Gift Etiquette: How much money for 1st bday?

[ciaomama]

We're going to a 1st birthday party tomorrow and giving money as our gift. I have no clue how much to give. I've been friends with the mom for 8 years (met on TK). We're not super close, but we keep in touch and I see her about once a month at Bunco.

I would have done a poll, but didn't see that option on the app.

[shellbell]

$25?

I actually have no clue. What would you have spent on a toy/clothing?

[ciaomama]

I'm P&R because I'm going to bed.

[ciaomama]

Right after I answer Shell

shellbell that's a good question...$15-20? I feel like $15 May be cheap though

[ciaomama]

I guess I was leaning more towards $20 or $25 but didn't know if that was the norm.

[shellbell]

I feel like you could spend $15 on a thing, but when you're giving cash, you can't give $15. If I got $20-$25 from a friend for LO's birthday, I would be very happy. That sounds weird, because of course I'd be grateful for any gift. But it would be a nice gift.

[bluedot]

Jan 16, 2015 20:51:09 GMT -5 shellbell said:

I feel like you could spend $15 on a thing, but when you're giving cash, you can't give $15. If I got $20-$25 from a friend for LO's birthday, I would be very happy. That sounds weird, because of course I'd be grateful for any gift. But it would be a nice gift.

+1

[bepandnick]

Jan 16, 2015 20:58:37 GMT -5 bluedot said:

Jan 16, 2015 20:51:09 GMT -5 shellbell said:

I feel like you could spend $15 on a thing, but when you're giving cash, you can't give $15. If I got $20-$25 from a friend for LO's birthday, I would be very happy. That sounds weird, because of course I'd be grateful for any gift. But it would be a nice gift.

+1

+2

[rondackhiker]

This is why I give gifts. Because I can get something cheaper than the cash I would have to give.

[vshumway]

Thanks for posting this. I'm also going to a birthday party tomorrow. I got a gift, but spent a little more than $15 and I wasn't sure if that was sufficient. I feel like I would be happy with that amount. However, we always felt like we gave a decent amount for weddings... Until we got married and saw what everyone else gave. I don't want to get to LOs birthday and realize that we were being cheap again

[iwubrory]

I like $25 but $20 would be ok.

[ciaomama]

Jan 16, 2015 21:19:27 GMT -5 rondackhiker said:

This is why I give gifts. Because I can get something cheaper than the cash I would have to give.

This. But I asked her what to get him and she said nothing. Well played, mama but I'm giving a gift anyway.

It turns out we won't be going anyway today because DS has a fever and is a snot bucket. I'll just mail the card with money.