My day sucked start to finish. I blame the littles for the first half, but my own crappy attitude ruined the last half. I'm hoping tomorrow is better. Does anyone here have a home management binder they maintain? We made one at my moms group today and I'm trying to decide what to add. I'm thinking my wine orders and preferences need their own tab....
dizzycooks sorry your day sucked. Wine definitely deserves it's own tab! AFM L peed on me while i was getting her into her bath. Like sooooo much pee! FFTC I threw clothes in the wash and changed, but I did not shower. I am just too tired to care. Also our boy dog got skunked again. Anyone want a dog?
Hi! I'm sorry I haven't been around much this week. The weather has seriously sucked and DH came home early from his work trip because of the hurricane and now our home schedule got screwed. So yeah.. major anxiety attacks and angry outbursts have ensued. DH and I got into a massive fight and tonight we were able to sit down and really connect with each other on what we were both feeling. It felt really good and I'm feeling positive about our relationship.
Today DD had preschool and I spend time looking up marriage counselors. We went to DS's storytime and our to lunch. We went to my mom's in the afternoon and then I went to the gym to cancel my membership bc lord knows im not going to the gym any time soon. :/
Lollipop I use socks as little mittens half the time? Maybe that will work for a bit. NellieOleson that sounds like a terrible appointment. I'm glad your pedi was supportive. I didn't realize you were worried your dd had any issues dither than being small? Fwiw I have a friend with two tiny children and they started growth hormones around 5yo.. Idk the details, but they seem fine and are super adorable active kids.
We stayed home today. Tomorrow it's supposed to snow, but be slightly warmer, so I think I'm going to use the car seat stroller so I can at least get a blanket around her better, and cover her face. She won't like it, but at least she won't freeze. After H gets home tomorrow, we're running out for groceries and winter gear. Possibly a new car seat. I'm tired of fighting with the handle on her bucket seat.
Post by crimsonandclover on Oct 7, 2016 2:23:55 GMT -5
NellieOleson, it was actually my DD1 who was the projectile vomiting reflux child, too. DD2 has been normal except for her over the top, inconsolable temper tantrums. Oh, and she had an awful phase from 4-9 months of age when she woke up every 30ish minutes at night. Every night. I'm sure if I were in your shoes I would worry, too, even though like you said there's nothing you can do right now. I had a boy in my class at school who was pretty small (about 5'2") and he had a bit of a rough time of it - not that people made fun of him, just that he wasn't one of the "popular" kids. I think with girls it's not as big of a deal when they're small. I was one of the smallest in my grade until puberty and liked it - I always got to be at the top of the pyramid in gym class. Obviously if there's a health problem that needs to be addressed, but I wouldn't be too worried about social implications of a girl being small. You are definitely not failing as a mom, and I'm glad your pedi reassured you!
icequeen, I'm so glad you could talk things out with your DH! Sometimes fights bring that stuff to a head and you can finally get it resolved. I'm glad that's what seems to have happened
Post by crimsonandclover on Oct 7, 2016 2:32:26 GMT -5
Sometimes I wonder if the US purposely makes it difficult for people to vote. I got my absentee ballot last week (as a non-resident I can still vote in federal elections), and I finally printed it off yesterday along with the instructions.
I kid you not, people, one of the things was a template for me to fold my own envelope. ... ... ... Fold my own envelope for international mail? Right. Thankfully that wasn't required. Then I filled out the ballot and had to complete a certification form where I swear that I am the one who completed the ballot, and the wording was so confusing that I wasn't sure if I was filling it out right. May I remind you that I have a doctorate in political science and translate legal documents regularly? I am used to complicated language and forms in two languages, and I understand political systems and voting, and yet I had difficulty filling out the form properly to vote. There is something wrong when that is the case.
Then I was ready to send it off (had to fold the ballot as instructed and then fold the certification form *around* the ballot) and I realized that no address was given. Even on the fold-your-own-envelope template there was no address. In the instructions? No address. WTF? So I wrote to the county clerk who sent me the ballot, double checked that I had filled out the certification form correctly, and asked her where to send it. Now, I have no hesitation doing something like that, but I'm sure there are people who do. Why is it even necessary? Why does it not say in the instructions: Please send the forms to XXX??
I'm so frustrated and angry at the US system of voting that probably ends up with tons of invalid ballots just because things aren't clear or explained properly. If someone wants to vote and is eligible to do so, it should be as easy as humanly possible.
Post by NellieOleson on Oct 7, 2016 9:06:44 GMT -5
crimsonandclover - I totally agree about voting! I fortunately live in one of the few states where it is very easy to vote -- it is vote by mail only here. There are no polling places open on Election Day. You simply get your ballot (and a preaddressed envelope!) in the mail about two weeks before the election, fill it in at your leisure, put a stamp on it and mail it in. If you don't have a stamp there are ballot drop boxes at places like libraries.
I love it because it is so easy and convenient, but I also like that I can take time to make a choice. I will look up various candidates and measures as I'm filling out the ballot if I'm not sure exactly which way to vote.
All the voter ID laws that are being enacted make my eyes roll so hard, and the fact people have to wait hours in line at polling places in some places makes my blood boil.
Post by NellieOleson on Oct 7, 2016 9:25:48 GMT -5
You know your day is off to a good start when one of the first things that comes out of her your mouth is, "Hmmmm... what did Mommy just sit in?"
Anyway. Thank you so much for the kind words of support everyone. You have all made me feel better about this than anyone IRL, and it's a reminder of why I love this place!
dizzycooks - I wasn't really worried until this last visit. I was definitely slightly concerned before, but was thinking it was a fluke and that she'd have a big growth spurt or something. I thought at least her percentile would go up, and she'd show some progress, so when it when down over 10 points again, it was a little disheartening. If she goes down much more she won't even be on the growth chart anymore.
crimsonandclover - I haven't started thinking much about social implications yet. I'm just worried about her health at this point. I'm 5'10" and my H is 6', so it would be very unusual and unlikely to have such a short child, YKWIM?
Dd2 appears to be taking after me height-wise, and is always in the 99+%, so I do worry what it would be like for them to be on opposite ends of the tallness spectrum.
M had to go to school in the car seat today. It was the only way I could think of to keep the blanket on her. She stayed nice and warm, except for her cheeks. S wore hat and mitts. I couldn't find my gloves. I wish I could find a way for S to come home without me needing to drag M out in the cold.
Post by crimsonandclover on Oct 7, 2016 14:20:20 GMT -5
Lollipop, I feel your pain. Before DH switched jobs, I always had to get DDs 1+2 from preschool and take them a lot of days, too, and I always had to drag DD3 with me. I drove, but the preschool has no parking lot, so it's a few minutes walk to get there from whereever you can find a spot. Now I don't have to do it every day, but still about twice a week to pick them up. She'll start daycare in the same building as the older DDs have preschool this January, and it'll be nice that it'll be easier then.
Lollipop, I feel your pain. Before DH switched jobs, I always had to get DDs 1+2 from preschool and take them a lot of days, too, and I always had to drag DD3 with me. I drove, but the preschool has no parking lot, so it's a few minutes walk to get there from whereever you can find a spot. Now I don't have to do it every day, but still about twice a week to pick them up. She'll start daycare in the same building as the older DDs have preschool this January, and it'll be nice that it'll be easier then.
It's wasn't so bad last year when he was in preschool and she was tiny. We took the bus, and had to walk from the bus stop. It was easier to keep her bundled up though, since she was so little.
Once I can drive it'll be hard to find parking in the afternoon. He starts at lunch time, so there aren't many other parents doing drop off then, but he gets out at the same time as the big kids, so the road gets a little clogged. I'm considering taking the bus until then, but I don't know if it's worth it when you factor in how long we'd be waiting for the bus.
I'm slightly buzzed and want to chat but no one is playing today.
Hellooo?? Anybody there??
I just did a huge Target shopping with both girls in tow. After dealing with that headache I wish I could drink with you! Sadly, it's only 2 in the afternoon here. As soon as my H gets home I am cracking a bottle. Maybe as soon as he pulls in the driveway. Ha.
I'm slightly buzzed and want to chat but no one is playing today.
Hellooo?? Anybody there??
I just did a huge Target shopping with both girls in tow. After dealing with that headache I wish I could drink with you! Sadly, it's only 2 in the afternoon here. As soon as my H gets home I am cracking a bottle. Maybe as soon as he pulls in the driveway. Ha.
I think I'm going to sweet talk H into stopping at the liquor store on the way home from Walmart. I haven't had wine in awhile, and I just really need to relax. That won't be until after the kids' bedtime though.
crimsonandclover , you're right,the fights do bring us closer in a way. I'm happy for you and your new work project. I'm having merlot right now but you're probably sleeping :/ dizzycooks , the mom binder sounds neat. How about adding a vacations, "me time", easy meals, or date night tabs? 14joa31 , I adore the pic of you and YH. Y'all are too sweet. Happy Anniversary! pinktartan9, I've just started using a blanket for DS. He'll be 10 months in a few days. silverspoon , your DS is such a character. He gives me the "class clown" vibe and I dont know why lol. So much yes to the drool, we go through 2-3 bibs per day. tinydancer , how exciting.. a new car and a new house! Toyotas are great cars. NellieOleson , so many hugs, girl. I know you must be stressing and I would be too. I hope everything looks good in a few months and you can put your mind more at ease. I'll be praying for y'all. Lollipop , omg snow already?! Uggghhhhh. kcrkcs , geeezuz what is it with these skunks? Poor doggies.
DD is having such bad meltdowns lately. She threw a fit while leaving preschool, because she didn't want to go to gram's, and bc i made her wait in the lobby while i did gymnastics class with DS. It's been a rough few days for her, not sure why. Maybe she senses DH and I are fighting. Fucking awesome.
Today I went to my first MOPS group meeting. It was wonderful. Is anyone involved in that? It's a mothers of preschoolers group that is Christian based and basically gets together as a community to talk, discuss, bond with other moms in the form of group activities either with or without kids, attend seminars, book clubs, have meals together, etc. I might actually make some friends IRL guys, this is big news! Lol. Then DS had his first baby gymnastics class. I really dont like the teacher and her attitude. The owner who invited me to this free class told me the first month is free and to just come this week and this girl today gave me such a hard time about payments and what card I was using and how the payment would be processed and the fact that DD had a hard time staying in the lobby. I'm going to complain to the owner next week bc she is leading DD's class. DH came home a little early and took DD grocery shopping with him and they had fun while I put DS down for a nap. My mom came over in the evening and DH made steak. My fave!
icequeen im doing mops! I'm having. A hard time with meeting new people. I do not like it! I had such a sour attitude this week. I felt rushed and I really just struggled to enjoy. It was all me, I'm sure they're nice people, but I just barely gaf about getting to know people lately. In terrible
crimsonandclover we switched internet providers and so I've had no wifi this week:( add in trying to be social irl (see above...) and I haven't been around much. Are you still oot? How's the trip going?
Post by crimsonandclover on Oct 8, 2016 7:50:42 GMT -5
dizzycooks, I was just gone for the weekend, and it was awesome. I met a lot of really good professional contacts, may be working on a co-authored book soon with the seminar instructor, and got some good tips for my work in general. So a win-win-win. Also, I am the same way with meeting new people right now. I just can't expend the effort. I'm sure some women are absolutely lovely and would make nice friends, but I just can't. Maybe in a few years? How sad is that...
icequeen, don't be too quick to blame yourself for your DDs tantrums. She's at that age, and my DDs have gone through tantrum-y phases for no apparent reason sometimes. Besides, I'm of the opinion that as long as things don't get too extreme (no physical altercations, no insulting or belittling each other), it's good for kids to see parents disagree. How can we expect them to know how to behave when they fight with someone if we don't model it for them? I do think, though, that if they witness a fight they should also either witness the make-up or be told about it later (You saw Daddy and I argue last night, but once you were in bed we said we were sorry and agreed on what we're going to do about the problem.). Don't be too hard on yourself!
dizzycooks, I was just gone for the weekend, and it was awesome. I met a lot of really good professional contacts, may be working on a co-authored book soon with the seminar instructor, and got some good tips for my work in general. So a win-win-win. Also, I am the same way with meeting new people right now. I just can't expend the effort. I'm sure some women are absolutely lovely and would make nice friends, but I just can't. Maybe in a few years? How sad is that...
icequeen, don't be too quick to blame yourself for your DDs tantrums. She's at that age, and my DDs have gone through tantrum-y phases for no apparent reason sometimes. Besides, I'm of the opinion that as long as things don't get too extreme (no physical altercations, no insulting or belittling each other), it's good for kids to see parents disagree. How can we expect them to know how to behave when they fight with someone if we don't model it for them? I do think, though, that if they witness a fight they should also either witness the make-up or be told about it later (You saw Daddy and I argue last night, but once you were in bed we said we were sorry and agreed on what we're going to do about the problem.). Don't be too hard on yourself!
That's a really good point. I never thought of it that way! Thanks
It's snowing again. I get the feeling it's not going away. Le sigh. The kids are thrilled. Add me to the list of people that have a hard time making friends irl. I blame the fact that talking to people makes me panicky.
crimsonandclover and @mrslillipopb I'm glad I'm not alone if not being interested in fostering friendships atm. I honestly have all I can do to deal with Dh some some days. Maintaining that relationship is more important and my kids take a lot. Idk how people do it. I wouldn't change things right now, but i do not know how others have vibrant social lives.
Hi! Slightly buzzed watching HTGAWM alone. This is the life.
In other news, I made some adorable sugar cookies today. My BIL is deploying in a few weeks and we're going to a crab feast going away party tomorrow for him.
I also finally met a friend in our new town! We bonded over wishing we could day booze at library story time, and she invited us to her Halloween party in a few weeks. I feel like I found my people.
Today was pretty fun but man oh man am I wiped out. DS woke up at 5:30 to start us off. Not a fan. We had music in the morning and DS had a huge meltdown at the end of the class and DD was throwing a tantrum as well. Humiliating. We went to pick up some sprinkles and chocolate sauce for DD's ice cream social and then went to play at the park. We had lunch at my mom's and then took naps. My mom stayed with DS while DD and I went to get her hair cut and my roots done. Then ice cream time. My mom helped me with baths since DH is working all day and night. It was a fun day but I really need to sleep in tomorrow. Wishful thinking.
Lollipop boo to snow!! It was chilly AF here today but thankfully still not cold enough for snow. I am not ready.
I have a question for you actually! I keep forgetting to ask. What does it mean when they say the teeth need to be floated in reference to a horse? I obsessively watch Heartland and they mentioned it a lot
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