I found myself getting frustrated at Adeline last night and it hurt so much. She just wants to be held all the time. And honestly I don't mind but I'm concerned I'm setting up a bad habit. I let her sleep on my chest and I feel like I shouldn't let her be doing that but we both do better when she's there.
We're going to try and have a productive day here. H is going to work on some things around the house (yay) and I'm going to address our announcements if I can get my act together and put together the address list.
We are supposed to have friends over tonight. These are the friends dealing with IF. ***trigger warning*** After 4 doubling Betas, she went in for her 6 week ultrasound last week and they learned it wasn't viable. So heartbreaking. They had just visited us in the hospital two days before and they were so excited. So I have feels about having them over and knowing how hard it will be for her, but it was her/his idea.
kleigh try not to worry about bad habits at this point; it's still so early and I feel like whatever you can do to survive at this point is fine. There'll be plenty of time to get into a routine as life settles down and the twins get just a bit older. Hugs
Sorry I've been MIA this week...between being sick and just busy, my TCF time has taken a hit. Today should be fairly low-key so hopefully I can keep up.
My FriYAY news...I went #2 this morning! My mid-section feels so much better. I'd been taking Colace but decided to cave and take a 'gentle laxative' last night. Worked like magic. Of course, we all know moms can't use the restroom without an audience--C had just started waking up so I had her in the bouncer seat in the doorway, and then DS woke up and wandered in bc he "wanna see what's going on in here!"
I took both kiddos to the park yesterday (C seemed to enjoy being out in the fresh air/sunshine) and then we went to the mall with my mom and sister. C has been sleeping a lot but is doing much better with the length of her nursing sessions and actually nursed on both sides last night, before sleeping for a 4-hour stretch, bless her.
Thanks guys! Yeah H and our families think I'm "spoiling" them... I tend to feel like "noooo, I'm helping them comfortably adjust and transition to a new environment". I'm sticking to my guns now.
danib I agree, they were just so warm and comfy and now it's all bright and empty etc - all I want is for them to transition comfortably.
LizInFL That sounds like quite a nice day!!! So you're feeling better ?! That's fantastic!!
LizInFL That sounds like quite a nice day!!! So you're feeling better ?! That's fantastic!!
Yes! The abx for the UTI kicked in, and that was huge. I'd never had one before but it was seriously the most miserable thing ever there for a day or so.
Otherwise I think I'm pretty ok--especially now that I can use the bathroom again. I went 10 days after having Bradley and it was terrible. I did not want a repeat.
ETA: And I'm also team can't-spoil-a-baby. I'm sure I held B a lot more than C, just b/c I'm busier this go-round, and I feel bad about that! So there's always guilt
Post by sophiegrace on Nov 18, 2016 8:47:59 GMT -5
I'm jumping on the can't spoil them at this point train kleigh! I firmly believe in the fourth trimester and if momma snuggles are what this baby needs, momma snuggles are what she's going to get! There is seriously no better feeling than her curling up contently the second she hits my chest after being upset.
Serious LOL to your audience situation LizInFL!! So glad you got some relief.
@badwolf321 I'll join you for that coffee!
Enjoy that gorgeous weather waitwhat. Fresh air does sound like a good idea.
Post by goldenlove3 on Nov 18, 2016 8:58:26 GMT -5
I still enjoy Fridays even though half the time I don't realize what day it is. Our weekends have been so busy lately though and this one won't be any different. I'm going to my parents later today and thinking about going to BRU to pick up a few things. Trying to decide if I should take C or let grandma watch him while I go out alone. I feel like I need to take him just to prove to myself that I can do things with him by myself.
Tonight we're having a meet the baby with my dad's side of the family. C met my moms side last weekend. It's seriously been like My Big Fat Greek Wedding. Poor kid!
Then tomorrow H is working on the bathroom bright and early so I decided to just stay the night at my parents house. And in the evening we're doing a birthday dinner for H at our house. Is it Sunday yet??
+eleventy to 4th trimester snuggles. Can't mess anything up right now! How was the BFing in the past day kleigh?
We went to a tree lighting last night and got some free hot chocolate. It was a fun night! Today we have a newborn photoshoot. E is 2 weeks old today so it's a little late but we couldn't arrange it any earlier.
hangry She's still doing fine at the breast but we had two choking episodes MOTN last night on formula feeds, one of which was on H's watch and he was upset about it too. Its just so damn scary! After it happens she just wants to doze and not finish the feeding, but I try to keep her up for a bit after. Of course this is a big reason I keep letting her sleep on my chest, so I can watch her after it happens.
goldenlove3 I am so freaking impressed at how much you're doing with C, especially spending the night at your parents and possibly taking him to BRU alone. Getting out of the house with both of us is a struggle, I am SOOO not ready to do it alone with them because I feel like I'd panic if they started crying while I was driving. Luckily one doesn't wake the other BUT it just so happens that they both get fussy at similar times lol. Little internal clocks are on point.
LizInFL I was sooo afraid of that first (and honestly second and third and fourth) PP BMs. Now I'm an old pro ;-) I can't imagine 10 days without one and how painful that had to be... Yikes.
goldenlove3 I am so freaking impressed at how much you're doing with C, especially spending the night at your parents and possibly taking him to BRU alone. Getting out of the house with both of us is a struggle, I am SOOO not ready to do it alone with them because I feel like I'd panic if they started crying while I was driving. Luckily one doesn't wake the other BUT it just so happens that they both get fussy at similar times lol. Little internal clocks are on point.
This is going to be my first time driving with him alone. I'm a little scared honestly but I have a ped appointment on Monday so I kind of have to do it alone anyway. I'm actually worried about carrying his car seat since H was doing it the whole time. It might end up being a disaster and I might not leave the house again lol. But at least I'll get to enjoy the last nice day before the cold stays for good.
I am a little concerned/irritated by the photographer we hired for the newborn photos. We booked with her over the summer and paid a deposit. She does gorgeous work, had excellent reviews, is on Wedding Wire and Style Me Pretty, etc (I say all this to indicate that she is a reputable professional...not just someone doing this as a part-time hobby).
I emailed her Saturday to let her know that C had been born and we were ready to set a date. She replied Monday morning (which is fine...this is "wedding season" here so I know weekends are slammed for photographers), and I emailed right back, saying Yep, great, let's set a date. And I have heard...:crickets: since.
I just called and left a voicemail. I'm sure she'll think I'm a nag but honestly, I feel like she's dropped the ball? I mean, aren't newborn photos typically taken within a few weeks of the baby being born? I know this is a busy time of year for photographers, b/n weddings, family shots for holiday cards, etc. but still...
Am I being a psycho/unreasonable? At what point do I look for someone else? Problem is, I don't know how I'd find someone at this late date b/c it IS such a busy time of year. I'm starting to get panicky, and I feel like I have zero control over all this!
eta: whoa, that is long. Sorry. I guess this is a vent/stream-of-conciousness/question all in one!
Post by ClassyMrsA on Nov 18, 2016 10:09:46 GMT -5
Everyone else has said it, but I agree with the you can't spoil a newborn. kleigh I held Lillian for basically 2 weeks straight and then during the day most of the time for 2 months. So far I've definitely held Lilah less, but I still hold her a lot of the time when I'm not eating or doing stuff with Lillian. In fact, I'm currently watching Food Network with Lillian next to me and holding Lilah while she naps.
Re going out with 2... can't do it right now. Lol. I'm so glad DH is around so we can go do things. When he goes back to work I suspect Lilah will be in the swing and bouncy chair a lot more at home and it'll take me about 1,000 years to go out with them.
I woke up feeling like maybe I'm getting a cold. I hope it's nothing. I'd be so freaked out to be sick and have a newborn. My throat doesn't feel scratchy like it did at 5:30, but I am not convinced that I'm ok. I expect Lillian to get sick, but not me!
DH is taking Lillian to a tour of a local donut place this morning and then we might go look for a tree this afternoon if it's not raining. We bought a tree (an anacacho orchid tree) for Lillian when she was born so we are going to get one for Lilah. We are thinking maybe a mountain laurel or red bud.
Post by jubilantsquirrel on Nov 18, 2016 10:23:06 GMT -5
+345664634 to you can't spoil a newborn. I held DS at every opportunity when he was a newborn and that kid couldn't be anymore independent at 2.5 years old.
LizInFL, it's my understanding that it's best to take newborn pictures when they're 2 weeks old or less. Our photographer last time told us it's because they're less alert at that age and it just makes everything a lot easier if they sleep through most of it.
+345664634 to you can't spoil a newborn. I held DS at every opportunity when he was a newborn and that kid couldn't be anymore independent at 2.5 years old.
LizInFL, it's my understanding that it's best to take newborn pictures when they're 2 weeks old or less. Our photographer last time told us it's because they're less alert at that age and it just makes everything a lot easier if they sleep through most of it.
Right, that's what I was thinking...bc they're still in that sleepy/poseable phase. Argh. I am so aggravated by this (I know it's a FWP but still...)
Post by jubilantsquirrel on Nov 18, 2016 10:30:24 GMT -5
I'm so happy it's Friday. I really hope this is my last Friday of work and that I'll have a baby sometime next week. I'm so freaking uncomfortable at this point. I'm also super gassy. I don't remember the last time I've had gas this bad. Ugh. I just need to sleep until this baby decides he's ready to be born.
Post by goldenlove3 on Nov 18, 2016 10:30:28 GMT -5
LizInFL I've heard the same. Most newborn photographers I looked at said to do it in the first 2 weeks because they're more sleepy and flexible. Your photographer should have known it was wedding season when you booked her so I don't know why she would be responding that way. I'd be annoyed. Maybe give her the weekend to set a date and start looking for someone else just in case.
+345664634 to you can't spoil a newborn. I held DS at every opportunity when he was a newborn and that kid couldn't be anymore independent at 2.5 years old.
LizInFL , it's my understanding that it's best to take newborn pictures when they're 2 weeks old or less. Our photographer last time told us it's because they're less alert at that age and it just makes everything a lot easier if they sleep through most of it.
Right, that's what I was thinking...bc they're still in that sleepy/poseable phase. Argh. I am so aggravated by this (I know it's a FWP but still...)
I would be annoyed too, newborn pictures aren't exactly cheap and I would be frustrated that she's not responding in a timely fashion. She knew this was her busy season when you booked her over the summer, so she should be more prepared for this, IMO.
LizInFL, I don't think you are over-reacting especially since you put a deposit down. I'd be frustrated too. I think a lot of newborn pics are done by 1 or 2 weeks of age but several ladies have already mentioned they won't be doing pictures until their babies are a bit older. I don't think I'd look for a new photographer just yet maybe give her the weekend.
I'm in a great mood today. Had an OB appointment yesterday and have dilated to 3-4. She's very hopeful that I'll have my baby this weekend. Today is also my last day of work!!! I can't wait to be done and snuggling this baby.
Post by sophiegrace on Nov 18, 2016 11:09:07 GMT -5
My replacement at work broke a very expensive tool yesterday during surgery. There's a case tomorrow that can't be rescheduled. If everyone could please send me some good napping vibes for tomorrow I'd appreciate it. Looks like baby's first day of work is coming earlier than expected.
My replacement at work broke a very expensive tool yesterday during surgery. There's a case tomorrow that can't be rescheduled. If everyone could please send me some good napping vibes for tomorrow I'd appreciate it. Looks like baby's first day of work is coming earlier than expected.
Wait, you have to go into work tomorrow because your replacement F'd up? Holy shit dude, I'd be beyond furious. I hope little M naps through it all and that they don't make you come back again until after your leave.
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