Sad and confused

[kammycow]

So today was a community review board meeting for 2 of my fd's. They have a baby brother in another FH. He turned 1 today. He has been in that home since he was 6 weeks old and that Foster mommy is/was planning to adopt him. She is the only mommy he knows. The board has decided that the siblings must be placed together, and she is not an option to care for my girls. The board, and bio mom, wants baby brother to move with me. Since baby has been in that home for so long, a court order to move him is required. They are moving forward to request this move. I am sad for the baby. I am sad for the foster mom. I'm withholding any feeling for bio mom as I don't know how I feel yet. (very long, disturbing Abuse of these kiddos, and bio mom not cooperating with DHS) anyway court is in two weeks, and I am wondering if I should be prepared for a baby? Or do you think he will be allowed to stay where he is/has been, most of his life? I'm very confused as I thought all this was to be in the best interest of the child. Also, the oldest sibling had an ICPC in place and will be leaving to AZ soon, so all the siblings still won't be together anyway! So frustrating!

[wesleycrusher]

Are you willing to take the baby? If you are I would imagine they'd move him because they do like to keep siblings together if possible. If you don't take him will they move your fds to new placement with him to someone willing to take all 3? Was your goal to adopt the girls?

[CurlySu717]

kammycow, no insight, but lots of hugs.

Would a compromise be for you and the other foster mother to get all the kids together regularly??

[kammycow]

Yes I will take the baby and love him threw his loss of his other FM. Adoption is not an option at this time. The plan is the oldest to move to AZ with bio dad. The middle girl and baby are still planned to return to mom. IMO, none of this plan is in the best interest of these children. I guess this is the part that sucks.... But it is not about me. Thanks for the input. I appreciate it!