So. My sister's divorce is finally all but signed by the judge. Their house sold, so she's getting the keys to her new apt today and has to be out of the house this weekend. I had offered to help her pack some stuff up prior to the move (because I know my sister and know she hasn't done ANYTHING in the weeks/days leading up to this-I was right, btw), so I went over there last night when H got home from work and stayed about 3 hours. That left H, solo, to do dinner and both bed/bath times, something he's rarely done with just DS1, let alone the both of them.
Confession: I (mostly) offered to help my sister because I knew it would leave H in this position.
When I got home, there were two conversations that went like this... H: "Yeah, he (DS2) was chill right until I was about to sit down for my dinner." Me: "Oh yeah? That sounds about right. I guess be glad you made it through making dinner. I would rather have to wait to eat then deal with DS1 also melting down because he's hungry and you can't make his food." H: "Yeah....So then he did his usual evening fussing the rest of the night. I cut DS1's bath time pretty short because he was crying. During his bedtime routine I pretty much alternated between holding DS2 and bouncing him in his seat with mh foot." Me: "Ah. Yeah that sucks. It's hard to balance that. H: "....yeah" (Later, in bed) H: "So, thanks for all that you do..." Me: "Oh. Haha. It's no big deal, really. I just do it."
Post by ksyknelvr73 on Dec 16, 2016 5:55:53 GMT -5
I know it's a fluke, but DD slept from from 8pm-5:30am! I will take these random long sleeping nights whenever I can get them. Anyway, I am about to put her back down and I think I will just go ahead and take a shower and get ready for the day before the boys wake up too. It would be nice to get ready in peace and quiet.
My boss texted me yesterday too about my performance review...we have to do it over the phone later this morning. I'm a little nervous. I don't think I have a reason to be but it just feels weird after not being there for 2 months.
We are up right now but I think I can go back to bed soon. I sleep so much sounder now that she is in her own room but it's no fun when she doesn't "settle" after nursing and needs a paci. The minute she starts to doze off the paci slips out and she wakes back up. I'm sitting in her room and I've replugged her twice now. I think she is out now I'm going to bed, too bad DH's alarm is going to go off in 30 min!!
britta how do you feel about their divorce? I don't know many people my age that are divorced or separated. I just found out a friend I went to school with is getting divorced and it was really shocking to me. I guess since I've only been married a few years it's a reality check to me that not all marriages work out
britta I'm very impressed your H thanked you! I'm still waiting for my H to "get it." I think I need to go away for a weekend or a week for him to understand.
ksyknelvr73 Yay for good sleep! And good luck on the review--always nerve wracking even if you know you do good work.
PDQ--My MIL is here for the weekend so we can go to my H's work party this weekend. I'm happy for that but she talks nonstop. NONSTOP. My H doesn't talk to her much, so she talks to me. She is a great person though.
DS2 woke up at 4:30 to eat and went back down around 4:50 (aside from his fussing and moving which kept me awake for an hour). He's still sleeping now which is great.
Another good night out of DS. Seven hours then two. Confession is that he was fussy after about an hour twenty after 6am so I plopped him in the swing cause I'm just not awake enough yet.
DH is home tomorrow!!! My MIL is also getting in, but that is alright. I miss having adult company and my sister doesn't always count if she's in one of her moods.
Post by smallpotato on Dec 16, 2016 8:10:00 GMT -5
britta, love it. It's nice when they acknowledge how hard it is ksyknelvr73, good luck with your performance review!
We were back to our regular wake ups last night, 2 and 5. Our tree is up, and MH is hopefully going to put lights on it today so we can decorate tomorrow. I'm getting a haircut this afternoon. Tonight we're dropping N off at his school for a date night. We're taking G with us to get dinner and maybe shop for stocking stuffers.
britta I wish there was a true love it button for that convo with your DH!! I'm not usually so gracious haha. Good luck today ksyknelvr73! Have a nice date night smallpotato! We had a pretty good night. It is frigid today so I don't think I'm venturing anywhere with the kids. But my mom is coming later and I think im gonna run to go get some shopping done. I'm happy for Christmas and family and even two shorter DH work weeks.
H has a half day today and then is on Christmas Break for 2 weeks. Our stove is supposed to come today. I want to make some molasses cookies this weekend so I have to see what I need to buy for that. HL is sleeping next to me. I should put her down to get AG breakfast.
Post by vavavictoria on Dec 16, 2016 9:16:18 GMT -5
#2 slept like crap last night but was nice enough to be asleep when #1 had to get up so it allowed me to get her dressed and take her to school and H stayed home with #2. I don't get to take V to daycare very often now and she seemed to enjoy having me take her.
Plans today are brunch out while the cleaners are here. Taking the dog back to the vet to be reevaluated for her staph infection (what I had thought was ringworm). I'm a Cheap ass and it annoys the crap out of me to take the dog back when I think she is fine but I feel too guilty to just say no. And maybe getting a run in somewhere. I was going to go early but it's misting and C is in a decent mood and I like to save my runs for crabby times when she won't sleep.
Good luck with your performance eval ksyknelvr73!! All the wine vibes for your MIL situation iwantbacon. That would give me so much anxiety, nice person or not. macaronmama glad YH is coming home! @snuff9861 sorry about the shit show bedtime.
#humblebrag alert: DH is really good about thanking me quite often, actually. But there's not a fine line between solo parenting with big tasks like bedtime and having help from someone, there is, in fact, a Great Wall of China. He definitely got to appreciate that for the first time. I'm happy he expresses his appreciation, but this time felt different. 😉
danizee ha. Well that's a loaded question. The situation is fairly complicated; *details poofed*
So. I have a lot of different feels about all of it. I know a lot of people who are divorced, and am a child of divorced parents, but it really takes on a different meaning being married with children myself now. I told MH that helping her pack last night was very weird, like there was a death in the family or something. I overheard her explaining to my nephew why I was taking pictures off the walls and it broke my heart. I get angry when she alludes to her boyfriend. I'm relieved sometimes because her XH isn't a great person to start with. There are lots of feelz.
Post by ksyknelvr73 on Dec 16, 2016 10:40:12 GMT -5
britta your sister reminds me of my sister...minus the kids. Similar stories aside from that. She was married for a whopping 8 months. It's taken me quite a while to finally be okay with all of it.
ksyknelvr73 I imagine I'll be the same way. I feel like I need a therapist to deal with it! Probably the emotions talking, since I've been pregnant or PP for the whole ordeal.
ksyknelvr73 I imagine I'll be the same way. I feel like I need a therapist to deal with it! Probably the emotions talking, since I've been pregnant or PP for the whole ordeal.
That was me as well. I was pregnant and had DS1 in the midst of this. Great timing!
Today is my company holiday party/lunch at my favorite restaurant. It starts in an hour, but two of us are leaving in a few minutes because we are bringing a bunch of stuff and need to make sure it's all in there and set up for when the rest of the crew gets there. Yah for delicious food and booze!
britta that is rough and I can see how it would be difficult to know how to feel. I'm sure she appreciated you being there for her though. I agree, the idea of divorce is a lot bigger of a thing when you have a family!
Post by macaronmama on Dec 16, 2016 16:43:05 GMT -5
Baby is loving the swing today and I am the most grateful mom for it. Also grateful for my friend coming to keep my sane this afternoon with Thai food in tow. Mmm.
Curled up with NCIS on Netflix and getting my ducks in a row with a couple more presents wrapped. Feel like I should have gotten my MIL one more gift...
macaronmama Ophelia just started preferring swing naps too and I love it.
Not much news here. Finally feel more like myself after getting the news about my Mom this week. She's still waiting for results on all her tests and biopsies.
My toddler is talking a mile a minute in her high pitched little voice. She almost sounds like a chipmunk.
Well it was as I told DH it would happen. DS1 did not participate in any part of the Christmas pageant and refused to even just carry the costume down the aisle and sit with me on the steps. Nothing. Would do nothing. Which I told H yesterday that and I quote "there is a 100% chance he will not participate." H was still giving it 50/50. Know your child dude.
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