I think we are skipping daycare today. R doesn't have a fever so I'm sure he could go, but his little cough is so pathetic and I see no reason to add more germs into the mix
Post by littlesthobo on Oct 25, 2016 7:49:45 GMT -5
I would like to TP my laundry room. The walls are closing in. It's our main storage space because we don't have a garage and our basement is pretty much a cellar. There's an old entertainment unit I've been trying to unload taking up half the space, clothes hanging everywhere, a baby tub in the sink, tools, boxes of Halloween decor, camping gear (how did the tent not get folded up properly?), cleaning supplies....
My goal for the day is to fill a box with crap from that room and take it to the Salvation Army. And fold up that damn tent. It will be a start, at least.
Post by littlesthobo on Oct 25, 2016 7:51:05 GMT -5
Also, was hoping to try story time at the library, but with the way DS1 has been behaving lately, I think we're better off hitting up the huge playground in the next town over.
Post by cabbagecabbage on Oct 25, 2016 8:03:14 GMT -5
Today we are back to no screen time until dinner after last week's lawless free for all because dad was off all week. It will be a little bit ugly today I'm sure.
Tuesday is annoying because I have to get DD from preschool at 3 and then she has dance class in the same building at 4:15 which makes it annoying to stay at the playground or to go home and head right back. Such a dumb first world problem but it makes my afternoon drag.
cabbagecabbage we have a similar problem on Wednesdays. I get DS1 from DC at 3:30 and swim starts at 4:30. We usually wind up at the playground for a while, because DNW to unload and load both kids within a half hour of being home.
Post by sarcaztic10 on Oct 25, 2016 8:25:29 GMT -5
***TW infant death***
One of my FB friends shared a go fund me page for her friends baby who died of SIDS recently and it's got me freaked out. The baby was born in July just a week before S. SIDS scares the crap out of me and I know that right now is the peak time babies die. It makes me want to never sleep and just check that S is breathing constantly. As it is I already check to see if he is breathing several times before I go to sleep and I am sure tonight will be worse.
Sorry for the awful post but it's got me scared. I feel terrible for this woman and also scared for S.
sarcaztic10 that's awful, it's my biggest fear as well. Sam is still sleeping in our room in a pack n play, and every night before bed I check to make sure I can see his chest going up and down. I can't even begin to imagine the horror.
Post by rungirlrun on Oct 25, 2016 11:34:17 GMT -5
Big hugs sarcaztic10. SIDS is scary as hell. But I try to remind myself that it is very rare, and in most cases, the baby was found in unsafe sleeping conditions.
Post by littlesthobo on Oct 25, 2016 11:59:06 GMT -5
We didn't make it to the playground since DS1 decided it would be funny to slap me in the face repeatedly while I tried to put on his pants. So I said fuck it.
I don't know how to deal with him and I feel so abandoned and alone. My sister lives far away, my brother has been busy with his own life, my dad promised to help out but is never around, and my mom is currently not speaking to me and even if she was, she only does stuff so she can show off to her friends. She's constantly guilt tripping me with the fact that she has cancer and recently threw my aunt's divorce in my face. Even DH only took two days off when L was born, and he has a week of vacation days he needs to use by the end of November and he's made zero plans. Not even to take a random day just to hang out at home. I can't blame him, I don't want to be here either.
Sorry for the Debbie downer. I just want to run away.
That's so sad sarcaztic10 and especially hits home being the same age as our babies. Sometimes the recommendations make it feel like if you don't do everything exactly right, sids is a certainty. It is rare though and we can just make the best choices we can.
Sorry littlesthobo I commiserate as I'm feeling alone and wanting to run away today too. H left this morning and is gone until Thursday evening. The baby was screaming as soon as he left and just now went to sleep 3+ hours later. I'm basically ignoring and correcting the toddler because the baby is all consuming, which totally sucks for her and gives me all the guilt. She also see me upset a lot, which I hate and I'm sure isn't great for her. I have no family nearby and no one I'm close enough to to ask for help.
Sorry littlesthobo I commiserate as I'm feeling alone and wanting to run away today too. H left this morning and is gone until Thursday evening. The baby was screaming as soon as he left and just now went to sleep 3+ hours later. I'm basically ignoring and correcting the toddler because the baby is all consuming, which totally sucks for her and gives me all the guilt. She also see me upset a lot, which I hate and I'm sure isn't great for her. I have no family nearby and no one I'm close enough to to ask for help.
Omfg he's awake and screaming again.
Thanks. I'm sorry you're feeling this way too. I have all the guilt too, and feel like I'm ruining DS1 but can't get myself together. I hope your LO settles quickly!
I also want to run away today. I feel like I can only be a good parent to one kid at a time. If I do something fun with DD1, the baby gets overtired and screams her head off and takes forever to calm down. All the baby wants is to be held while napping and intermittantly nursing 80% of the day, so DD1 ends up watching hours of TV and hanging on me and whining that she's bored. She has a gross cold and I have to tell her 800 times a day to get away from the baby, which also means get away from me since the baby never lets me put her down, so she gets sad and cries. Ugh.
Post by rungirlrun on Oct 25, 2016 13:06:05 GMT -5
Big hugs everyone. Parenthood is hard and can suck so much esp w multiple kids. I feel like my days are spent yelling at my older one and trying to get the baby to go to sleep. All day every day. Overall I feel like I was a really good mom when it was just DS1. Now I feel like a crappy mom, and it's always tomorrow I'll get my act together. But tomorrow comes and I'm still tired, the toddler is still acting like a jerk, and the baby is still screaming so it's still chaos. Sigh.
Big hugs everyone. Parenthood is hard and can suck so much esp w multiple kids. I feel like my days are spent yelling at my older one and trying to get the baby to go to sleep. All day every day. Overall I feel like I was a really good mom when it was just DS1. Now I feel like a crappy mom, and it's always tomorrow I'll get my act together. But tomorrow comes and I'm still tired, the toddler is still acting like a jerk, and the baby is still screaming so it's still chaos. Sigh.
I agree with all of this, word for word. And also the added stress of a new job and the chaos that comes with pumping and getting everyone dressed and ready every day. I have to just keep reminding myself that it will get easier. It has to.
I decided this was the week to get my eating under control, make healthy choices, track my food... now I just want to eat my feelings. And get chick fil a for dinner rather than trying to cook something that has a high likelihood of being rejected by the toddler.
Post by cabbagecabbage on Oct 25, 2016 13:22:25 GMT -5
Moms of two or more, I so feel you. Today my DD stood in the doorway while I was to rocking M and she blew me a kiss and smiled and it gutted me. She knew she had to be quiet and she has no mom time with me and I felt terrible.
Post by littlesthobo on Oct 25, 2016 15:02:45 GMT -5
katelou I totally get that only being able to be a good parent to one kid thing. It's exactly how I feel. And I'm trying to be a good wife, sister, daughter, friend... I feel stretched so thin right now. Hugs.
I decided this was the week to get my eating under control, make healthy choices, track my food... now I just want to eat my feelings. And get chick fil a for dinner rather than trying to cook something that has a high likelihood of being rejected by the toddler.
Is this where I confess that I ate a healthy lunch and then gave my coworker a couple dollars to get me these when she went to the drugstore?
I hate the SIDS prevention recommendations. Of course SIDS is terrifying and I want to do everything possible to keep my baby safe, but the AAP makes it sound like your baby is doomed if you do anything wrong, ever, and it's your fault if your baby dies. It's a horrible parental guilt-inducer. Now they're recommending sharing a room for a year- I can't even. Either my husband would end up fired from his job from lack of sleep, or he'd be sleeping in a separate room while I roomshared with the baby and it'd be hugely detrimental to our marriage. And I'd end up depressed either way, because I spend basically my entire day holding the baby, I have to have some space.
I decided this was the week to get my eating under control, make healthy choices, track my food... now I just want to eat my feelings. And get chick fil a for dinner rather than trying to cook something that has a high likelihood of being rejected by the toddler.
Is this where I confess that I ate a healthy lunch and then gave my coworker a couple dollars to get me these when she went to the drugstore?
Eating all the feelings today. Not sorry.
I've had 4 pieces of "Halloween candy" so far. It's not going to make it to Halloween.
SIDS scare the crap out of me as well. Considering that we lost DS (not to SIDS), the terrible things like SIDS is always on my mind. I try to push it away because I try to look at things optimistically - lightning doesn't strike the same place twice right?
*****TW end*******
I agree that the AAP's recommendations on everything recently is a parent guilt inducer. Whether its sleeping arrangements or rear-facing child seats. Parents need to take their recommendations into consideration and then make an educated decision on what works best for their family. I will say that since HK hates, and I mean HATES, the car she will more than likely move to forward facing when possible (we did this with DS too around 10 months I believe and it worked wonders). Also HK is already in her own room in her crib - no blankets just the suit. I don't judge others for their choices - to teach their own. What works for me may not work for others and vis versa.
All this 2 kids talk has me wondering how things will go when we have another. We are still planning on trying for number 3 probably when HK is about a year.
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