The one that got away (from cd)

[teraiin]

Stole this from the cloth diaper section because it sounded potentially fun:

Did you ever have an old friend or significant other that you feel like was the one that got away? Or maybe you've ever wondered what your life would be like if you guys had taken that next step?

Do you think that there's anyone out there who considers you as the one that got away?

[babycaps]

I am happy to say that husband wise, I am definitely with the right one and glad I let go (or was let go) of others!!
There was ONE guy who maybe would have come somewhat close to being the man my DH is, but he had SERIOUS commitment issues and even after dating for about a year (long distance for most of it), AND me driving down to his law school (8hrs away) to see him....he introduced me to his friends as "his friend". Bitch please....we were more than friends but that was the end of it on my side....he continued to call me often and try to get back together.

I think HE may thing I am the one who got away, and his mom TOLD me I am the one who got away when I ran into her at MY HOSPITAL of all places, when his brother's wife was having a baby!!

[westiemom]

I know I'm with the right guy but I do occasionally wonder what life would be like with my ex. I even dream of him occasionally. He was my first true love. He lives a very nomadic life as a musician and I know I couldn't make that work in the long run (which is why we broke up) but I do miss the excitement of being with him.

I often wonder if he views me as the one that got away because I broke it off but who knows! I hope at least someone sees me that way! 😂

[aaemommy]

I don't have a one that got away. But I'm pretty sure I'm a one that got away from at least 1 person. Possibly a few others. Apparently I'm a heart breaker! 😂💔

[fishbulb]

Oh wow. Well....

The one that got away: we were never in the right place at the right time. By the time we had individually gotten ourselves into good places I had met MH. I still wonder though, and in my lowest moments with MH I sometimes fantasize about what life with this other guy would have been like. I suspect the feeling might be mutual.

We're still friends and MH has met him several times. The other guy always acts kind of awkward around MH (and recently, DS) but MH doesn't seem to notice. Even though I've done nothing wrong I feel a little guilty about this situation.

[teraiin]

I have one and I'm arrogant enough to think I'm his as well.

I'm sure I ended up with the right guy but I do wonder sometimes what it would be like...

He was sweet and kind and friendly. We both wanted to be social studies teachers. We went to a small enough school that we had pretty much all our classes together. Freshman tear he actually had a crush on a friend who was not interested. (At that point I wasn't interested in him either 😂)

Sophomore year he started walking me home from night classes, he'd bring me coffee to our morning classes. It was sweet but he was super... Slow moving? He never actually asked me out.

That summer I met H. And that was it. When I came back to school for junior year he realized I was dating and pretty much said that he hadn't wanted to start dating only for it to turn long distance immediately. (Pretty much what H and I ended up doing lol)

Anyway there were some drama-filled moments where I wanted to smack both their heads together 😜

But sometimes I wonder if he had asked me out...

He's married and he and his wife have twins from Ivf. We still chat from time to time.

[Deleted]

Definitely don't have a one that got away. My two most recent exes are in prison where they belong. DNW to be anywhere near them.

[k3am]

Of the guys I've "dated"..

One we like to joke that I'm still technically dating him since we never broke up. After months of seeing/texting/talking daily, he dropped off the face of the planet one day and I didn't notice for a few weeks. (This was back in the days when texts were charged per text..) No one has really heard or seen of him since.

One was my high school friends with benefits. We still see each other, DH knows him, and my mom loves him. He hasn't gotten his life together. At 28, he went back to college and joined a fraternity. At 34, he graduated college, but he doesn't use his degree... He works in a hockey shop and lives in a house with four of his brothers pretty much drinking consistently

And thank God I got away from my ex before DH. He was the only person I ever seriously dated. To this day, I don't know why. We never liked each other and fought constantly. After we broke up, he would call and go to voicemail several years. I still occasionally get a drunk dial (that goes to VM with no message) from him, despite almost 10 years passing. I know he's married and has a couple of kids. And I'm vain enough to say that I'm prettier than she is. And since I've never met her, I can't say for sure, but I'm almost certain that my personality and sense of humor are better. And my sense of humility. Yep, I've definitely got a strong one of those.

[tincupchalice]

I have two exes. One is gay and the other just transitioned sooo nope.

[mrsw062610]

There is one that I would consider the one that got away:

I was madly in love with him for years and he dragged me along for a long time. It didn't matter that he was using me, I could not see past that for the longest time. For me, I think it was probably more of the chase that enticed more than anything else. Wanted what I knew I couldn't have. When I finally decided I would get over him I was away for a summer doing mission work and he would call me everyday to talk to me and began telling me he loved me. He sent me packages and counted down the days til I came back, etc. Get back to town after 2 months and we immediately hang out. He leaves and I say ok well let's hang out tomorrow and he responds with "Oh, I think I'm busy, so probably not." I sobbed in my bathroom the rest of the day.

I actually cheated (not sex) on DH with him (while DH and I were dating) and we ended our friendship bc I just never trusted myself around him. We have not talked since 2007. He tried to add me on FB last year and the friend request is still sitting there...untouched.

I always wonder what life would be like had he gotten his shit together and we actually dated. Would we have worked out? Realized we actually aren't compatible?

I try not to fall down that rabbit hole because even though it's been almost 10 years there was always something about him that grabbed me...

[snoris]

Oct 7, 2016 11:04:44 GMT -5 tincupchalice said:

I have two exes. One is gay and the other just transitioned sooo nope.

ohhh I have an ex who transitioned too! And one who is gay. Butt she's a girl. So. Of course.

[birkmmm]

I have on ex that I think I was the one that got away for him for a long time ... he is now married though and seems very happy. I am very happy for him because when I broke up with him he took it really hard and went into stalker/ crazy man mode.
My other ex I wondered a lot what my life would be with him but I'm very thankful that I am not. He played a lot of mind games with me and was very manipulative. It was a very toxic relationship. Sometimes I get frustrated that I even think of him because truth is I deserved so much better but he had like a hold over me . Idk how to really explain it.

I know without a doubt however that dh is right for me. He's a pretty amazing person, I often wonder how I got him 😜

[bexincanada]

Not sure if it's one who got away per say, I could be hers. I broke up with one of my exes after we were together two years and I knew she wouldn't take the next step with me... she agreed the relationship was great but was bi and said she didn't know if she could handle not having kids "naturally". Long story short, she's now married (to a man) and pregnant via several IVF tries.

Is it awful that I was thinking karma is awesome when I heard?

It all worked out for the best now that I've snagged DW and we've got our little munchkin who was conceived out of love.