I have to leave you again

[doves654]

Hi ladies,



We had our anatomy scan today and learned that our daughter has infantile polycystic kidney disease. It affects 1/20,000. As a result she doesn't have any amniotic fluid, and her lungs won't develop. She would likely live to birth, but the wheels would come off then and she'd need a kidney transplant once she made it to 10 kilos, and there are no cases where this has happened after developing the disease this early. We have to terminate our pregnancy.



We are completely heartbroken. For those that have followed our story, we have been trying for over 3 years with multiple rounds of IVF, FETs and a prior loss. To lose her at 21 weeks is unbearable.


Thank you for all of the love and support, especially since I know I haven't been around all the time. I am sure I'll be lurking here and there and wishing you all well.

[tiresiastheblond]

I'm so incredibly sorry to see this, doves654. You and your family are in my thoughts.

[lilycakes78]

I'm so so sorry. I also don't know what to say except that my heart hurts for you. You've been through so much and it's just not fair. I remember how supportive and sweet you were back when we were on 3T together a couple years ago. If I can do anything to support you please reach out to me. I will be thinking of you and your family and sending wishes of strength and peace during this difficult time.

[westiemom]

I'm so so sorry. You are in my prayers.

[Evelyn3]

My heart breaks to read this. I am so sorry for your loss. It's hard to find the words. I will have your family in my thoughts

[ttcbabyj]

I am really so sorry. Please take care of yourself.

[dancerspose]

Again I am so incredibly sorry doves654. I will be keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

[crazycatlady6]

I am so sorry, my heart is breaking. My prayers are with you and your family. ❤️

[rslh10]

There are no words that will help. Please know you are in my thoughts. I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter. Did you have a name picked out for her? ((Hugs))

[lastnamewithheld]

I am so sorry to see this news. thinking of you and your family

[remylove1011]

I'm so sorry for your loss and that you have to experience this after everything you've gone through. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

[peaseblossom55]

doves654, I am so very sorry you are in this situation after everything you have been through just to get here. It's a horrible decision to have to make and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. Sending you lots of love and hugs over the next few days to you and your daughter.

Please PM me anytime if you want to talk, vent or just cry. I also have some resources that you might find helpful as well.

[dukegirlsc]

I am so very sorry, you and your husband are in my thoughts and prayers.

[teachermomtobe]

My heart is breaking for you and your family. I will be keeping you in my thoughts

[aprilz81]

I'm so very sorry you are experiencing this.

**Trigger Warning for Late Term Loss**

We just lost our daughter yesterday at 32 weeks due to birth defects. While we lost her during labor and delivery I know what you are going through and I'm here if you need to talk.

[river]

I am so sorry for you and your husband, doves654. You've been through so much and this is awful. Please take care of yourself.

[bluefairy5]

I am so sorry, doves. I am thinking of your and your family. I wish I had more than words to express how sorry I am.

[christina]

I am so sorry Doves. I had a similar situation several years ago. Huge hugs. I will be praying for you, your daughter, and family.

[emmuffy]

I'm truly sorry for your loss. It's so unfair. Sending you a big, long, hug.

[mrspotatohead91]

I am so sorry to hear about this devastating news. My thoughts are with you.

[k1111k]

I am so very sorry and I am so sad for you (((((hug)))))

[doves654]

Thank you all so much for the love and support. We have named her Grace Pearl, the former in honor of all of the IF people that have helped us on this entire journey.

I hope we're back eventually, but we'll have to see.

[Ann612]

Her name is beautiful. I will be thinking of you and Grace. It's so terribly unfair, I am so sorry for the pain you are experiencing right now.

[emilie]

I am heartbroken for you. No one should have to go through anything like this. My thoughts are with you and your family.

[angm123]

I'm not sure how I missed this, but I am so incredibly sorry doves654. My heart is with you and your family.