FFFHC (Flame Free Friday Holiday Confessions) 12/23

[lgsdesigner]

Let's do this.

[lgsdesigner]

I have two. One not holiday related and one that is.

1) I found out my second cousin is a famous porn star. I had no idea. My sister told me her stage name, and I looked her up to see if it was true which I shouldn't have done. So basically-- I saw my second cousin naked and getting banged by two dudes at once. Cannot erase the visual!

2) On Christmas Eve every year we go to my mom's for dinner. I confess I drink more than I should to get through because religion or politics always comes up and I just can't deal.

[robotpcr]

Dec 23, 2016 11:35:38 GMT -5 bwisco123 said:

Annnnd just remembered.

H has been offered the chance to possibly travel for his job (just for a couple of days). This is very rare as he is not in a position that usually goes anywhere (warehouse employee).

He's all wishy washy about going but I really WANT him to go.

Partially because I want to have a little break. Partially because it will be good for him.

And partially because sometimes I'm not sure if we're gonna make it. And it'd be for me to see how it would be on my own.

Aw. Hugs.

[marygracerich]

I am sorry you feel that way bwisco123 😞I have noticed the past few weeks that you seem to be having some trouble with him. I hope it's just a phase for you guys and you can work it out. If he gets the travel time, the break could help.

[smilesp]

I'm sorry you are feeling that way bwisco123 but I think it's good that you can be so open about it. Honestly, some of the things you post that your DH does are really shocking to me. I hope things work out for you and C for the best, whatever that may be. You are strong and you and your daughter will be fine.

[laur1020]

bwisco123 I know that feeling all too well. From your posts over the last few weeks it does seem like the break could do some good. I admit that when I've read your posts, I've thought to myself how much your H sounds similar to mine. We are actually getting a divorce, which has been a long time coming. Hugs, lady. I know I'm a stranger, but if you ever need to talk, I'm here.

[laur1020]

Dec 23, 2016 17:11:13 GMT -5 bwisco123 said:

Dec 23, 2016 17:08:28 GMT -5 laur1020 said:

bwisco123 I know that feeling all too well. From your posts over the last few weeks it does seem like the break could do some good. I admit that when I've read your posts, I've thought to myself how much your H sounds similar to mine. We are actually getting a divorce, which has been a long time coming. Hugs, lady. I know I'm a stranger, but if you ever need to talk, I'm here.

Thank you.

I guess I just hoped that with C, he would find a reason to want to be better and don better.

The selfish part of me is honestly one of the main reasons I've stayed. I just don't want to lose any time with C. I don't want to 'share' my time with her. Which I know is a terrible reason to stay but I get why people do.

I totally get it. That's one of the reasons I've drug out our separation for so long. That, and for my son's well being as well. My H is like an 8year old and is so careless and clueless I don't trust him with my son.

[laur1020]

I have a confession! My H and I are divorcing and I can't stand to be in his presence, but DS and I are here celebrating Christmas (the joy!). I bought H a gift from DS and H bought me one from DS. Well, I wanted to be prepared with my reaction in case the gift is lame, so I peeked in the bag and saw my gift!!

[laur1020]

Dec 23, 2016 17:53:18 GMT -5 thirdtimemomma said:

Dec 23, 2016 17:29:59 GMT -5 laur1020 said:

I have a confession! My H and I are divorcing and I can't stand to be in his presence, but DS and I are here celebrating Christmas (the joy!). I bought H a gift from DS and H bought me one from DS. Well, I wanted to be prepared with my reaction in case the gift is lame, so I peeked in the bag and saw my gift!!

And do you like it?

It's an Alex and Ani "mom" bracelet. It's cute, but not really my style. I'll wear it though.

[elephantastic]

Dec 23, 2016 18:17:43 GMT -5 bwisco123 said:

Dec 23, 2016 17:55:23 GMT -5 thirdtimemomma said:

bwisco123, I haven't been keeping up here but have you tried counseling? Does your husband know how serious it is?

I know it would be hard to share your time but you need to take care of yourself to be a good mom to C

We haven't tried counseling, no.

He's usually 'don't want to' when it comes to counseling. We've had some very serious talks so I he knows and I know he feels it too.

We've been together for 10+ years so part of it is that we both want it to work, it's just a matter of putting in the effort which he doesn't usually do. And when he does, it's short lived. 😕

Im kind of taking things as they come right now. Doing what I can and hoping he'll do the same BUT realizing that may not happen.

Hugs. I honestly sometimes fantasize about living by myself. I love my H a lot and he is a good man but I am kind of a loner by nature and he is very needs attention kind of guy.
Have you thought about doing some solo counseling? #1 it could help you figure some things out and #2 it may show your H that you're really really serious and might make him try to get involved

[elephantastic]

Dec 23, 2016 20:49:03 GMT -5 bwisco123 said:

elephantastic I have thought about that. Just need to try and figure out what my insurance would cover.

Do you have it thru the school system? Usually there is some sort of counseling covered. FX.

[hotcoconuts82]

Dec 24, 2016 8:20:18 GMT -5 McBgg21 said:

I have two late ones-

We didn't bring M to see Santa this year or last year. Oops.

We lost our tree topper and didn't get around to getting a new one. We have an Adam West's Batman bobble head rigged to the top of the tree instead 😂.

My husband is like mr. Christmas. Both of those things would make his head explode.

[robotpcr]

My FFFC on Saturday. I like celebrating Xmas with DH's family but I'm so glad it's not my holiday and that I don't have to take any sort of responsibility for celebrating it because it seems like a lot of work. I am way too lazy to deal with a tree and Santa photos and everything.

[elephantastic]

My UO is that unless my kid asks me to go see Santa, we won't. I don't think it's cute to see pics of kids looking terrified/upset sitting on some strangers lap. (No offense to anyone here, just nms.) I have nothing against it when a kid is excited and wants to go. I suspect E will at some point but if not, I won't make her.

[CatLady]

I hate buying gifts for people.

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Dec 25, 2016 16:24:21 GMT -5 CatLady said:

I hate buying gifts for people.

Me too.