New emojis on iPhone OS update

[CurlySu717]

There's a pregnant woman emoji.

I'm not coping all that well lately and it just rubbed me the wrong way.  

Their family emojis feature families with 2 dad and 2 moms, and single parents, but nothing you could say represents an adoptive family.

Who can I write to about this??

...I guess it's a stupid thing to be upset about, or maybe I'm being oversensitive, but I've barely got my toes in the water of the adoption swimming pool and I'm already blown away at how infrequently adoption is recognized as an acceptable way to build a family.  

[spooko]

Why don't you consider the family ones as inclusive of adoption?

[ceejay]

Dec 14, 2016 11:40:30 GMT -5 spooko said:

Why don't you consider the family ones as inclusive of adoption?

I'm thinking it's because you have to make everyone in the family ones the same race. This has always bugged me a bit, but I understand that it would be tricky/impossible to include every variation of race combinations in emojis.

[spooko]

But then that's a blended family issue, IMO, not just specific to adoption. FWIW, my adopted kid looks more like me than my bio one. IME, there are so many adoption-based problems that it's better for my health to not look for additional ones.

Just challenging the OP's perception that it's adoption-exclusory.

[CurlySu717]

spooko, a totally valid challenge! Like I said, I'm a little fragile and hypersensitive these days.

ceejay, that's part of what irked me about it.

I guess I had more of a vision of something representing the adoptive triad?

[pinkie]

I'm sorry you are having a tough time - I totally see why anything pregnancy related bothers you. It used to really bother me.

Where are you in the process? Sorry I can't remember. I won't pretend to think my experience applies to everyone or even anyone else but once we were placed with our oldest son, I no longer had any pregnancy or baby related pains. but I will never forget how hard that phase of my life was.

[spooko]

I haven't struggled with infertility so I hope I wasn't insensitive. I'm just in my own holiday season drama and challenging myself to find the good over the bad. Thought I'd frame that reference first.

[redandblue]

Dec 14, 2016 13:50:47 GMT -5 pinkie said:

I'm sorry you are having a tough time - I totally see why anything pregnancy related bothers you. It used to really bother me.

Where are you in the process? Sorry I can't remember. I won't pretend to think my experience applies to everyone or even anyone else but once we were placed with our oldest son, I no longer had any pregnancy or baby related pains. but I will never forget how hard that phase of my life was.

All of this. I completely understand the sensitivity. (I will preface that I don't really use too many emojis) And I also understand some of what spooko is trying to get at in terms of what a family looks like. I guess we will never truly be able to have something represents all family make ups. But the inter-racial family make up would not be to just adoption. It's more of a cultural make up. I do like the idea of a triad, but again it might be difficult to represent that. CurlySu717 I understand wanting/needing a cause to fight for right now. Contact whoever you can and get a triad emoji!

[pinkie]

Dec 14, 2016 14:04:37 GMT -5 spooko said:

I haven't struggled with infertility so I hope I wasn't insensitive. I'm just in my own holiday season drama and challenging myself to find the good over the bad. Thought I'd frame that reference first.

I didn't think you sounded insensitive at all.