Another Lurking Coming Out

[beachgrl0127]

Hi Ladies,
I am a long time on and off creepy lurker wanting to join in and I figure this is my last chance.  I tried so many times to do an intro but just chickened out, I even outed myself an a randoms thread a few days ago, so here it goes.

• My husband, F14 DD, and I live in South Florida. I'm at SAHM (former cater) he is in IT and software development.
• We also have twin DSs that were stillborn in 2012 at 20 weeks due to incompetent cervix. This was the biggest reason I didn't join from the start.
• I love: Target, Amazon, cookie butter, white wine, and holidays.
• Most of all I love lists.

I hope to start posting more and stop being creepy if you guys will have me.  If you have any questions about me ask away.

[bepandnick]

Hello and welcome! I'm so sorry for your loss.

What kind of events were your favorite to cater?

[hammysmommy]

Hello there!

[beachgrl0127]

I loved catering big parties (over 250 people) of plated meals, such a rush to get every plate out at the same time all looking exactly the same. But my favorite was Sunday brunch at the polo club, unlimited budget and pretty much the same audience every week so there was lots of creativity.

[beachgrl0127]

Jan 16, 2015 22:33:04 GMT -5 @unicornofthesea said:

Hi there. I'm so sorry for your losses.

DH is also in the IT field. Whenever he talks about work my eyes start to glaze over ?

Jan 16, 2015 22:48:51 GMT -5 beachgrl0127 said:

DH always wants to tell me about work and has to dumb it down for me to listen. How are the computers in your house? He will fix everyone but ours :confused:

[beachgrl0127]

Hmm... looks like I need to learn how to quote.

[jammersc]

Hi there!

[kimmerz424]

So sorry for your losses, welcome from another lurker.

[bluedot]

Hi, so sorry for your losses. Welcome.

[junebugz1]

Hello, welcome! So sorry for your losses.

[chiawombat]

I'm so sorry for your loss, but am glad you joined us.

DH used to live in the Treasure Coast! His mom is still there. South Florida is lovely... Especially, probably right now.

[beachgrl0127]

We are getting a cold front so temps in the mid 70's. It is wonderful!

[jackiep1023]

Welcome! Sorry for your losses. Sounds like we have a few things in common- I work in IT, similar to YH, except I work part time, so am also sort of SAHM. We had a 20 week loss (DD) in 2011 due to incompetent cervix.

[beachgrl0127]

Thank you all for your condolences. Most people irl make awkward commments but I figured there wouldn't be any of that here from my time lurking so I felt comfortable sharing.

[beachgrl0127]

Jan 17, 2015 0:40:59 GMT -5 jackiep1023 said:

Welcome! Sorry for your losses. Sounds like we have a few things in common- I work in IT, similar to YH, except I work part time, so am also sort of SAHM. We had a 20 week loss (DD) in 2011 due to incompetent cervix.

So sorry for your loss. I hope you dont mind me asking but did you have a preventive cerclage for your F14 baby?
I have a transadbominal cerclage which is permanent and requires a c-section.

[jackiep1023]

Jan 17, 2015 0:47:16 GMT -5 beachgrl0127 said:

Jan 17, 2015 0:40:59 GMT -5 jackiep1023 said:

Welcome! Sorry for your losses. Sounds like we have a few things in common- I work in IT, similar to YH, except I work part time, so am also sort of SAHM. We had a 20 week loss (DD) in 2011 due to incompetent cervix.

So sorry for your loss. I hope you dont mind me asking but did you have a preventive cerclage for your F14 baby?
I have a transadbominal cerclage which is permanent and requires a c-section.

I had a cerclage placed at 15w (on Aug 2-funny I can still remember that date!) I did MBR, Makena, and procardia. I considered the TAC, but wanted to try the regular cerclage first. My mom also had IC, and had 5 successful pregnancies (each with a regular cerclage, and each c-section) between 1984 and 1998. Overall, it went well for us, and I would do it again!

[squirm]

Welcome! So sorry for your losses.

[ciaomama]

Hi and welcome! I'm so sorry for your losses.

[caer]

Welcome! I'm so sorry for your loss.
My mom owns part of a catering company and I've worked for her many times. It's a tough job but can be a lot of fun too.

[carseat]

Jan 17, 2015 0:41:50 GMT -5 beachgrl0127 said:

Thank you all for your condolences. Most people irl make awkward commments but I figured there wouldn't be any of that here from my time lurking so I felt comfortable sharing.

(((hugs))) I'm so sorry for your loss. Please feel free to talk about it here any time you need to, okay? I feel you - people often have a hard time knowing how to respond when someone has been through this kind of loss, but there are a lot of us here who have been through something similar, and those who haven't on this board have been really amazing and loving. I've had quite a few losses, including one at 15 weeks in 2012. A lot of the women on this board have been an incredible support for me over the years. This is a safe place to open up when you need to. ♥

Welcome!

[beachgrl0127]

Jan 17, 2015 5:31:06 GMT -5 Dreaming said:

Welcome! I'm sorry for your losses.

What was your most recent Amazon purchase?

Minnie mouse straw for DD birthday party

And bath toy holder

[beachgrl0127]

Jan 17, 2015 6:16:16 GMT -5 caer said:

Welcome! I'm so sorry for your loss.
My mom owns part of a catering company and I've worked for her many times. It's a tough job but can be a lot of fun too.

The hours were terrible especially down here, pretty much all of the business is in the winter.

[beachgrl0127]

Jan 17, 2015 0:56:31 GMT -5 jackiep1023 said:

Jan 17, 2015 0:47:16 GMT -5 beachgrl0127 said:

So sorry for your loss. I hope you dont mind me asking but did you have a preventive cerclage for your F14 baby?
I have a transadbominal cerclage which is permanent and requires a c-section.

I had a cerclage placed at 15w (on Aug 2-funny I can still remember that date!) I did MBR, Makena, and procardia. I considered the TAC, but wanted to try the regular cerclage first. My mom also had IC, and had 5 successful pregnancies (each with a regular cerclage, and each c-section) between 1984 and 1998. Overall, it went well for us, and I would do it again!

I think I will always wonder if I could have gotten away with a regular cerclage. I had one with the twins that was deemed successful after two weeks and then it failed. The deciding reason to get the TAC was the possibility of twins. Although not very likely to happen again my OB is pretty sure that I ovulate two eggs sometimes based on ultrasounds for retained placenta.

[beachgrl0127]

Dreaming www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00A4YA14C#
Eta: the bag is huge and it works great. Our tile walls are slightly textured so no suction cups.

[jackiep1023]

Jan 17, 2015 7:37:47 GMT -5 beachgrl0127 said:

Jan 17, 2015 0:56:31 GMT -5 jackiep1023 said:

I had a cerclage placed at 15w (on Aug 2-funny I can still remember that date!) I did MBR, Makena, and procardia. I considered the TAC, but wanted to try the regular cerclage first. My mom also had IC, and had 5 successful pregnancies (each with a regular cerclage, and each c-section) between 1984 and 1998. Overall, it went well for us, and I would do it again!

I think I will always wonder if I could have gotten away with a regular cerclage. I had one with the twins that was deemed successful after two weeks and then it failed. The deciding reason to get the TAC was the possibility of twins. Although not very likely to happen again my OB is pretty sure that I ovulate two eggs sometimes based on ultrasounds for retained placenta.

I'm pretty sure that in your situation, I would have done the exact same thing! I actually had a cerclage attempted with my first, but while they were trying to put it in, my water was accidentally broken, so they couldn't continue.

[tenniscourt]

I'm so sorry about your losses. Welcome!