frustrating.
baylorbear,I hope your DD's fever breaks soon. Poor thing.
I walked into the office today with the whole office smelling like fried goodness. A coworker was in the kitchen frying ham and making ham and cheese breakfast sandwiches for everyone. Great start to the day!
gdaisy09 that is so weird thar he would lie about it. I know solids suck but you still have to feed the kid.
apparently he just opts to give her a bottle instead, so he isn't starving her. BUT I've been working like a mad woman to keep up with her during the week when she's pounding 15+oz while I'm at work for 6 hours, and then on the weekend when we EBF and do solids and I try to avoid my pump I've been getting really engorged. at least it explains that.
Post by HelgaHuffle on Sept 1, 2016 9:42:30 GMT -5
Morning! I'm waiting on a friend's daughter to be dropped off. She's going to stay here this afternoon while her mom is at work. Two 3 year olds should be interesting. F is really excited about it right now. I don't know how he'll feel once he realizes he has to share his toys. Wish me luck!
Well I'm pretty sure what is bothering Margs is food related, ugh. For the 3rd night in a row she was up screaming for a couple of hours in the middle of the night. That's getting old fast let me tell ya. But today I can hear and feel the reflux, so I am feeling confident about the diagnosis. Maybe it is still from getting glutened a week ago?
Also, I am a little afraid for DH to come home later. With the washing machine and some crankiness at work and me getting sick, he feels like the world is out to get us and isn't handling stress very well. (I mean come on universe, I think it's time for us to catch a break!) Well we got a little rain this morning and I was accelerating from a stop to merge into traffic this morning and I skidded and the brakes kicked in. Everything was fine- I didn't think twice about it really, but now there is a really funky rattle. I wish I could fix it without him knowing, but he needs to look at it. Ugh
mimimama , that sounds amazing gdaisy09 , WTF?? HelgaHuffle , hopefully it goes well- sometimes 2 toddlers are easier than 1...
2 toddlers is definitely easier than 1! They keep each other entertained. While I was on leave, I would ask my sister to drop off her youngest, who is the same age as DD. I found it was easier for me that DD had company in my niece and I could focus on LO.
Different story though if both toddlers were mine 24/7.... Ha!
Post by HelgaHuffle on Sept 1, 2016 13:05:40 GMT -5
byjovemimimama It has been pretty easy! F really hasn't been around kids his age a lot so he's having a blast. I keep having to remind him to share but that was expected. They are so cute playing together.
GAH!! So I'm in the nursery with C, I nursed him & am letting him fall asleep on me because he was so overtired he was beside himself. MIL tried putting him down for a nap earlier and it didn't take. So I'm sitting here with my top off and my boob out. I hear this creaking noise, look up at the shelf and she's downstairs, using the handset, to turn the monitor to look at me (and my boob)!!! Like if you wanted to know what we were doing in here, just text and ask. I feel so exposed. It was creepy. I hated that.
I have a daycare gripe. Feel free to skip because it is probably going to be annoying.
Today M's teacher called me at work to ask if I was ok if they moved him to the toddler room for the day. Her words were "Have him try out the toddler room today." I feel some kind of way about this. He is months away from his actual move and I know they aren't having him "visit" as a transition. They just didn't have their ratios right for the day and wanted to shift around. Since he is the 2nd oldest in the infant room, they wanted to move him.
So basically they are telling me that they want to move my 10 month old, who only army crawls, into a room with kids as old as 2 years because they don't have their teacher situation where it should be? No thanks. I know he will go there sooner rather than later, and will need to transition, but I am not comfortable with him just bouncing back and forth between rooms whenever they need for the next two months. He needs consistency and things are totally different in the toddler room. So, if they want to transition him for real, we can have an open discussion about it. But until then, I would really prefer my kid stay in the infant room with activities better suited for his age/skill level. I let his teacher know that and I am sure she told the Asst. Director and Director. They ended up moving the two youngest toddlers back into the infant room instead. When I went for lunch the Asst. Director was not nearly as friendly as she normally is.
I don't think it was out of line for me to say I preferred him not to move today. I did tell her that even though I didn't want him to, if they had to they could. It wasn't like I gave a firm no. I am still holding out hope that the daycare I have M on the waiting list for has an opening in the next couple of months. It is really unlikely but it would be so much better in so many ways.
I took DD to a playgroup that was hosted at someone's home. I always feel awkward when I meet new people. It turned ok. DD had fun. I'll probably go again because I know I won't make friends sitting in my apartment.
RoLoMa, I don't think you were out of line at all. They should do a better job with keeping track of how many kids they have each day so they don't surpass the legal limit. I would be nervous as well if my baby was in a room full of walking toddlers. Do they even know toddlers?? They're like mini drunk adults.
GAH!! So I'm in the nursery with C, I nursed him & am letting him fall asleep on me because he was so overtired he was beside himself. MIL tried putting him down for a nap earlier and it didn't take. So I'm sitting here with my top off and my boob out. I hear this creaking noise, look up at the shelf and she's downstairs, using the handset, to turn the monitor to look at me (and my boob)!!! Like if you wanted to know what we were doing in here, just text and ask. I feel so exposed. It was creepy. I hated that.
What the hell MIL?! I would feel very intruded on. So sorry!
Post by obscurereference on Sept 1, 2016 16:15:34 GMT -5
My kid is just motoring all over the place now. I forgot that mobility comes with bumps and bruises. Now the baby is a threat to the older kids as well. It's so funny. DS almost tripped head first over her today because she crawled up behind him.
Schools closed again tomorrow. Ugh. This turned into a five day weekend. But only for my oldest. She's begging and whimpering wanting to go to school. Hard to explain that it's the weather when she looks outside and it's not even raining...
Thanks thatgirlrachel, I know sometimes I overreact where MIL is concerned, but there was just something really upsetting about sitting there half undressed and watching a camera turn and point right at me. I'm sure she was just trying not to bother me by texting... but still, ICK.
Thanks thatgirlrachel, I know sometimes I overreact where MIL is concerned, but there was just something really upsetting about sitting there half undressed and watching a camera turn and point right at me. I'm sure she was just trying not to bother me by texting... but still, ICK.
So rude. I think I would have looked straight at the camera, then gone over and turned it off.
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