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[cali]

Welcome to the Dark Side CAL What’s Up Wednesday!



Your rotating weekly check in leaders:

muscari @eliida cali elliecat17

Good afternoon, loves! Welcome to Dark Side CAL What's Up Wednesday! It is posted on Wednesday every week. Come on in and let us know how you're doing. If you need anything from us between check ins, or if you get a BFP, please PM any of us.
Please, do NOT feel the need to reply to everyone else’s updates!

So, ladies…How are you doing? Please post an update including any news, thoughts or questions you may have.

NEWBIES: We are so sorry you find yourself here but are happy you have found us; welcome. Feel free to join in when you are ready! Also please check out our CAL blog which is filled with a wealth of information. Make sure to post an intro on the board, and add in an avatar and/or siggy when you can so we can recognize you more easily.

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1. How are you?
2. What is your status? (TTC, TTA, etc.)
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Anything you'd like to share!


QOTW: Do you and your SO exchange holiday gifts? If so what's on your wish list this year?

[cali]

So sorry for the late post everyone. I totally forgot this was my week! Thanks for the reminder muscari, btw, did you get my response message? It appears my replies have been getting eaten by the internet.

[muscari]

Thanks for the check-in cali ! Hope you are recovering well from your ER. I was so exited to read your updates and fert report!

AFM, in the mids of my PUPO TWW. I got a UTI due to the cath at ER, which sucked and made me feel poopy the days surrounding embryo transfer but I was rxed some antibiotics and luckily they are doing the trick. At times I have minor freak out moments about this cycle being a bust/being a complete succes and ending up with twins/being a partial succes and only one emby sticking. From the moment I saw my embabies on the big screen I just fell in love with them and the thought of loosing both or even just one of them makes my heart hurt and so sad. I have to stay realistic though.. and am trying to get through this next week as easy as I can. Luckily my new job is providing plenty of distriction. Am loving it so far!

As I wrote in the 3T/IF check-ins earlier already: These last two weeks of an IVF cycle definitely are the hardest for me.. I can do the weeks of shots, bruises, vag cams, hormones and side effects and grumphyness, getting stabbed in the vag with a huge needle, being poked and prodded and cathetered and what not. At least I was actively able to contribute. Now, I just wait... and it's hard. At times I wish I could test early but I won't. Even though I'm anxious to find out, I also want the TWW to last cause I want to enjoy the dreams that come with being PUPO and don't want them potentionally busted just yet.

[muscari]

Dec 3, 2016 10:30:34 GMT -5 cali said:

So sorry for the late post everyone. I totally forgot this was my week! Thanks for the reminder muscari , btw, did you get my response message? It appears my replies have been getting eaten by the internet.

Ahh no worries!! I did get your PM from just before (not the one you wrote on Thursday though?). You know, I have been having strange (not to mention annoying) issues with replies to PMs not getting through myself as well, though that was early last week. So odd! *hugs*

[skategirl128]

I'll drop this here...

After almost 3 years of tests, treatments and being on the bench I'm officially able to get ready to burn that sucker in January! After much discussion about my risks and what this entails I was given the go ahead to try again if we want to.

I still go in for blood work and I'll be monitored closely in the meantime.

It's so scary. I honestly never thought I'd be back in this place. I had settled that I'd be on the bench forever and the glimmer of hope I was given a few months ago brought up so many other emotions.

I'm not sure we will actually burn this bench or not. But, it's such a milestone for me to be able to even consider it. I'm sure I'll be hanging with my crazy even more now. SO is super thrilled that this is even on the table and a big part of me is too but there's another part of me that's really terrified. Nothing is guaranteed and I know that first hand.

Big hugs if you got through all that!

[skategirl128]

I'll be thinking if you muscari. Snuggle in embabies! Much love and all my good thoughts headed your way!

I forgot the QOTW we do exchange holiday gifts. I don't have anything specific on my wish list. Mostly crafting things, a couple books and some baking things are what I've told him about. He said he had an idea or two so who knows. He's a good gifter though.

[cali]

muscari, when are your betas? I resent my original PM from Thursday, did you get it this time? I hate when TCF eats my PMs

skategirl128, that is so freaking exciting!!! Even if you haven't 100% decided to burn the bench, just having it as an option is so great!! I'm so excited for you.

AFM, had ER on Thursday. They retrieved 31 eggs, 25 were mature and 23 fertilized normally. All of that has me like holy shit. I'm schedule for a day 5 embryo transfer on Tuesday. I'm going we have a lot that make it to day 5 but we won't get anymore updates until the day of transfer. Since it seems likely that we'll have at least 2 embryos on transfer day MH and I have been struggling to decide if we want to transfer 1 or 2. When we started everything I said I definitely would transfer two because I wanted the best odds of one healthy take home baby but now that it's more real I'm having real concerns about the possibility of a twin pregnancy. I just don't know what to do and MH is kind of like I'm okay with whatever you feel comfortable with (and he actually like the idea of twins). So I don't know! I'm also in the midst of finals so I've been just focusing on studying and not thinking about it. I think it will end up being a last minute decision on Tuesday when we get the final report on how many made it and how they look.

QOTW: we usually just buy something big that we both want instead of getting each other gifts. This year we're getting new carpet, which sounds boring but we need it so bad that I'm super excited!

[skategirl128]

How exciting cali!! I'm sending lots of positive thoughts your way too. Big hugs!

[addymac]

skategirl128 - I'm glad youve gotten good news and can hopefully get off the bench! You guys must be so happy!

muscari - hope the rest of this TWW goes by quickly to have wonderful news at the end of it!

cali - granted I don't know a ton about IVF, but those numbers are amazing. And I can understand your debate about 1 vs 2. That's a lot to think about and decide. Does your clinic freeze any leftover embryos? I know cost of IVF is a huge factor for a lot of people, thus making them go for 2 right away. But all my fingers and toes are crossed for good news on Tuesday.

AFM, just towards the end of a TWW and took one wondfo test but it was defective - the control line didn't even show up, so I told myself that was a sign to wait until I should be missing my period. So I am just sitting and waiting. And have this awful cough that I keep getting coughing attacks with that end with me throwing up bc I'm coughing so much. Robitussin isn't helping as much as I'd like

QOTW: in the past we've gotten each other at least one surprise gift and some other gifts we each wanted. But this year we are trying to save money bc we will be looking to buy a place if we stay here for residency or we have to spend a ton moving to another state, so we are going easy on gifts this year. One gift for each of us and we already got them and we each know about them. Ah, being a grown up sucks.

[cali]

addymac, thank you! How many dpo are you?

[addymac]

Dec 4, 2016 17:00:51 GMT -5 cali said:

addymac, thank you! How many dpo are you?

13dpo - my LP varies each cycle from 12-14 and FF says this one should be 14 so I'm just gonna sit and wait til tomorrow bc I'm scared it's a no. We will see...

[cali]

addymac, I get that. Although I think it's safe to test at 13dpo, I totally get the fear of seeing a negative.

[4furrypaws]

skategirl128 whhhhhhhaaaattttt!!!!!!!!?!?!?!
Omgeeee!!!! This is freaking fantastic news sweets!!!!!!! Whatever you guys decide to do we are all here with you! Xoxoxo

cali holy shit balls!!!!! 23 fertilized!!!!!!!!!! Honestly, since you have so many, I think I'd lean towards one. What does your TE say?

addymac maybe time for something stronger than OTC stuff

[cali]

4furrypaws, we haven't talked to the RE about it yet but he's pretty anti multiples so I'm pretty sure he'll say just one unless they all look shitty. I'm guessing it will depend a lot of how many are left on Tuesday and what quality they are.

[4furrypaws]

Dec 4, 2016 23:48:22 GMT -5 cali said:

4furrypaws, we haven't talked to the RE about it yet but he's pretty anti multiples so I'm pretty sure he'll say just one unless they all look shitty. I'm guessing it will depend a lot of how many are left on Tuesday and what quality they are.

FX for some strong embies hun!!!!!!! Xo

[elliecat17]

cali thanks for the check in! Don't worry too much TCF was down for a while last week. Also FX for you and all those follies!

skategirl128 YES!!!!!! That is amazing news!

muscari I have everything crossed for you my friend. Take it as easy as you can, and I'm glad you are really enjoying your new job!

addymac FX for you as well! I'm sorry you aren't feeling good. Coughing like that is no fun at all.

AFM: Sitting in the TWW. Won't test until AF is due, which is 7 days.

NCALR: I'm so swamped with school. I have tones to grade before the end of the semester next week, and I have my own 3 finals to study for.

QOTW: Do you and your SO exchange holiday gifts? If so what's on your wish list this year? We do exchange gifts. We tend to just get things to surprise the other although H has dropped a couple of hints about this or that. I don't really want anything, except to save up our money. I really want to try a full on medicated cycle because I am starting to feel hopeless about this whole natural trying.